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Nativity photos - Solitary photos of my child.

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cjt110 · 12/12/2019 14:33

I have photos from my son's nativity this AM. All lovely and with others in. I will clearly NOT share them for safeguarding reasons. This has been asked by the school too. We cannot share them on social media/email whatsapp etc.

I have a photograph of my son, before the nativity, sat on the steps, just him with no one else in the photo. It's a beautiful photo with the church alter behind him and the stained glass windows...

He is in costume too so you couldn't even identify his school.

I would really like to share this with family members who won't be able to see the photo on my phone but this means sharing - by whatsapp or facebook - and I don't know where I stand on it.

I asked a friend and she said it was "My call" Another said it's your child, share what you like.

School said that there are photos to be published of the children, in dress rehearsal at school, on the website.

So I suppose my Q is WIBU to share a photo of my son, with no-one else at all in the photo, and perhaps some of the dress rehearsal photos too which are publicly available on the schools website?

I;m in 2 minds. School said no sharing. But it's my child and there is no-one else in the photo. But then again, school said no sharing...

OP posts:
Selfsettling3 · 12/12/2019 14:35

It doesn’t pose a risk to any other children so share it if you wish.

Mummyjsa · 12/12/2019 14:35

Share away. If you can only see your child, I don’t see any problem at all.

ASimpleLampoon · 12/12/2019 14:36

only a problem if another child is in the photo

TheChippendenSpook · 12/12/2019 14:36

I'd share it and have done in the past.

Sparklyring · 12/12/2019 14:37

Of course you can share a photo of your child!

JacquesHammer · 12/12/2019 14:38

I assist with various drama productions for children.

We always take a photo of each child alone on the set/in costume so parents can have something if they wish to share.

If there are no other children in the photo you’re fine to share.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 12/12/2019 14:38

Bloody hell it's your kid, no one else is in it, you want to show your family...
Why couldn't you?

Surely the school just mean don't share photos of other kids in case there is a danger to them being identified online (as our school said to us).
Not that you MAY NOT share a picture you took of your own kid... Confused

GiveHerHellFromUs · 12/12/2019 14:38

Of course you can share it.

Original poster
cjt110 · 12/12/2019 14:38

@Sparklyring I feel daft asking but I would hate to get a call from school "So and so said they've seen a photo of little Bob and you were told not to...."

The headmistress scares the crap out of me never mind the kids!

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Spied · 12/12/2019 14:38

You can do what you like with the photo if there's not another child in it.

SallyLovesCheese · 12/12/2019 14:40

The no sharing rule only applies to photos that include children other than your own. You can share whatever photos of just your own child you like!

TeenPlusTwenties · 12/12/2019 14:40

If it is definitely only your child then feel free to share.

It is photos of other children that is the problem. Do not copy and share other photos with other children, though feel free to link to school's website.

Original poster
cjt110 · 12/12/2019 14:41

Thanks all. feel such a daft twat asking! Confused

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Waterandlemonjuice · 12/12/2019 14:41

Of course you can share. It’s your child, no school identified.

theweebleshavelanded · 12/12/2019 14:44

in this case its fine. youre obviously respnsible as a parent on sm. some just dont get it!

mummumumumumumumumumum · 12/12/2019 14:52

its fine if its just your child! I am one of the parents that stops parents being able to share group photos on social media (I have an adopted child) but it isnt an issue if there is no one else in it! my school asked a few years ago to not put photos on of sports day and loads of people did. The school rightly asked everyone to remove them and one mum kicked up a right fuss. She actually had my child in the background of one of her photos and i could see it without being friends with her. Some people are dumb but having a picture up of your own child is not!

Equanimitas · 12/12/2019 14:55

Is it a costume you made or provided? If so, is there any reason why the school would know that hadn't taken the photo another time?

Mumdiva99 · 12/12/2019 14:58

Send it by What's app so that it goes to only those who should see it - avoid any school mums seeing a general post on your FB page - and then only your family will know.

AJPTaylor · 12/12/2019 14:58

I would share. Our rules were no other child/ even if it's just an arm!

Juliette20 · 12/12/2019 14:58

No problem on whatsapp anyway - much easier to share with a distinct group.

ProfessorSlocombe · 12/12/2019 15:02

'tis better to ask forgiveness than permission ...

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cjt110 · 12/12/2019 15:03

@Equanimitas He's in a christmas jumper sat on the steps in front of the alter with the stained glass window lit up behind him. I have scoured to double, triple and hundred time check there is nothing identifying. Other than his yellow collar from his polo shirt peeking out you'd have no idea. And then only if you knew X school wore yellow. There are definitely no others in it.

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Whattodoabout · 12/12/2019 15:05

Of course you can post it. You only can’t post photos that identify other children.

coconuttelegraph · 12/12/2019 15:05

Of course you can post a photo of your own child, surely only the most barmy of schools would try to stop parents sharing their own children's photos

Elbeagle · 12/12/2019 15:07

I have sent pics of mine (on her own, no other children in the picture) in the school play to my family and haven’t even thought twice about it.

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