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What's the biggest lie/distortion you have seen someone post on social media?

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grumpelgoatskin · 19/12/2019 12:36

A friend posts regularly on Facebook about her very happy marriage and her wonderful husband.

In reality she cannot stand him and is looking for a way out.

I have no idea why she feels the need to post these lovey posts when she could just post nothing.

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jewel1968 · 20/12/2019 08:49

I was once so fed up with the amazing photos of friends in holiday and felt very low. So I posted a few photos of a bleak rainy fairly ugly high street I was in. It was meant to be ironic. I had people contacting me directly to see if I was OK. I did chuckle afterwards. And I told them why I did it. I have explained to friends that when i am struggling with life I find it very hard to read the posts about their amazing time/kids/husband/life. I know most f it is fake but it still impacts me. I have removed the FB app and only dip in now and again.

My question is what did people like this do before SM?

OrangeCinnamon · 20/12/2019 08:50

I know a woman on facebook that seems to jump from MLM company to company ...she is v attractive, nice, entices people in always seems to be at the top of the 'chain' makes money before moving on. The companies often get into financial difficulty. Not sure how she keeps it up or sleeps at night. She does seem lovely ...
am highly suspicious.

FineWordsForAPorcupine · 20/12/2019 08:54

A friend's girlfriend is always posting pics of herself in skimpy outfits and declaring "was going to delete this, really struggling today with how I look" in order to receive a slew of "omg you look so great! Wish I was as thin as you" comments.

The thing is, if challenged, she will claim she has body dismorphia which I just...dont really believe. If you genuinely thought you were unattractive would you post all over SM wearing a short skirt and tape over your nipples? (not an exaggeration).

beautifulstranger101 · 20/12/2019 09:20

A friend's girlfriend is always posting pics of herself in skimpy outfits and declaring "was going to delete this, really struggling today with how I look

I find those posts really ridiculous and insincere too. Oh, you hate how you look so much? yet go on to post 100s of photos of yourself in bikini that resembles two bits of string? yeah- you must really really hate yourself lol
I'd have more respect if people just said "i love how i look in this" and at least be honest. All the faux "I feel so fat- I ate two raisins yesterday!" is so cringeworthy

JustDanceAddict · 20/12/2019 09:25

a relative has just got in on an mlm- pain in the arse! I can’t believe all the shite she posts - she’s a genuinely nice person as well.
I really wonder if she does make money - she works, her dh has a decent job etc but I think it may be more the ‘social’ side of it??

Freesunglasses · 20/12/2019 09:30

And the 'I'm so ugly, followed by 10 selfies' I didn't actually think she was till she said it Grin

SureTry · 20/12/2019 09:52

Ex friend posted about her surprise engagement when in fact they went and purchased the ring together a couple of weeks before 🙄

YouJustDoYou · 20/12/2019 09:56

I was never the biggest fan of most men anyway, but after meeting him, I realised what a load of shit most of them talk about their wives and families when they're actually the ones who are the twats

^^This, so many times over.

BrightYellowDaffodil · 20/12/2019 09:58

I have an acquaintance who constant posts on FB about how her new dress/outfit/hair colour has given her “so much confidence” (usually accompanied by a duck face selfie) and how glad she is to be single because “there’s no drama!!”

In reality she’s absolutely desperate for a husband, is on a permanent diet in an effort to be thin (she once told me that she “knew that my life will work out when I’m thin”) and her self esteem is through the floor. I feel really very sorry for her.

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grumpelgoatskin · 20/12/2019 12:08

I've just thought of another one I know.

Friend posted about how he fell in love with his girlfriend at "first sight" and they have been "inseparable" since.

I'm friends with his ex and this guy has been emailing her for months quite sexually explicit and romantic stuff whilst still being with the new girlfriend.

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Cerseirys · 20/12/2019 12:40

Guy I once worked with posted a sadface photo from a hospital bed saying he'd been a victim of a homophobic attack. It later turned out he'd been arrested for vandalising a car and deliberately injured himself in the police cell so he'd be taken to hospital! He is something of a social media personality so it ended up in the press as he had to go to court and his parents had to pay a substantial fine for him.

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grumpelgoatskin · 20/12/2019 13:39

Oh wow @MentalHealth101.

