I know I am being unreasonable but I’m desperate and see no wax *trigger warning sexual assault*

[OwlBeThere]

To try and keep it brief, the background facts are:
My daughter was sexually assaulted 2 years ago.
Since then she has self harmed, sh has panic attacks, she has flashbacks and just worries a lot and has missed school due to anxiety.
She’s had private Counselling that didn’t help much.

She was referred to CAMHS by the GP as they are unable to prescribe antidepressants or anti anxiety medication because she’s only 16.
CAMHS refused to see her.

So, I’m considering getting anti anxiety medication for myself and then giving it to her. I know this is not recommended but I don’t know what to do.

I’m so sorry OP. I have experience of teens self harming and suffering anxiety but not the sexual assault, I can certainly feel your pain.

How helpful is the school, does the safe manager help your daughter, do they have a counsellor? I believe you regarding CAHMS but I am shocked and disgusted. How strong are her friendship groups? The school needs to find a way to work with your DD and to try to protect her fears. You tell them what you need.

You’ve even given some great advice already on here, do contact the charities. See if the school could help more regarding CAHMS, she must be missing a lot of school. Also consider writing to your MP, you could perhaps also appeal to your local health authority.

Please do not give her any meds prescribed to you, imagine if something happened. I have found that Anti anxiety meds (tranquillisers) do help in terms of getting out the house but they all have side effects and to be honest they kind of loosely cover the cracks, I completely agree with with pushing for PTSD counselling, I know you are hitting a brick wall but do keep pushing.

I do hope your DD gets help soon.

Fucks sake OP; just saw your update that the fucker who assaulted her is at the same school. And the bastard school did nothing. Said it was only her breast and she should get over it? Fuck my old boots I’m now raging here. So she has to relive her trauma every time she sees him, goes to school??? Of course she’s suffering. She finally tells someone and the response is ‘well we can’t prove it so get over it’?.
Right, get back down GP and emphasise trauma, fact the perpetrator is at same school. GP can get CAMHS to accept referral. If that doesn’t work push to see a paediatrician and also another GP for second opinion. Female if possible.
And start causing shit storm for the school. They are failing in their safeguarding policies for one. Publicise the fact that they protect sexual offenders. They are also failing in their mental health policies if they have any; you don’t tell a victim of SA to get over it.

OP, I’m a psychologist; PM me if you want.

You may find therapists willing to lower their fees for you, many private ones will have places reserved for people who can’t afford the full cost. My other thought is have you seen the Gp by yourself to explain how bad it is for her? Or you could right and ask them to record your concerns for her on her record that may make them more helpful. I’m sorry you’re both going such an awful time I’m glad your daughter has you, please also try and look after yourself too.

Thank you everyone. @Thatssomecatch I will definitely take you up on that tomorrow it’s been a long hard day but I thank you all so much xx