AIBU to not know how to tackle this?

[EowynDernhelm]

I feel like this is massively unreasonable, that I have reached almost 50, and still struggle to tackle difficult situations. What would you do/say?

I pay someone to do a service weekly on our property. To say exactly what would be outing, sorry.

I have generally been really happy with the service they provide. I have had no problems til now, other than occasional lack of update on how it goes. I am usually not there when they provide the service, as I have used them for quite a while, and trust them. It is not always possible to know visually if they have actually done the service.

Today I left a Christmas card and present on top of the equipment for the service, untouched - I could tell if it had been. They could use their own, but my equipment has been specially provided, and they always do use mine, and to use theirs would mean dragging it a long way from the car park they use. When I got back to the property, I noticed the card and present were still there. I had a message earlier to say the service had been done. I asked if they had picked up the Christmas present and they said they hadn't noticed it.

My DH thinks they have not done the service. They say they definitely have. I don't know how to tackle this. If I challenge them, we could end up with bad feeling, and I don't want to lose them for this, they are really good at it. But I feel uneasy that they might not have done it, and are taking advantage. How do I handle this?

And am I unreasonable for being unable to handle this kind of thing at my age?

I think someone comes to tend to your thatched cottage roof.

I am so intrigued what this service is

Obviously it's someone who comes in to santize and replace batteries/general upkeep in her sex dungeon/cupboard

To say exactly what would be outing, sorry

I bet it really isnt 🙄

Do you have an exotic pet like a lion? Or maybe your own private ski run?

Gun cleaning?

Septic tank was going to be my guess too. Or moat cleaning. 🤔

Do they clean your penis beaker?

My DH thinks they have not done the service. They say they definitely have. I don't know how to tackle this. If I challenge them, we could end up with bad feeling, and I don't want to lose them for this, they are really good at it. But I feel uneasy that they might not have done it, and are taking advantage. How do I handle this?

What I don't understand is why you handle it at all. Your husband thinks they haven't done the job. His responsibility to sort it out.

Not for you to worry about

"Oh good. Glad it's all sorted - could see you hadn't used our alligator walking equipment so wasn't sure if I'd got the day wrong, or if you'd just used your own. Feel free to use our very niche alligator walking equipment rather than bringing your own. It'll save you a job!"
....kill them with kindness?

....but say to face so can judge reaction easier ....

Competitive chess isn't unusual 😂

I think they clean your sex dungeon

And the equipment is a big box of lube you replace every week

I reckon they go hot air ballooning and the person shows up to check the basket/flame-y thingy/silk for worms.

I thought maybe something to do with guns too @katkit

I'm really sorry that your hamster pedicurist let you down

I don’t think it’s that niche st all but it’s been built up into such a thing now that the op can’t do a big reveal otherwise it’s going to be an anticlimax.

Parachute safety checking?

Hamster pedicurist 😂😂😂

Surely though she could check if they had French tips or just a polish

Are they looking after your ginormous koi carp lake?

Don't challenge them now. If you ask if something is wrong with your equipment, they'll know (unless they are very stupid) that you're questioning them as to whether they've done the job and will say that there's nothing wrong but prefer to use their own.

If you really need them, let it lie for now. In all likelihood, if they haven't been coming, they will now anyway. Then one day, mention something about your equipment (you're thinking of replacing it, take it for a service, whatever) and ask them if they use it anyway, or if they prefer their own. You might catch them better by surprise then if they say that they are happy to use yours.

Is "service" the new "hobby"?

Do you live on a country estate and have a miniature railway that needs servicing every week as it's open to the public for rides, clutching at straws here .

Ref installing a camera - we paid about £35 for a fantastic one from TP-Link which links to our WiFi, and we both have an app on our we can view it from, and it records as well. You can set it up to send you notifications when it sees movement if you like.

Highly recommended. No need for expensive installation or any other equipment. Just the camera and access to a plug socket. And WiFi obv.

Chimney sweep?