More of a WWYD...Every year we go to Pils on Christmas day(me, DH, DS16, DD14 and DD3) Sil and DH also come. Yesterday Mil told me Sil had said her dog (bull terrier puppy, but bigger than my DD3) had to come on Christmas day too, and that it would behave as her DH would be there. It wouldnt normally bother me, but her last dog (same breed) snapped at my throat (drew blood) when I was stroking it (still a puppy, but HUGE) which makes me uneasy around her new dog. Not only that, but our DD3 is constantly wanting to stroke/play with/pick up/chase/kiss etc. our cat (and any and every dog she sees.) DH said we'd spend christmas day at home as he doesn't want the DC round the dog, and doesnt want to spend the day constantly telling DD3 to leave the dog alone/hear her being screamed at (by mil) to stop going near the dog. It's bad enough trying to stop her at home with our cat, never mind a dog bigger than her that can snap at her when its had enough! I've told DH he can be the one to tell his DM that we wont be there Christmas day, but that we'll go boxing day, and hes fine with that. The problem is that his DM will see her arse BIGTIME, she'll throw a strop, more than likely not speak to us for a few weeks (years ago she burst into tears when we said we didnt want to go shopping with her, then stopped speaking to us for two weeks.) Don't get me wrong we have a great relationship with her and Sil, but I just don't want Christmas day to be ruined by everyone screaming and shouting at DD3 or the possibility someone will get snapped at by the dog. I'm normally fine around dogs, but this one has me on edge 😖 WWYD? Would you go and ask for the dog to be kept in its cage (as it does mostly in its home, but then it might as well be at home) go but keep DD3 with me at ALL times, or stay at home and visit boxing day?