To not have to take and pick them up from school today?
Greggers2017 · 17/12/2019 09:29
I have 2 children in year 7 at secondary school dd12 and dsd11. I am currently on maternity leave so I have been taking them to school and picking them up since they started in September. I have also been taking two of their friends who live on the same estate as us.
Yesterday and today my two have been off school poorly with the flu type bug and sickness. Yesterday as it was short notice I still took the two friends.
Yesterday evening DD messaged her friends saying they would both be off school again today.
At 8:25 today one of the friends mums messaged me through Facebook asking where I was. I said I wasn't taking them today as my two were off I'll and dd had informed her dd last night. She sent a snotty message saying that her dd would be late now.
I'm now quite annoyed but also feel bad. The school is a 2.5 mile walk away. There is a bus too the school that children can pay for. And friend also has a bike so could have cycled. Added to that friends Mum drives but says she doesn't like getting her baby up to take them. I have a baby too so see that as irrelevant.
Should I have still taken them?
BooksAreMyOnlyFriends · 17/12/2019 09:39
Yes you're doing them a great favour, and her reply was rude, but I would have made sure the message got through to the mother. Kids aren't always reliable at relaying messages and remembering stuff. If you're doing regular lifts you should have her number so you can message her directly if you need to.
Willow2017 · 17/12/2019 09:41
Of course not. Her kids her job to get them to school on time.
I wouldn't be taking them again she is treating you as her personal taxi service. Lazy C.F. had no right to try to guilt trip you into taking her kids when yours are ill and you have a baby too.
I would txt back "My kids are ill, I have a baby too. Why do you think it's my job to get your kids to school? I have been doing you a favour but after your uncalled for rude txt from now on I will concentrate on my kids you deal with yours."
Some people are beyond a joke!
Greggers2017 · 17/12/2019 09:41
@BooksAreMyOnlyFriends no I don't have her number. Our kids are good mates but they all have phones so they organise and arrange things between themselves.
There are plenty other options for her dd to get to school. She has also been given the message by her dd.
HugoSpritz · 17/12/2019 09:43
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Raindancer411 · 17/12/2019 09:48
I think now is the time to draw a line under any further lifts. She is taking the mick to expect you to still take her DD unless she is going to pay. When you are going that way it's not costing you extra but If you aren't going at all, that is to much to expect of anyone not blood related.
katsucurry · 17/12/2019 09:52
Wow how rude. Definitely not BU! I'm also off on maternity leave and have a similar set up, except I share school runs with another mum. When either of our children have been off for whatever reason it hasn't even crossed our minds that we'd still take someone else's kids on our usual day I'd be inclined to stop helping her out.
Maryann1975 · 17/12/2019 10:01
No, you shouldn’t have still taken them. Don’t give this CF any further head space. Why does she think you enjoy getting yourself and your baby up to give her child a lift to school? Tbh, I wouldn’t have given a lift yesterday either in the circumstances. She has a car she could have used and there is also a bus. It is not your responsibility to get her child to school on time.
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