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To not have to take and pick them up from school today?

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Greggers2017 · 17/12/2019 09:29

I have 2 children in year 7 at secondary school dd12 and dsd11. I am currently on maternity leave so I have been taking them to school and picking them up since they started in September. I have also been taking two of their friends who live on the same estate as us.
Yesterday and today my two have been off school poorly with the flu type bug and sickness. Yesterday as it was short notice I still took the two friends.
Yesterday evening DD messaged her friends saying they would both be off school again today.
At 8:25 today one of the friends mums messaged me through Facebook asking where I was. I said I wasn't taking them today as my two were off I'll and dd had informed her dd last night. She sent a snotty message saying that her dd would be late now.
I'm now quite annoyed but also feel bad. The school is a 2.5 mile walk away. There is a bus too the school that children can pay for. And friend also has a bike so could have cycled. Added to that friends Mum drives but says she doesn't like getting her baby up to take them. I have a baby too so see that as irrelevant.
Should I have still taken them?

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TitchyP · 17/12/2019 09:34

YANBU. That is CF behaviour of the highest order!

HanginWithMyGnomies · 17/12/2019 09:35

No, you absolutely should not have still taken them! Why should you be inconvenienced by doing a trip you don’t need to do, just so she can stay in her pjs this morning?

Noodledoodledoo · 17/12/2019 09:36

Absolutely not - she is just annoyed and firing off her annoyance at the wrong person - should be daughter who didn't relay the message about yours not being in.

formerbabe · 17/12/2019 09:36

Cheeky cow!!!

FreedomfromPE · 17/12/2019 09:37

YANBU. Did you tell her to contact your uber complaints line? Cheeky fucker! No more lifts for them! I hope your children are better soon.

OoohTheStatsDontLie · 17/12/2019 09:37

Absolutely not. She expects you to get your baby up and take her kids to school because her daughter didn't think to tell her mum that she didn't have a lift, all so that she doesnt have to wake her baby up!? That's madness

Greggers2017 · 17/12/2019 09:39

Her dd did tell her about having no lift. Her dd thought her mum would take her but her mum was still expecting me to show up 😳

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BooksAreMyOnlyFriends · 17/12/2019 09:39

Yes you're doing them a great favour, and her reply was rude, but I would have made sure the message got through to the mother. Kids aren't always reliable at relaying messages and remembering stuff. If you're doing regular lifts you should have her number so you can message her directly if you need to.

Ohfrigginghellers · 17/12/2019 09:39

YANBU. Is she for real? She should take her own kids to school even with a baby. That's what millions of other people do.

Willow2017 · 17/12/2019 09:41

Of course not. Her kids her job to get them to school on time.
I wouldn't be taking them again she is treating you as her personal taxi service. Lazy C.F. had no right to try to guilt trip you into taking her kids when yours are ill and you have a baby too.
I would txt back "My kids are ill, I have a baby too. Why do you think it's my job to get your kids to school? I have been doing you a favour but after your uncalled for rude txt from now on I will concentrate on my kids you deal with yours."

Some people are beyond a joke!

Greggers2017 · 17/12/2019 09:41

@BooksAreMyOnlyFriends no I don't have her number. Our kids are good mates but they all have phones so they organise and arrange things between themselves.
There are plenty other options for her dd to get to school. She has also been given the message by her dd.

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maddening · 17/12/2019 09:42

Reply "ah well now following such an unpleasant message I am inclined to rescind the offer of all future lifts, I would suggest you apologise"

FraglesRock · 17/12/2019 09:43

"Hi, after the misunderstanding this morning I've decided I can no longer provide lifts for your children"

Ohfrigginghellers · 17/12/2019 09:43

Having said that I would have messaged her the night before to make it absolutely clear you wouldn't be taking them.

HugoSpritz · 17/12/2019 09:43

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Greggers2017 · 17/12/2019 09:43

@Willow2017 she said she assumed I'd be up anyway as DS was still at school, she'd seen him walk past her window 😂
DS is at primary school I'm year 6 and it's a 5 minute max walk so he goes on his bike with his mate from next door.

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Raindancer411 · 17/12/2019 09:48

I think now is the time to draw a line under any further lifts. She is taking the mick to expect you to still take her DD unless she is going to pay. When you are going that way it's not costing you extra but If you aren't going at all, that is to much to expect of anyone not blood related.

WhatTheFronti · 17/12/2019 09:51

No you shouldn't have!
From the sounds of it you are doing a daily kindness assisting them in getting their kids to school - they should be grateful not snarky.

katsucurry · 17/12/2019 09:52

Wow how rude. Definitely not BU! I'm also off on maternity leave and have a similar set up, except I share school runs with another mum. When either of our children have been off for whatever reason it hasn't even crossed our minds that we'd still take someone else's kids on our usual day Shock I'd be inclined to stop helping her out.

BreatheAndFocus · 17/12/2019 09:53

YANBU. Stop giving them lifts and then you won’t have this hassle again.

Election2019 · 17/12/2019 09:55

YANBU and I wouldn’t do anymore lifts now.

Willow2017 · 17/12/2019 09:59

Wow that's really CF there.
Don't do it again spectacularly entitled woman.


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Maryann1975 · 17/12/2019 10:01

No, you shouldn’t have still taken them. Don’t give this CF any further head space. Why does she think you enjoy getting yourself and your baby up to give her child a lift to school? Tbh, I wouldn’t have given a lift yesterday either in the circumstances. She has a car she could have used and there is also a bus. It is not your responsibility to get her child to school on time.

cstaff · 17/12/2019 10:04

Oh my god - what a cheeky fucking bitch. I would definitely put an end to your really decent kind favours after that carry on and let her know exactly why. That is completely out of order.

whiskersonkittenss · 17/12/2019 10:04

This is the type of person who will never help you out in return. I would stop all future lifts. She's a cf

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