What's the biggest lie/distortion you have seen someone post on social media?

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A friend posts regularly on Facebook about her very happy marriage and her wonderful husband.

In reality she cannot stand him and is looking for a way out.

I have no idea why she feels the need to post these lovey posts when she could just post nothing.

I have one face book friend who constantly posts loads of political bullshit. The last one a pulled her up on was about the Election and how she was agassed that the likes of Blyth Valley voted Tory when they had 31% unemployment! I checked and it's about 5%.

I'm quite an honest bod on social media. My life is an absolute joke largely and I am very honest when I do post stuff and always with humour. I do sometimes put a warm filter (but not skin/face changing filter) on my pics so I don't look like Casper the Friendly Ghost. I might boast about my kids occasionally but I think that's OK, I'm their mum! Normally only when I have some particularly nice pics or something. I don't do Insta but do have an account so I can see what shit everybody else is posting and my God do they!

I always find "joint" accounts suspicious and generally where that's happened there's been an affair (in my experience). There's somebody I know who is ludicrously gushy about her two girls, but it is so over the top it's embarrassing, how clever they are, how high their IQ's must be, quotes them as if they speak like adults (they are 2 and 4), things like "Mummy, there is nothing in the world I need this Christmas, so please buy for boys and girls who do". Yes alright love. I don't understand why she can't just be proud of her beautiful girls and be done with it. It's almost done to make other parents feel totally inadequate and her the most perfect mummy in the world. It's hard to explain adequately how over the top it is. I have to presume that there is a lot missing in people's lives when they behave like this.

There is somebody else I know who I feel quite sorry for. She's changed herself so much she's unrecognisable (think extensions, botox, boob job, lips etc). She has been 40 for at least 15 years. Her boyfriend is in his 20's. She double barrelled his name with hers but he is a well known cheat and doesn't hide it and she is just being made a total fool of but continues to post on a daily basis about #feminism #girlpower #strong etc etc etc. I reckon she's battered and everybody talks about her and her embarrassing posts but what can you do? It's excrutiating. Social media has a lot to answer for!

My BIL is an entrepreneur with a massive following online. Wife loves the big life and looks like they're living big online. When I'm reality, he's in debt, owes several people huge amounts of money and they manage to get by. The funny thing is how pictures posted will always be of others' stuff like her parents' home (they're rich) , standing behind friends' big cars to make it look like they just got out of it, etc. A friend who runs a charity met him once and was sure she'd hit jackpot about monthly donation because he's the big thing when really there was just an email about his siblings bailing him out (again).

@Rosetintedperhaps thank you for your post, it really provides a different insight into why people may not bare-all online. I actually agree with you- I know people irl who's real lives don't resemble the life they portray online, and have always given them the benefit of the doubt - but it is because these people are genuinely good people, and I can empathise with not wanting to share everything. I think you sound very considerate regarding your family members, and protecting their privacy is a very respectful thing to do.

A close family member fosters. The children she has at the moment have been subject to some of the worst abuse by their parents.
The parents, thick as shit, post on facebook, no secrecy on there, how their beautiful babies have been stolen, for no reason other than for ss to make lots of money? And they are not letting ss know that she is pregnant again and they will be leaving the area.
Also, photos of them out and about when they should be at supervised contact, taxis paid for, for them. They feign illness.
Erm, the police and ss use social media as evidence, and they are already in the process of taking the baby when it is born.
Hopefully they will get a prison sentence too.

MsMaisel
An eating disorder isn't a "lie" it's a medical condition.

Dieting in the extreme and telling your fans you eat normal meals and whatever you want, whenever you want is lying.
Telling people you hardly work out, but you're working out several hours a day is lying.
Carrying out these actions, whether or not you have the awareness that you have an eating disorder, you know for a matter of fact that you're not, is lying.

TWAW

We were having this convo at work recently and agreed there is a world of difference between actively lying on your FB and other people's perceptions of who they think you are.... big difference.

There will always be drama queens who tell the whole world their business but generally, who really airs their dirty laundry on social media?

People can post lovey dovey status and still have stand up rows with their DP: the 2 are not mutually exclusive.

People can still complain about their poor wages but find a way to make the best of them giving off the impression of affluence.

People can still applaud their kids achievements but want to ring their neck in private when they act up.

People who bullied in their youth live in a comfortable bubble where they've either learned their lesson (and feel pious for it) or have convinced themselves it was the folly of youth (and they weren't THAT bad) and expouse the evils of bullying.

Yes, some will outright lie but a lot of the time WE are responsible for judging others unfairly or based on what we see and that's on us.

MsMaisel
Yeah, because a celebrity who lies about what food and exercise she does is just like someone thinking they were being chased by Satan..

Read the title of the thread. If you don't want to read about lies, this may not be the thread for you?

@MentalHealth101 The Speakmans?

Once caught an acquaintance out. She has bought herself a DVD online whilst i was in visiting. A few days later when it arrived, she posts a big gushy post with pics of it and flowerd, gushing over how thoughtful & wonderful her DH is as he had bought them for her as a suprise.
She is now divorced and admitted most of her posts about their marriage were BS after he had left her.

@Hangingwithmygnomies we must know the same person! In my case it's DH'S EXW. She went to Disney Florida for three whole weeks without them, and not because she can't afford it. She even tried to claim Child maintenance for the time she was there, even though we had them the whole time and would just be giving her spending money. Very bizarre.

A girlfriend of my DH's friend is awful on SM. 'Wow look at my beautiful girl! Can't believe she's 8 months 2day! I would do anything for you, you are my world #mummysprincess.
Doesn't mention she smoked 30+ a day throughout the whole pregnancy and regularly bitches about her.
Another one is one of the biggest narcissists I know. She has a trail of devastation behind her, of all the friendships she's broken and people she's fallen out with. She's infamous for it.
Her SM is full of 'Be Kind' 'Sometimes people take my kindness for weakness' 'I would rather be kind and unnoticed than cruel and popular' it is absolutely insane.

@MsChatterbox I hope you have a good Christmas,❄💐 my son is home from Uni not home since July could never imagine telling him not to come home

"I struggle with physical pain and mental illness constantly but still manage to take my little boy into school every day despite what I go through"

No, you don't. You stay up until 3am playing games online, forget some of us can see your posts about said game playing, then ring around other parents right when the School gates open to ask other people to take your kid in because you can't be bothered to get up off your lazy arse and do it your bloody self.

Years ago I went on a city break with some friends. Two of the girls had a huge argument during the first evening, shouting and swearing at each other as we walked into a high end restaurant (I was mortified) and we all ended up falling out in the end.

It culminated in one of the girls flouncing, leaving the hotel we were staying in and booking herself into another one as she didn't want to share her room with any of us. Back in the office on Monday I noticed she had posted on FB about the 'wonderful' weekend she had with her 'besties' together with a collage showing all the attractions we'd visited together. Except she'd visited them on her own as we barely saw her that weekend until we boarded the train home.

I have a long standing acquaintance who posts loads on FB about good causes, political posts showing her in a good light etc etc etc. She's so effing self-righteous but the irony is she also posts updates clearly designed to upset/irk/make a point at her husband's parents who she has a not so great relationship with - IMO she just makes herself look like a tit as she doesn't practice what she preaches.

Gosh, I feel better just for venting that.

I've got a (not very close) friend who literally does my head in with all her problems with her life and kids, I must admit I no longer have time for her as she's just not good company tbh but on facebook she's always 'living her best life'. Annoying. Social media is such a lie.