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To return my winning hamper?

259 replies

Vap0 · 20/12/2019 00:00

ADVICE NEEDED BEFORE COLLECTION TOMORROW PLEASE

So
We won the hamper from the preschool nativity
It’s huge
And the 2nd hamper I’ve won in a week 🙈
The first one (from works Xmas do) we are giving to grandparents for Xmas
This other one is ginormous, there is so much stuff, we do not have a big enough house for all this stuff 🙈, I don’t want to seem ungrateful but we just don’t need it and want to do something better with it than take it home.

Here are some options that I can see

  1. Ask them to give it to the staff to take home if they are short of any gifts for staff
  2. Ask them to hold another raffle in the new year - not sure how easy this would be - surely a sign on the door would suffice?
  3. Take it to the food bank - removing booze and donating that to the village hall raffle tomorrow night for the brass band carol concert we are going to.
  4. Take it to the food bank but ask preschool to take the booze for staff.

One massive thing to remember here though is that the staff all donated this stuff for the hamper so I don’t want to appear ungrateful by offering it back to them 🙈

I just don’t want to come across as ungrateful or rude

Please help

I’m open to other suggestions too 😊

OP posts:
GenderfreeJoe · 20/12/2019 02:40

Food bank definitely.

kateandme · 20/12/2019 06:20

sent to local adolescent unit.half of whom will be alone this chrismtas.they effing loved it!

WorriedAboutMom · 20/12/2019 06:31

Option No.3

OneDay10 · 20/12/2019 06:32

How lovely of you op. Yes the food bank for sure. I'm sure it will make someone's xmas to have a treat apart from the basics.

Thatnovembernight · 20/12/2019 06:48

My local food bank have actually asked for items to put in some small Christmas hampers like chocolates etc so I think your hamper would be a wonderful gift.

TheStuffedPenguin · 20/12/2019 06:50

Number 3

HeartZone · 20/12/2019 06:51

Option 3

But nothing wrong with donating to a raffle draw but then declining a raffle ticket so you don’t fall into this predicament.

SpeckledyHen · 20/12/2019 07:01

Option 3

anxioussue · 20/12/2019 07:02

Food bank

Tigger83 · 20/12/2019 07:03

Just an alternative thought, there may be a care home locally to you who would love the festive treats, often there are people in care homes don't have anyone to give them gifts/treats.

scubadive · 20/12/2019 07:04

Definitely 3, do not let the staff know you are don’t want it, if they have donated it.

Why consider any other option.

Buy the teachers another gift but don’t give them back theirs,it’s insulting.

Seaelf · 20/12/2019 07:05

furrymulesandPJs clients that have a problem with alcohol are very unlikely to refuse it.

AJPTaylor · 20/12/2019 07:05

If I enter a raffle but really don't want to win- think 2 metre high teddy bear, I ask that they don't put the ticket in the raffle. They will take out both parts and give them to you!.

Hairydilemma · 20/12/2019 07:07

OP, I won a hamper the other week - I kept the bits we genuinely like and would use, took out booze we didn’t like to give to a friend for a raffle she’s doing and as per your thinking, gave the rest to a food bank.

I’m also sure their users would love boxes of biscuits and a Christmas cake at this time of year as much as they’d like the basics - that would be my suggestion.

Well done on winning it!

CaptainMyCaptain · 20/12/2019 07:08

Donate it to a food bank.

CalleighDoodle · 20/12/2019 07:09

Donate it to the staff. Omg i would love this!

DontCallMeShitley · 20/12/2019 07:10

I sort of understand now about teh alcohol, though surely up to the client to refuse alcohol if they have a problem with it.

If someone has a problem with alcohol, and are having a hard time, it is going to be very difficult to refuse free booze.

CaptainMyCaptain · 20/12/2019 07:11

As I understand it food banks want non-perishable food that's easy to cook or can be eaten cold. So keep the mince pies for yourself
You can give mince pies to a food bank. I've been putting them in the local supermarket one.

ScreamingValalalalahLalalalah · 20/12/2019 07:11

PerveenMistry What a lovely story.

Another vote for option 3, unless you know someone who is in the kind of situation Perveen described who might be cheered by receiving the whole hamper.

Chattercino · 20/12/2019 07:14

Food bank. The preschool staff would have packed up for Christmas and what are they supposed to do with it?

MrsPear · 20/12/2019 07:15

Food bank / ours is asking for Christmas stuff !!!

QueenOfCatan · 20/12/2019 07:15

I would contact the food bank first as some (like my local one) won't take things for Christmas past a certain date. They may still be perfectly happy to take it but they may not have the space to have it too

Sooverthemill · 20/12/2019 07:16

I agree with @Ihaventgottimeforthis. Explain that you have just one another hamper ( stress how lucky you are) and ask them to draw another ticket if they still have them. Or give it to a refuge/ old people's home/ food bank but most food banks will already have made up their Christmas boxes I think

onanothertrain · 20/12/2019 07:16

3

sashh · 20/12/2019 07:16

Do you have a 'crisis' near by? They do Xmas dinners for homeless people so it IS the stuff they want.

I recently found a small charity that feeds the homeless locally (my pear tree was very generous with its fruit) they do an evening meal and packed lunch for the following day (the local Greggs donate at the end of the day so something that is not a tuna baguette would be welcome.

We also have a pay what you can market, could you do that at school? Obviously you can't sell the alcohol because of licencing laws.

Could you run a tombola at the concert?

I think if you explain that you have won another hamper this week no one will be offended.