Boyfriend so irresponsible

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Not sure if I'm posting in the correct place but just wanted to vent and to know if I am unreasonable to be driven crazy by this!!!

Me and my boyfriend have been together since age 16 and we're 23 now. We've always had a good relationship and are like best friends but one thing about him that drives me mad is that he is just so irresponsible.

A few examples..
He got a parking ticket, didn't pay it on time so ended up having to pay almost £200 instead of the original £30 fine.

Gets speeding ticket, 'forgets' to pay it so now he owes almost £400 for this speeding ticket which was originally £100.

Goes on night out, loses his wallet which has a lot of money in it.

Can't cook anything for himself and will wait until his mother is home to make him dinner - he's almost 24 for gods sake!!!

We don't live together or have any children but sometimes I think how the hell would he cope having to look after a child if he can barely look after himself.

So AIBU to find this behaviour really really annoying when there are no other problems in our relationship? Opinions and advice please even if it is brutally honest and to tell me that I'm being a diva!

I know, OP, the funny thing was that the wife had no idea how ridiculous her DH sounded. My DH was particularly unimpressed.

It is certainly the case that men get away with being incompetent in the kitchen whereas women wouldn't.

is very driven when it comes to his job, he's just way too laid back for his own good.

No, he isn't. He's not laid back. He's lazy about this area of his life because he hasn't had to face a really serious consequence for the former (being irresponsible about fines and money) and CBA'd with the latter (lifework like feeding himself).

The number of men on the Relationship boards who are 'driven' and ambitious and succeed highly at work but are incapable of FA at home are legion. It's uncanny, how many just CBA'd to give that part of their lives the same attention. Funny that?

Rent first. Forget enabling this person, just don't. He doesn't step up, honestly, just stop. You cannot change or train or make an immature person who believes lifework is someone else's problem.

Chances are he will never change. You can either stay with him and accept you'll probably end up having to mother him or just leave him and find someone who is mature.