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in being shocked at young boy in sleazy tshirt???

86 replies

indiasmum · 22/08/2007 18:19

was in sainsburys with dd (thats irrelevant really dont know why i said that!) and saw a boy age about 11 or 12, really no older wearing a tshirt which on a man i would have thought 'twat' or similar.... one of those dreadful fcuk things where the joke has really overrun itself now
it said on it

'too busy to fcuk'

now obv i know it doesnt say the actual f word and haha arent french connection really funny and all that?! but on a boy? out with his parents? why would you let your child wear it? nay, why would you buy it for your child to wear?

now it doesnt offend me per se, i just think its wrong! i dont think i am being unreasonable to expect children to wear suitable attire and that i wont have to be bothered by said child and his 'oh-so-liberal- parents all night!

would you have been shocked by this?

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RGPargy · 22/08/2007 18:23

YANBU!

I would have been shocked that a kid that age was wearing it too!

Like you say, on a bloke yes, you can accept that they are twats and guffaw at their stupidity but on a kid? Nah, a bit wrong!

donnie · 22/08/2007 18:24

I hate these fcuk t shirts - they are deliberately provocative. It particularly annoys me if I see men with small children wearing them!!

just recently I spotted a girl, about 12 yrs old, wearing a t shirt which read PSYCHO BITCH in huge letters. I was pretty shocked actually. And she was with her mum who clearly didn't mind!!!!

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indiasmum · 22/08/2007 18:25

oh glad not just me then, i mean i have boys but not quite that age and i'd like to think they wouldnt want to wear anything like that. do you think the parents might not have understood??? lord knows my mil wouldnt!

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handlemecarefully · 22/08/2007 18:26

Shocked - no, because I know there are half witted parents out there. Disdainful and disapproving - certainly

quickdrawmcgraw · 22/08/2007 18:26

Is definitely wrong. YANBU
It's like buying a child something with the Playboy logo on. I find it really distasteful that they are marketing parents to display the logo of a pornographic empire on 4/5/6 year olds

DANCESwithDumbledore · 22/08/2007 18:26

Gross, absolutely gross. I hate the fcuk slogan it's just so sad. You can just imagine the spotty teenager in the advertising agencies saying 'huh..huh...wouldn't it be cool if...' GROW UP FCUK..you're not big and you're not clever.
Back to the point...I would be shocked to see a child that age wearing a t-shirt like that

msappropriate · 22/08/2007 18:27

I saw a 12 year old boy with some awful slogan (I can't remember is word for word) but it was a comment about breasts jiggling without acutally saying breast etc.

Why on earth would you let them wear it?

handlemecarefully · 22/08/2007 18:29

Puts me in mind of something I read in the Times today in that half jokey column called something like modern morals, or modern ethics or something. A reader had written in to say that he and his wife had spotted a father pose his small daughter (estimated to be around 3) for a photograph, holding the penis of a naked male statue. The reader explained that he had found it humourous but his wife had been horrified - and the reader wanted the columnists opinion.

I was in the horrified camp

MrsMarvel · 22/08/2007 18:31

YANBU. I hope you glared at his parents in a snooty and disgusted way.

Wilkie · 22/08/2007 18:31

No YANBU. That is such bad taste - they are bad taste at the best of times (DH has one that says 'FCUK feel the swell' on it that he wore the first time he met my parents ) but on a 11/12 year old it is exceptionally inappropriate.

Having said that I did see a girl of about 10 on a flight to Majorca with a t-shirt that says 'THIS BITCH BITES'. Lovely.

FrannyandZooey · 22/08/2007 18:38

LOL HMC

we went to see the Gormley exhibition which features naked statues and I took some pictures of my ds and Greeny's ds larking about with the statue. It took them about 15 secs before they were grabbing the penis we did find it amusing, I must admit

I think deliberately posing a child like that is just bizarre, however. What an odd sense of humour.

handlemecarefully · 22/08/2007 18:40

Think it's different Franny if the child is larking about and initiates this themselves (innocent playfulness in small children)

This is the article women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/the_way_we_live/article2300501.ece

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indiasmum · 22/08/2007 18:42

lol mrsmarvel, i seem to have that look permanentlly etched on my face!!

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madamez · 22/08/2007 18:47

WHo knows. Maybe absolutely everything else the child owned was in the wash. Maybe the child had thrown up on himself and they'd had to buy him something cheap to wear from the charity shop because they were miles from home.
Or maybe the child wanted to wear it and the parents were of the opinion that it's only a FCUKing t shirt after all and he'll get bored with it soon enough.

But don't let that stop people having fun minding other peoole's business, eh.

handlemecarefully · 22/08/2007 18:53

She's off again

elasticbandstand · 22/08/2007 19:04

i spose he was the TWAT's son, and the twattess, or whoever bought him the shirt!

sugarmatches · 22/08/2007 19:14

I took dd to her school disco (primary school) and I saw a year 6 girl of around 11 wearing a top that said I'M NOT A LESBIAN, BUT MY GIRLFRIEND IS. She walked right past the headteacher who said nothing. In fact, no one seemed to be as outraged as I was, especially considering it is a primary school disco.
UGGHH!! Who even let her buy that top??

FioFio · 22/08/2007 19:15

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RGPargy · 22/08/2007 19:17

Fio!!!

LilianGish · 22/08/2007 19:24

I saw a young boy (12/13) at Centre Parcs in Germany wearing a T shirt which read I f for coke (no asterisks and it wasn't a French Connection T-shirt). Of course he could have been German and might not have understood what it said - if he'd been with his parents I would have challenged them. I remember a court case at Hastings Magistrates Court a few years ago where a man was fined for wearing an offensive T-shirt - It said Jesus is a c. In answer to the OP I think all FCUK T-shirts are pretty offensive - whoever is wearing them.

cocolepew · 22/08/2007 19:37

A few months ago, at our shopping center, I saw a girl, no more than 4 yrs, wearing t-shirt saying 'horny bitch'. Stopped me in my tracks.

southeastastra · 22/08/2007 19:45

i saw an (approx) 9 year old boy wearing a McShit t- shirt, ironically he was in KFC

MrsMarvel · 22/08/2007 19:58

Madame z - to follow, perhaps that would have been the appropriate response to the parents. "where did he get his fcuking t shirt? It's fcuking great!"

SleeplessInTheStaceym11House · 22/08/2007 20:08

my SIL's (age 9 and 11 now) have tops saying 'young free and single' ' gagging for it' and if yo uthink i'm a bitch you should see my mother' nice

believe it or not i dont get on with my MIL!

madamez · 22/08/2007 20:17

I don't actually see what the big deal is here. Lots of kids go through a stage of trying to be shocking, rude words etc, and I'm sure one of the recommended measures for dealing with it is to shrug and let them get on with it because it won't last long.

I can't say I'd go out of my way to dress my DS in anything with FCUK slogans on (mainly because I always buy the cheapest clothes possible for him) but if he wants stuff with slogans on when he's older, I shan't be all that bothered. He does have a t-shirt that says 'most babies are average' which was painted for us by a mate and which I find amusing.