Not to pay the £80 back to friend?

[happydappyzoo]

18 months ago I lent a friend £200 so we could buy some tickets to two events.
I paid for mine and hers and the agreement was in a couple of months she would pay me back.
She said she would put the train tickets £80 on mums credit card and I would give her the £80 on the day of travel.
Now fast forward a year and she hadn't paid and the event was in two weeks.
I asked her about the £200 and she turned nasty..saying I was greedy and telling other friends I was pestering a poor woman with 3 kids for £200.
Now ..she gets over £1400 a month,doesn't pay full rent and is bragging on Facebook all the time about money she's spending.
Going on weekends away and spa days ..but couldn't pay me back,I had enough.
I told her I wasn't going on this trip (she still had another girl going to the events with her )
And to take the £80 I owed her mum out of the £200 she owed me.
She refused and started saying I ripped her mum off to everyone.
Now 6 months after that kicked off..she hasn't paid a penny to me and text saying she wants me to set up a payment plan of £20 a week to clear the £80 to her mum.
I'm not doing it..aibu ?

Bollocks to that. If she was on a low income and couldn't afford the tickets then she shouldn't have agreed to go and asked you to get them in the first place. It's not like going to an event is a necessity is it?

I'd just reply "Great idea re: the payment plan. Please pay your Mum £20 for the next 4 weeks to cover £80 from the £200 you owe me, and then repay me £20 a month for the next 6 months for the remaining £120".

YANBU
but i wouldn't be combining the two debts

She owes you £200 for her ticket
She owes you £200 for your ticket her friend used - what was the agreement on that?

She bought a train ticket for £80 that her & her friend used.

You're actually owed £400 by her (& her friend)
Her mum is owed £80 by her (& her friend)

You don't owe anyone anything !

I wouldn’t suggest she pays you after the £80 has been paid to her mum because you’ll never get anything back at all. I agree with the PP who said to try to contact your ex friends mum.

and i wouldn't be too sure that her friend didn't pay her for the ticket/train. She could actually have made a fair bit of money out of this whole situation which would explain her public outcry and defensiveness.

Good point from PPs about you not owing anything at all, actually. And can you clarify - they used your ticket, so how much was the total you spent?

just text

yes i'm going to pay your mum out of the £200 you owe me let me know when this is and I can settle up with your mum.

Ignore her and end your "friendship"..she.isnt a friend

Pp the op is owed £200, the ex friend and whoever she took with her, owe the mother of ex friend £80.

Pp please stop getting so confused. The op is not owed £120, the op is owed £200.

I bet the friend who went with the CF paid for her train ticket. Or paid CF something for the event tickets.

I wouldn't even respond to any of this.

I would send the letter Crackerofdoom suggested, it is very clear then to the mother that you are owed money and so is she

She sounds bonkers

Sorry for the late response -
According to her the girl who took my ticket didn't pay for it,she just got it for free rather than let it go to waste ???? (Which I don't believe )
She's never going to pay back what she owes me.

I would just tell her to take you to a small claims court if she’s really that bothered. Chances are she won’t as she’ll be the one in the wrong and will have to pay you and her mother, and will just dissapear off.

Tell her you did not give permission for the use of said tickets.
That you have proof that both were used now thanks too her admission.
Just tell her to expect court papers.

So she's used both tickets at £100 each and you've not even used the train ticket ... I'd be telling her about small claims and if you don't have the train ticket then assume it's been used by the other person or they've got a refund .. unless they can produce pristine, unused tickets / saying that, it's not that you can use them now, or could have which kind of means you don't owe the money if you didn't have access to the tickets in the day of travel - id be freakin livid

Consider yourself a 'shit friend lighter' and take thst as a bonus!