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To make no further effort to deliver her package?

167 replies

Heyduggeefordays · 21/12/2019 17:33

Me and DP do not accept parcels or deliveries for the next door neighbours as they never bloody collect it. DM didn’t know and took one for them yesterday. Big heavy box now cluttering up half my hallway.

DP knocked a few times to deliver it and got no answer even though they were clearly in. Needed them to collect it as we are leaving tomorrow and are gone over Xmas.

Heard her coming in talking on the phone about how she doesn’t have to worry about hiding presents from her son. She leaving deliveries with neighbours and she’ll pick them up on the Xmas eve.

By the time i’d got down the stairs she’d already gone in and yet again isn’t answering the door.

WIBU to leave a note tomorrow before we leave saying that she won’t be able to get it now to after Xmas as she doesn’t answer her door?

OP posts:
Whatsnewpussyhat · 21/12/2019 19:26

Could you chuck it over the back fence/wall?

CodenameVillanelle · 21/12/2019 19:28

Go and leave it on the doorstep and knock.

Contractbother · 21/12/2019 19:29

That's cheeky but not fair on her dc to miss out. Note through the letterbox that you're leaving the box on the doorstep if she doesn't collect by the end of the day.

Waveysnail · 21/12/2019 19:30

If your mother signed for it wouldnt your mum be legally responsible for it and replacing if gets stolen? So I wouldn't go dumping it on the doorstep.

I would pit note through door and say your leaving at 6am tomorrow morning and wont be back until after new year then watch the panic

xlkhs · 21/12/2019 19:30

she sounds so selfish and entitled
I think you did the right thing to put a note through

Newmumma83 · 21/12/2019 19:30

Bet she comes round sharpish ... for the sake of the kids Christmas I would do the note but refuse all further packages 📦

Dazedandconfused10 · 21/12/2019 19:32

I wouldn't even bother with a note. You have tried to deliver it. Not your problem.

gamerchick · 21/12/2019 19:33

I wouldnt post a note, just don't advertise you're going away.

Fuck her.

ConstanceL · 21/12/2019 19:34

It's probably not a good idea in an area vulnerable to crime to tell someone you don't know that you are going away!

lauryloo · 21/12/2019 19:35

You've tried. Go away as planned and sod her if she hasn't bothered collecting

flouncyfanny · 21/12/2019 19:40

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sue51 · 21/12/2019 19:41

I would try to deliver it one more time. If she doesn't answer the door then you've done your best. I would not advertise the fact that my house is unoccupied.

AlwaysCheddar · 21/12/2019 19:41

I wouldn’t leave them a note.

DisgruntledGuineaPig · 21/12/2019 19:43

I'd go round, if she doesn't answer, leave it on the doorstep. It might get nicked, but she took that risk.

Dont advertise you are going away. Not worth it.

Drum2018 · 21/12/2019 19:43

That's cheeky but not fair on her dc to miss out.

Are you having a laugh? It's not ops responsibility to make sure this CFs kid gets a present on time.

OP do not alert the bitch to the fact you are going away. If you wish to leave a note if she's out then leave one stating "Dh knocked while you were in the house - unsure why you didn't answer. Please collect your parcel asap" If she hasn't collected it before you leave then tough shit.

However if you know she's home then you should hammer her door until she answers. You could always leave the parcel and scream in her letter box that it's at the door, then walk away. If your mother doesn't live with you then you can deny having seen the parcel at all as it wasn't singed for by anyone who lives at your address.

troutknickers · 21/12/2019 19:44

Yes that's true I wouldn't send a note, too many people I know have been burgled on Xmas day/very close to Xmas day

troutknickers · 21/12/2019 19:44

All she would need to do is whinge to someone that you're not there over Xmas and who knows where that info could end up

londonrach · 21/12/2019 19:45

Just go away...shes abit stupid if she thinks people be in from now onwards as in our road 50% go away 50% there

Penners99 · 21/12/2019 19:46

Say nowt. Go away as planned. She can get to fuck!

CalleighDoodle · 21/12/2019 19:48

Oh wow. No note. Just go

SantaBeckett · 21/12/2019 19:55

I would take great pleasure in fling it over he back garden wall if you can.
If not as PP have said knock on the door one more time with your foot if necessary , then put a note through the letter box saying that the parcel is on the door step , I would try to conceal a bit so it doesnt get nicked , and so she thinks it has been nicked .
Put the note on a large bit of paper so she can not claim she didnt see it

DinoSn0re · 21/12/2019 19:56

I’d maybe knock one more time as her final chance but if she didn’t bother answering again I definitely wouldn’t bother leaving a note. It’s on her if her DC misses out, not you.

LittleOne61 · 21/12/2019 19:56

Think I'd just keep knocking and ringing the door bell repeatedly until she answers. How bloody cheeky!!! a note is much more civilised - well done!

Doilooklikeatourist · 21/12/2019 19:56

Just go away , she knows where the parcel is and should have collected it straight away
Not your problem

windycuntryside · 21/12/2019 20:01

You can’t leave it on the door step your mother signed for it. The courier company has that in writing. I’d leave her a note saying if it’s not collected you will return to sender.