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To ask how I can show my face on Monday

391 replies

cadburyegg · 07/12/2019 09:40

I went to a works Christmas do last night, drank too much and made a tit of myself.
I’m dreading going to work on Monday! AIBU to hand my notice in?! I can’t see another solution!! Help!

OP posts:
TooSweetToBeSour · 07/12/2019 11:22

more details needed OP, survival strategy depends on it

cstaff · 07/12/2019 11:28

Everyone has done this at some stage including your colleagues. They will just be relieved that it is not their year for making an eejit of themselves. Just laugh it off and know that it won't be you next time.

IcedPurple · 07/12/2019 11:30

Agree with other posters - it won't be as bad as you fear it is. Chances are many of the others were equally plastered and won't even remember. So long as you didn't strip naked and/or call the boss a twat it's no biggie.

Gardai · 07/12/2019 11:32

We need the precise details - puke and farting could mean a multitude of scenarios.
Full sympathy with be given of course 🙄

LagunaBubbles · 07/12/2019 11:34

Where did you puke? Hopefully into a toilet?

Celebelly · 07/12/2019 11:36

My friend puked on the boss's shoes at a work do once. She still works there 10 years later Grin Another friend got so drunk she had to get a lift home from one of the bosses and spent the whole journey slagging off the company and the management. She also still works there Grin

Findumdum1 · 07/12/2019 11:38

When i was a student i worked on a helpdesk. A girl waa leaving so we went out to the pub at lunch to celebrate. When we came back she walked in and threw up all over her keyboard and monitor. Then she just walked out and went home!

dontwanttosit · 07/12/2019 11:38

Celebelly someone done that at my old work too a couple years ago. I had left well before then but when he came in on the Monday everyone was joking with him but he had no idea he had done that. Luckily the boss was very casual and she laughed along too and wasn't overly annoyed. Works nights out are the devil.

astridstar · 07/12/2019 11:41

I'm sure it's not as bad as you think, remember everyone else will have had a few drinks as well (I'm sure there will be someone else at the party waking up and feeling the same this morning) plus hangxiety will be making you feel much worse. It will pass, stay hydrated, try to sleep and if possible go out for a walk, fresh air and mild exercise will help. Try to not worry about work. I'd say nothing, don't draw any attention to it, and if someone mentions it just say 'yes, what a party' or something along those lines and get back to your work. Be kind to yourself, remember it's just the 'hangover fear'.

Likethebattle · 07/12/2019 11:41

I worked with someone who had his drink spiked. He stripped and tucked his bits back and shouted ‘look at my mangina!’ He styled it out if anyone mentioned it just said ‘ah you want a second look do you?’ And worked there for 5 years.

Kittykat93 · 07/12/2019 11:42

Where did you puke? Where did you fart? I need to know!!!!!

juneybean · 07/12/2019 11:43

My first night out at my current job I was sent home in a taxi bu 10pm with sick down my arm. Now the boss makes sure I'm coming as loves people enjoying themselves Grin

lisag1969 · 07/12/2019 11:43

Don't be so stupid, leaving yourself without a job. Apologise if you feel you should and get on with it. Also learn from this and don't drink so much where you could also put yourself in danger never mind, being embarrassing.

rhubarbcrumbles · 07/12/2019 11:44

Did you clean the photocopier afterwards?

SouthWestmom · 07/12/2019 11:45

God British culture is so grim and unclassy. Like it's expected at a works do to have someone chucking up and making a tit of themselves.

lovemenorca · 07/12/2019 11:46

More important than the detail of incident is your role in the company.

Young inexperienced juniors can get away with a heck of a lot more than managers! My ex husband, very senior, he would join his team for one drink and then leave. He didn’t want them to feel on guard; he didn’t want to see stupid behaviour; and he didn’t want even the slightest risk of him getting tipsy!

StCharlotte · 07/12/2019 11:46

Our Christmas Party is on Friday 20th and then we're closed until New Year plenty of time for everyone to forget any bad behaviour. I hope.

lovemenorca · 07/12/2019 11:47

* God British culture is so grim and unclassy. Like it's expected at a works do to have someone chucking up and making a tit of themselves.*

In some companies, yes. Not in any of the ones I’ve worked in. Really nice meal out followed by a few drinks

Horehound · 07/12/2019 11:48

@Noeuf it can be grim but don't paint us all with the same brush.
Also, I think Brits do drink more because the weather is shit there's nothing else to do!

StCharlotte · 07/12/2019 11:49

puke and farting could mean a multitude of scenarios

I suspect they were simultaneous...

ReanimatedSGB · 07/12/2019 11:50

Most people have done this sort of thing at least once. Some of us (and probably some of your colleagues) will have done it more than once.
Don't fret too much. And bear in mind that a company with a culture of disapproval regarding drunken twattery should not organise office functions with subsidized drink in the first place. Most places that hold that kind of old school festive piss up expect or at least cheerfully tolerate a certain amount of silliness - it's probably only an actual assault on a colleague or deliberate destruction of property that would get you fired.

(Mind you, I slapped a colleague at one party and kept my job, because everyone else hated him...)

MissRabbitNeedsAHoliday · 07/12/2019 11:53

This is why I don't go to work functions because I know this would be me with the fear 😂🙈
People will get over it, you just need to try to brazen it out until then. Weve had people being arrested at our work functions and all sorts and everyone eventually gets over it! Good luck!

ooooohbetty · 07/12/2019 11:54

I agree that you have beer fear at the moment. I'd brazen it out. Apologise for being so drunk but say what a great time you had.

category12 · 07/12/2019 11:56

It's the beer-fear.

Go in to work as normal. Brazen it out.
"What am I like!"
"What night! So embarrassing, never again! haha"

Next week's chip-paper.

SouthWestmom · 07/12/2019 11:57

Obviously there are exceptions or if he a hypocrite (as am British) but it's just so depressing. Go abroad and there are the drunk Brits; go out in town and walk past fights and drunks girls chucking up; no one seems shocked or surprised that works dos end up with this kind of behaviour.

I don't know why the UK seems so much worse.