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Would you be sad if the Queen died?

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icantchoosejustone · 20/12/2019 22:10

I've just been reading the thread about Prince Phillip going into hospital and a poster said they wouldn't be sad if the Queen passed, as she doesn't actually know who we are.

I'm not a royalist by any means and I don't know how I'd feel if the news broke that she died.

How would you feel?

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diddl · 21/12/2019 10:28

It's not hard work though is it?
Barely even work I should imagine.

All organised for her & she just turns up.

I will agree though that to be doing anything at all 30yrs after retirement age is admirable.

But that is her choice.

She is more than compensated for it!

Freesunglasses · 21/12/2019 10:28

I think I'd be a little sad. she's served this country well and not put a foot wrong unlike her offspring.
Yes I think it'll be a sad day.

teentree · 21/12/2019 10:29

Also do you need to know someone personally to be sad at their passing?

I think so, yes. I could think 'that's a shame' if someone I don't know died, but I couldn't be actually sad, because surely the reason we grieve is because we lose people we we know, there is a broken connection.

BornSnippy · 21/12/2019 10:30

I wouldn’t be sad about her as an individual as she’s lived a long and healthy life. I’d be sad that it would be the end of an era, that the new King won’t be half the monarch she was and although I don’t really agree with having a Royal Family it will be sad watching them diminished and that significant part of our history and national identity start to fade. I also can’t really face the public debate and divide and sniping about their future that will follow her death.

Abraid2 · 21/12/2019 10:36

diddl

*It's not hard work though is it?
Barely even work I should imagine.

All organised for her & she just turns up*

Do you know many women in their nineties who do similar work? I don’t.

UtuNorantiPralatongsThirdEye · 21/12/2019 10:46

Do you know many women in their nineties who do similar work? I don’t

Do you know many women in their 90's who've enjoyed the best medical care in the world, the best food , never having to do any labour, no stress of bills or parenting?
I bet most of us would manage a few engagements a year if we had the benefits in life that she has enjoyed.

PlomBear · 21/12/2019 10:51

Nope. People die all the time, people are starving to death around the world right now. I think I have more empathy for those people than the Queen.

Of course her family and friends will be sad just I like I would be sad if I lost a grandparent.

Free day off work though.

BornSnippy · 21/12/2019 10:54

The other thing is that when a national figure does and the country is saturated with talk of death many of us do get very sad. It’s not so much about the famous person who died, it’s that the national focus on death churns up our own experience of loss. So many of us will cry and feel sad and we may attribute that to The Queen’s death but it will be much more complicated and personal than that. Like when Diana died.

Bluebutterfly90 · 21/12/2019 10:57

As sad as I'd be about any other human dying, I suppose, but not particularly.
Kind of want them to call an end to the monarchy after the Queen goes. Thank you very much but that's your lot.

Boireannachlaidir · 21/12/2019 10:58

Yes I'll feel pretty saddened to hear this (inevitable) news when the time comes.

PlomBear · 21/12/2019 10:58

DH said he’s dreading her death.

As he’s military and will probably have to be involved in marching around London or something.

Not because he’ll be personally sad. He may have the Queen’s commission but he’s not a huge fan. I just asked him how he’ll feel when the Queen dies: “annoyed I’ll have to do extra work, how tiresome.”

diddl · 21/12/2019 10:58

"Do you know many women in their nineties who do similar work? I don’t"

Well tbh I have aunts in their 90s with an active social life & I think that what HM does now amounts to pretty much the same thing.

They'd probably be horseriding also if means permitted it!

She has (understandably) handed a lot over & could hand more over if she chose to I should imagine.

QuickstepQueen · 21/12/2019 10:58

It wouldn't affect me.

thelikelylass · 21/12/2019 10:59

Yes.

scarednamechange · 21/12/2019 11:01

I will feel sad.
She’s been the monarch that 4 generations of my family have known and I’m sure that’s the same in many other families. She almost ties us all together in a weird historical way like she connects all our generations as she’s been a constant throughout

yellowallpaper · 21/12/2019 11:02

I'd be a bit sad, as she has done what's expected of her from a very young age, and has done a very difficult job with grace. Being a monarch would be my idea of hell.

PlomBear · 21/12/2019 11:07

We might get a day off for Charles’ coronation too?

Abraid2 · 21/12/2019 11:12

UtuNorantiPralatongsThirdEye

She didn’t do ‘just a few engagements a year’. Let’s try to be honest.
In 2017, she undertook 292 engagements. In 2018, she completed 293.

feelingsinister · 21/12/2019 11:13

I really couldn't care less apart from the possibility of a day off. Anyone* dying is sad for the people close to them but she's very old and has had a life of luxury and privilege so I won't shed a tear.

I have zero respect for the royal family and would be very happy to get rid of the lot of them.

*there are exceptions.

TracyBeakerSoYeah · 21/12/2019 13:15

I know it's AIBU this thread is getting mad.
It seems some of us will be sad & some of us not that bothered.
We all have different views & feelings.
No one is stupid/deluded/crazy/heartless.

CareOfPunts · 21/12/2019 13:20

I’d feel a bit sad. End of an era given how long she’s been queen for.

Beacauseisaidso · 21/12/2019 13:20

I'm with Boom45

Urmasellsavon · 21/12/2019 13:24

No

DuggeesWoggle · 21/12/2019 13:26

Not read the full 14 pages on this but surely it's not a question of 'if' the queen dies but when?! Every time I get a BBC news notification on my phone I half expect it to say she's popped her clogs. Either that or Philip. I think he will die first and quite soon (within the next 6 months) and I don't think she will last much longer, probably another 6 months and then will die of a short illness. I don't think she will want to live on after he goes, they've been together so long.

Will I be sad? Probably a bit. I will be interested to see what happens in the long run, I'm not really a monarchist but I'm too British to be a revolutionary and get rid (where would they go? What would they do?). They have been part of the fabric of Britain for centuries and while I know that's not a good enough reason to keep something that's anachronistic, but the historian in me loves the link to ages past.

sandragreen · 21/12/2019 13:29

No I won't be sad, she is very old.

I would prefer it if Charles died before her though so we don't have to tolerate Queen Camilla.....

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