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Pregnancy announcement

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Flamehairedboy · 14/12/2019 14:14

Just found out this morning that I'm pregnant. Over the moon. I'm getting married in two weeks. Considering waiting until my wedding day to surprise my partner with the news. WWYD

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Likethebattle · 14/12/2019 14:18

I wouldn’t keep secret like that from someone I was marrying 🤷🏻‍♀️

crispysausagerolls · 14/12/2019 14:20

I would not keep it a secret either.

Sammi38 · 14/12/2019 14:21

No, I wouldn’t keep it a secret either.

CmdrCressidaDuck · 14/12/2019 14:22

Do you not think he's going to be hurt rather than overjoyed if he learns you sat on the news for weeks?

Planned "surprises" like that are highly overrated outside of social media. Honesty, intimacy and trust between you are worth a lot more.

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn · 14/12/2019 14:24

I wouldn't keep it a secret either.

aveenos · 14/12/2019 14:25

I would let him know too.

WhatchaMean · 14/12/2019 14:26

Definitely would tell him straightaway. Aside from anything else you don't know how you'll be feeling with morning sickness etc

InDubiousBattle · 14/12/2019 14:26

Tell him now. We did the pregnancy tests together, there's no way I would have waited a fortnight to tell him!!

ThatsMySantaHisBeardIsSoFluffy · 14/12/2019 14:27

I wouldn't wait two weeks. I found out two days before my wedding and was too excited to even keep it to myself for that long!

PotteringAlong · 14/12/2019 14:27

And if you (heaven forbid) miscarry next week, what will you do then?

Tell him. It’s not a secret to keep from the person you are marrying.

ShinyRuby · 14/12/2019 14:30

Definitely tell him ASAP & congratulations.

Merename · 14/12/2019 14:31

Congratulations! It’s up to you of course, but I’d tell my partner. You may start feeling awful in next two weeks, and if you want to keep it secret from other guests, you’ll probably need his help concealing why you are not drinking. It also is quite a public way to get the news - while I’m sure he’ll be delighted, it’s still a big huge deal that I think is best processed in private.

QueenofmyPrinces · 14/12/2019 14:31

I would wait!!!

I waited when I found out when I was pregnant so I could tell DH on Christmas Day.

SallyLovesCheese · 14/12/2019 14:36

I was so happy to be pregnant I ran downstairs immediately to tell him, waving the pregnancy test. I can't imagine trying to keep such amazing news quiet from him.

carly2803 · 14/12/2019 14:41

no, tell him!!

Parker231 · 14/12/2019 14:43

I would definitely tell him now - why wait? DH was there when I tested and was excited as I was.

amusedbush · 14/12/2019 14:45

Tell him! He deserves to share this and be excited with you.

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VaggieMight · 14/12/2019 14:46

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Dandelion1993 · 14/12/2019 14:54

Not for two weeks.

If it was only two days I'd say yes

Betterbegoing · 14/12/2019 14:55

I wouldn’t keep a secret that huge from my fiancé.

Floopyandtired · 14/12/2019 14:55

I would tell him too, but I had a friend who waited 3 days to tell her DH on his birthday and he was over the moon, said it was the best gift ever. But two weeks and a wedding day is a whole different kettle of fish!

EmmiJay · 14/12/2019 14:56

I'd tell him the morning of the wedding. Send a little card/gift from the baby. Gahhh! How exciting! Congratulations!

misspiggy19 · 14/12/2019 14:57

I would tell him day after the wedding

Jupiters · 14/12/2019 14:58

Two weeks is too long to wait. Tell him now.

bridgetreilly · 14/12/2019 14:59

Is it something you have been trying for together or a surprise? If it's the surprise - however wonderful and exciting - I would definitely not wait for the wedding day. Because it's big and overwhelming news to process in the middle of a day that's already big and overwhelming in other ways. I know that I couldn't handle that kind of news well in that context, even if it was good news. If it's something you've been trying for and you know that even if it's a surprise it won't be a huge shock and it will definitely be a good one, then maybe. But honestly, even in those circumstances I think that's high risk. How will you feel if his reaction doesn't live up to your expectation? Do you want to take that risk on your wedding day?

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