My friend is a very sweet woman and we get on incredibly well, we have very similar backgrounds, professions and tastes/hobbies. But I am at the point of finding her so exhausting.
She is constantly in some kind of dating drama and has to analyse it to the nth degree.
For instance she has had a few dates with a few guys from tinder over the last and nothing much has come from them (probably because she hasn’t dealt with the break up of her marriage 3 years ago). A few have lead to at most a third or fourth date and some texting. I understand the disappointment but it has got to the point where she is referring to these as “break ups”, “destroying” and “heartbreak”. She takes to her bed for days on end.
She wants to talk about it all constantly, she will text me about it with in depth analysis and asking for advice all day long. I give her well thought out advice and she just ignores it or takes offence - where there is none to take.
She is taking weeks off work to “mourn her heartbreak” and saying some people not calling her back “is like the death of a loved one” (just what I need to hear with a loved one in a hospice).
We recently went out in a big group to celebrate us all achieving something professionally. She spent the entire evening moaning about a guy that she had met twice who had decided he wasn’t in a good place to date as he was still mourning the loss of his wife. She ended up crying and dominating the entire evening.
Tonight a guy from tinder is due to meet her for a first date but his friend unexpectedly flew in early, so he went for an afternoon drink and explained to her, he would probably be 30 mins late and said “I’ll move our reservation, I can’t wait to see you.”
She has been on the phone to me on and off since 2pm sobbing her heart out.
AIBU to be exhausted by this?