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AIBU?

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To want to have a relationship with this man?

124 replies

AlternativePerspective · 04/12/2019 09:47

I play an online game, all fairly time-wasting. But one of the options is to play against others. This generally happens with no contact between you but the game has a chat function.

So yesterday I had a message from someone wanting to start a conversation. He’s an American, currently working over here for the C.I.A. And he’s spent 35 years in the military. Here on top secret business which he’s felt the need to share with me within the confines of the chat functionality of the game.

Is widowed and lonely and never has time for dating, and has never spoken to anyone like me before, I am a breath of fresh air....

So obviously he’s completely genuine. I mean what could possibly be wrong with that? Poor lonely man stuck in the UK on secret business which he isn’t allowed to discuss? Well apart from with me obviously.

So, would IBU to pursue a possible relationship with him?

Grin Grin

OP posts:
AnniePankettonne · 05/12/2019 09:01

He will be on a special ops.

AnniePankettonne · 05/12/2019 09:01

Although YOU are SPECIAL OP!

BarbaraStrozzi · 05/12/2019 09:03

Oh no, Alternative. And he seemed so genuine. I really thought he was a keeper. Gutted for you.

Collision · 05/12/2019 09:09

I have this on words with friends.

Drives me crackers.

So I became Claire from Canada. A single physiotherapist with her own business, likes to date and sleep around. Doesn’t date men with children as she finds them tiresome. Would rather be wined and dined.

Drives them crazy then and they always wanna go on hangouts.

Idiots.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 05/12/2019 09:43

how do I win him back?

Some excellent ideas right here: www.419eater.com/html/letters.htm

It's a heck of a rabbit hole to go down, but rewards the reading Wink

OhMsBeliever · 05/12/2019 11:24

Oh no. Maybe he's just busy with spying stuff in Derby. I'm sure it s a complete hotbed of spy activity there.

I hope he gets in touch later.

ArlenesWoodBurningStove · 05/12/2019 13:24

Sit on a park bench in Derby looking through eye holes cut in a newspaper. If he's CIA worth his salt he'll reveal himself.

StripeyDeckchair · 05/12/2019 13:47

Obviously you are a part time model, who rescues animals and does charity work in her free time.
Stoking rich with a house in the country, a penthouse in London, a villa in the south of France....... you get the picture

Collision · 07/12/2019 08:57

@AlternativePerspective has he replied?

My friend has just said he’s sending his 14 year old daughter to live with me before we marry and live happily ever after.

🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

BarbaraStrozzi · 07/12/2019 09:32

This thread has inspired me - over 50s dating sites here I come, armed with a pic of Helen Mirren in Reds. No one will suspect a thing.

AlternativePerspective · 07/12/2019 21:40

Update: after asking me to add him to some messenger or other he then sent me a message wanting to exchange “pics” it felt really uncomfortable after that even though I was stringing him along so I ignored him.

I have literally had a message half an hour ago demanding to know why I am ignoring his “massages,” meaning messages obviously. Grin having looked at his profile his location has now changed from UK to Nigeria. So I have now replied saying that it’s pretty obvious he’s a scammer, to go away and I have then reported him to the game and blocked him.

I think stringing along was fun for a bit, but it can IMO only go so far....

Damn. The love of my life..... gone. Grin oops I meant Sad obviously.. Wink

OP posts:
Zaphodsotherhead · 08/12/2019 10:45

Sniff. Another wonderful relationship, doomed by distance and bad grammar. And a desire for tit pics. Sniff.

AnniePankettonne · 08/12/2019 11:16

How are you AP?

AnniePankettonne · 08/12/2019 11:18

You could have sent that rattus photo.
Bare chest , in a skirt !

JumpiestBat · 08/12/2019 11:23

Time to create your own nutty alter ego! Ex model?, or cabin crew jetsetting the world and playing the game in your breaks from being on Necker Island parties with Richard Branson... Rich widow with seventeen cats trying to stave off the loneliness of being bequeathed millions...

JumpiestBat · 08/12/2019 11:23

Ah he blew his cover too soon!

xChristmasJumperx · 08/12/2019 11:25

Oh God. They're always widowed.

AlternativePerspective · 08/12/2019 11:37

Well, I blocked him but it seems the block function doesn’t work because he sent me this:

” I really don't understand what you mean by nigeria on my location?, and then this: I'm back to base in my country california okay., such eloquence and command over the English language there. One might almost be forgiven for thinking that it was straight from the mind of Google translate. Wink.

Anyway the only way to get rid of him was to play out the game and then decline any more game offers from him, and again to have contacted the creators of the game to warn them.

I’m devastated of course. What if he was the one? What if I’ve passed up on the opportunity of a lifetime with this handsome, wonderful specimen of a man? Grin Grin Grin

PS: I’m intrigued that 25% of posters voted YABU. Did people actually think I was seriously being sucked in here?

OP posts:
GunpowderGelatine · 08/12/2019 11:40

This sounds so real! Go and meet him, he definitely won't be a balding Unemployed 35 year old called Mark who lives with his mum

BarbaraStrozzi · 08/12/2019 12:16

PS: I’m intrigued that 25% of posters voted YABU. Did people actually think I was seriously being sucked in here?

There just jealous, Hun. Ignore the harerz.

(Did I spell that badly enough.)

xChristmasJumperx · 08/12/2019 12:25

I voted before I read the OP fully. I knew you were joking after I voted!

HalloumiGus · 08/12/2019 12:42

I play an online game. An incredible percentage of the men are cardiologists and pilots... 😁

BarbaraStrozzi · 08/12/2019 12:51

An incredible percentage of the men are cardiologists and pilots...

Grin Always convenient to be able to do both. Handles those disaster movie situations where the co-pilot/president of the USA keels over with a heart attack mid plot.

CardsforKittens · 08/12/2019 13:17

PS: I’m intrigued that 25% of posters voted YABU. Did people actually think I was seriously being sucked in here?

Yep. Misread the tone of your original post. Read a few replies and eventually caught on. Blush

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