Nativity photos - Solitary photos of my child.

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I have photos from my son's nativity this AM. All lovely and with others in. I will clearly NOT share them for safeguarding reasons. This has been asked by the school too. We cannot share them on social media/email whatsapp etc.

I have a photograph of my son, before the nativity, sat on the steps, just him with no one else in the photo. It's a beautiful photo with the church alter behind him and the stained glass windows...

He is in costume too so you couldn't even identify his school.

I would really like to share this with family members who won't be able to see the photo on my phone but this means sharing - by whatsapp or facebook - and I don't know where I stand on it.

I asked a friend and she said it was "My call" Another said it's your child, share what you like.

School said that there are photos to be published of the children, in dress rehearsal at school, on the website.

So I suppose my Q is WIBU to share a photo of my son, with no-one else at all in the photo, and perhaps some of the dress rehearsal photos too which are publicly available on the schools website?

I;m in 2 minds. School said no sharing. But it's my child and there is no-one else in the photo. But then again, school said no sharing...

I wouldn't share the ones of the kids in dress rehearsal - I was the protected kid and more than once someone accidentally uploaded a photo to the school website, which led to more nights away from my foster family or being reissued to another family... but I'd be happy sharing the one of my child alone.

Thank you to those who have shared their own expriences mummumumumumumumumumum and AnchorDownDeepBreath

I think I will share it. Thank you.

I am aware on a more personal level as I have 2 friends whose children are adopted/surrogate babies and also children who have had involvement with social care. And as such am familiar with the battles they have with SM.

I think that's why I am so cautious (and daft!) worrying about it!

Are you seriously asking if you’re allleed yo share a p

You are thinking too much. If you are aware of other people's circumstances and risks, you wouldn't be asking this on MN. You would know what is right and wrong, and what's allowed and what isn't.

I make sure in among the photos I take of my kids' plays that I always get at least one that has no other children, or is croppable to have no other children in it to share on social media to my friends list. The ones with other kids in like the ensemble shot at the end are for family only and don't go on FB - but no other kids around = OK in my mind.

If you share the picture of your son on his own, privately, ie just with people close to you, I see nothing wrong with that and the school won't know. Ask him if he minds, I know he's little but should still be asked. The reason the school say not to share is because there are some people who post personal things, including photos, all over social media for the world to see and that really is not right.

Make sure that he is on his own in the shared photos though, you mentioned a rehearsal one which features others and I don't think you should do that, even if it is on the school's website, unless you can obscure the other children and surroundings and just isolate him.

The other thing you could do is print out the pictures and enclose in Christmas cards.

Gosh you're so lovely to think about this. I have an adopted child and appreciate your care. But in this case the photo sounds fine.

Of course you can share a photo of your child, just not anyone else’s.

We are always advised to take a photo after the play of your child on their own rather than during the play.

Oh just do it. Literally everyone in my school films the whole nativity and sticks it up in fb despite the school asking them not to. No one really cares unless there is a safeguarding issue with a particular child, in which case filling will be banned full stop

Y DDs school took an individual photo of each child on stage in costume and have emailed it to the parents- these are allowed to be shared. No cameras allowed at the performance.

How would the school even know? Massively over thinking.

It's so lovely to have someone who understands the need to be careful with photos.
If the photo only has your child in and there's no link to school and theres nothing identifying then you can share it. Personally I would send through a messaging app rather than on social media

If it's only your child, share away.

Anyone else's, not without permission.