I think I have an idea of who this couple could be going by your description...Grin

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Mylifesadrama · 20/12/2019 17:50

I have friends (not close) who had all posted how sad it was and how missed another friend was when she died. Posted pictures of them all together a few years previously. Truth was, none of them had even been in touch for at least 2 years, and didn’t even know she was ill.

supersop60 · 20/12/2019 17:57

My niece is a personal trainer/mentor/life coach. She has made some awful mistakes in her life, and also had some terrible health issues. She presents herself as being qualified (emotionally) to do her job because of the things she has been through. She has just received her decree nisi from her husband of 1 year, and has been with her new man about 10 months, and yet we are supposed to believe her constant Instagram and FB videos about her wonderful life and how she can help everybody!
Bit long-winded, sorry. I'm waiting for it all to come crashing down.

housinghelp101 · 20/12/2019 17:59

I know one woman who has a figure to die for, works very hard to maintain it then posts photo montages of the same shot and asks people if she looks obese. She absolutely loves herself but needs constant validation.

handbagsatdawn33 · 20/12/2019 18:03

A friend posting pictures of her "lovely" mixed-race DGD , but she calls her & her son-in-law words that I'm sure MN would ban me for repeating.

NoOneNeedsToKnowThis · 20/12/2019 18:06

A local salon owner is always on instagram posting pics of her latest luxury holiday with her and her family all decked head to toe in designer gear, photos of her and her husband on nights out at top London restaurants, pics of her with a new Rolex on her wrist or a couple of Cartier love bangles with the tag #bossbabe. Fair enough if she wishes to flaunt her wealth in this way except my sister was a hairdresser in the salon and the staff weren’t paid at the end of last month because the owner is absolutely skint.
Looking at her insta page you’d think she was living the life of a footballers wife when in reality she is on the brink of bankruptcy.

ParkheadParadise · 20/12/2019 18:06

My dd was murdered 4yrs ago. On a local Facebook page people were talking about it. A female who I didn't know was posting updates as if she knew the family.
It was really upsetting some people are weird.
Eventually my sister contacted the page and got it taken down.
People should think before they post shit comments as a family are grieving.

Illcallbacklater · 20/12/2019 18:07

Not so much a lie, but I spoke to someone who was going to my uni online a bit before we started our degree as we had a similar interest and had started chatting on the new students for that academic year's forum. We stopped talking due to being so busy, and never actually met up. A whole year at uni went by without me ever seeing her, so I assumed she hadn't gone in the end. Halfway through second year I go for lunch with a coursemate and she introduces this girl to me who I had seen on our course but hadn't spoken to yet, with the same uncommon name as the girl I'd chatted to online. Turns out it was her! She looked nothing like her photos at all they'd been so heavily edited. Honestly it was baffling. The photos were of her, you could tell if you knew her in real life, but had been photoshopped and filtered to oblivion. Not sure why it's not like she was ugly in person. If people can't recognise you from your pictures, what's the point?

NoOneNeedsToKnowThis · 20/12/2019 18:08

Oh god @parkheadparadise that is awful and must have been so upsetting for you and your family. What is wrong with some people? So sorry for your loss Flowers

Redcrayons · 20/12/2019 18:15

@ParkheadParadise so sorry For your loss. The last thing you need is grief tourists all over FB. These people have no shame, we had a man killed in our town in summer and one of his children found out on FB.

Lllot5 · 20/12/2019 18:26

@NoOneNeedsToKnowThis
What I don’t understand is why you don’t say something? Not just you of course.
By why not post ‘that’s a nice watch, lovely bangles when you gonna pay my sister her wages.’

slipperywhensparticus · 20/12/2019 18:27

My ex stole pictures off my Facebook of our kids at a certain local attraction put them on his facebook like he had taken them or been with us that day (no and hell no) him and his fiancee announce there engagement every few months to pull the attention back to themselves he also posts stuff about how he would love to get married but I'm stopping it truth is he refused to sign the papers until recently even then he wrote abuse on them 🤷‍♀️

beautifulstranger101 · 20/12/2019 18:27

@parkheadparadise

I have no words....only that I'm so very sorry for your loss
Flowers

Gwenhwyfar · 20/12/2019 18:30

"My neighbour quite often posts about her legendary parties. It mystifies me. I have been to a few and though nice enough, they seem to involve people sitting and chatting. I don't even recall any music being on. "

I would much prefer sitting and chatting to not being able to hear myself think. They sound like good parties to me.

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