To regret doing this? What should I do?

[uahlyaday7]

I've namechanged as I don't want to be outed.

Last night I went out for a drink with my friend. He's gay but he has a daughter from when he was denying that he was gay.

He had a pint and then he started flirting with me. Saying I was sexy etc.

He asked me if I would want to go to his place to watch a film because he didn't want to get drunk. I said yes and he carried on flirting with me. I don't know why but I kissed him and then we ended up sleeping together

I really regret this. And don't know what to do.

I'm going to see him later as im going to my works Christmas party and he said he would come with me if I wanted to go because I didn't want to go alone (im the only single person at work and they are going to bring their partners).

[katewhinesalot]

Tell him you'll put it down to a mad moment.

He's told you today he's not bisexual so he's not interested in taking it further.

Try and laugh about what a pair of fools you were. You can get over this with humour. If you make it a heavy conversation you are more likely to ruin the friendship.

[Bluntness100]

He's your ex's best friend? What do you mean he slept with you to show off to your ex? That's a really odd thing to think and you need to explain it, no one shags their best friend's ex to show off to them, that would be spiteful and not th actions of a friend.

Are you both adults? I am Hoping so, but the fact neither you nor him seem to know what gay actually means would indicate otherwise

[AnniePankettonne]

Does he normally reply quickly?

[lyralalala]

He's asked If we are still going out later and I said I don't know. He then said he wants to talk and that we don't have to go to the work thing we can go out on our own.

He might just be as confused as you, however him suggesting you don't go to your work do combined with being possessive/protective when you have a boyfriend jumped out at me

Be very careful here. You had sex and then he kicked you out. Be careful it's not a case of him not wanting you, but not wanting anyone else to have you either

[AnniePankettonne]

Can you go without him ?

[lljkk]

Do you want an ongoing romantic relationshp with this fellow, OP?

[uahlyaday7]

Yes he's my exs best friend. I don't think he slept with me to make my ex jealous someone else mentioned it up thread. My ex wouldn't even care.

He usually answers as soon as he sees the message. Or if he doesn't (if he replies the next day or later that day) he apologises.

[Justaboy]

MinervaSaidThat

Yes quite lucid but if you look at the post timings you'll see they pretty much crossed over!.

[Sodamncaughtinthemiddle]

He probably feels just as awkward as you
Meet him and chat

[Onesnowballshort]

He had more foreknowledge of what was coming though. He flirted, asked her home with him, which she would not have responded to in the same way with a straight man. He's really messing with her head.

[uahlyaday7]

I think I'll go to the works do for a bit and then meet him but not sure.

[GameSetMatch]

Go on your works night out with him if you want to keep the friendship, it will be too awkward if you don’t meet up again straight away, it’s like a plaster coming off do it quick or it hurts more. If your not bothered about the friendship go on your night out alone and forget him and have a great time.

[uahlyaday7]

I dont know if I'm going to go with him to the works night out or if I'm going to meet him after.

[CurlyhairedAssassin]

Um, sorry if this is a bit personal, but I was just curious to know, did he “finish”?

I’m struggling to understand how someone who claims to be a gay man is turned on enough by a woman to get a hard on in the first place, never mind climax. (Am going to assume anal wasn’t involved, but who knows....)

[diddl]

Why not just leave him for one night??

Go to the party, see him some other time.

[uahlyaday7]

Yes he did finish. He told me he was hard and said this is going to be a weird question but can we have sex.

[Ferretyone]

@ReanimatedSGB

Oh thank you - thank you!

[LilQueenie]

HES NOT GAY! You dont 'turn' gay and he was with a women before so its obvious he is Bi. He possibly just favoured one sex over the other.

[MrsAJ27]

You are both making this more awkward that it needs to be. Just go with your original plans

[hallohallohallo]

uahlyaday7 Sat 07-Dec-19 19:26:42 Yes he did finish. He told me he was hard and said this is going to be a weird question but can we have sex.

And then you said 'Ok' and dtd and then he said 'Now you may go' and then you were filled with regret?

Was contraception used?

[uahlyaday7]

He's always said being with his ex doesn't count as he was 16/17 and was trying to convince himself he wasn't gay (he thought his dad wouldn't accept him as his dad always tried to make him be violent etc).

[uahlyaday7]

For some reason I said yes and after he asked if I enjoyed it and then said 'can you go it's late'.

No we didn't use contraception because he didn't have a condom. But this morning I took the MAP.

[hallohallohallo]

If you feel up to it OP then have a chat with him tonight and talk it all over. Otherwise stay in tonight and have a think about how you feel and what you want and maybe try to chat with him tomorrow.

[namina]

Sounds very bizarre! You need to meet him and talk things through

[TeachesOfPeaches]

Oh Jesus OP. No contraception? You need to get yourself down to the clinic for a STD test.