I had dinner with a pregnant friend the other day and she could not stop bringing the conversation round to her pregnancy every few minutes. I know this is an exciting time for her, but she is well aware that I'm infertile, and that I'm not happy about being childless and single (she's 30 and got married a few years ago).
I don't mind so much her talking about the physical effects of pregnancy or her apprehensions about childbirth, but what put the tin lid on it was when she got all misty-eyed about how she wants to instigate new Christmas traditions with her own family, going into detail about which presents will come from Santa, etc. She knows that I spend Christmas on my own every other year because I find being around other people's children quite hard sometimes, and my brother has four under ten.
I'm not sure whether to say something as if she carries on like this I don't see the friendship surviving but bringing it up may well make things very awkward. (She's a neighbour at the moment, but planning to move in a few months.) I'm actually quite annoyed that she can't sufficiently see beyond her own situation to rein in the waxing lyrical about how lovely her life is going to be when she has a family.
Am I damned if I do, damned if I don't? Or is there a way to have a conversation about this and for her to "hear" me?