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To ask neighbours AGAIN to leave me a parking space

87 replies

Sweetpeach3 · 30/11/2019 16:03

Long story short. Bought my house over a year ago....
neighbours are fine in general just a few annoying things, i.e have parcels delivered and their kids don't move out of bed all day to answer the door- we take them in and end up with them for atLeast 2 weeks unless I take it for them! (Kids are in their 20s just lazy)

My other issue is parking!!
They have 2 cars and a large van
Quick brief on how the situation is---
I own the land at the back of our houses (I can discribe it as a large alleyway were you can fit 2 cars side by side and it's 3 detached houses long) it's straight acces to all our gardens but I do own it overall. We do also have a parking bay outside our houses that would fit a car each. We're on a busy main road also

A few weeks ago they parked both their cars in front of my back gate so I literally couldn't get in the back gate and then had the van on the front (taking my space ) so I had to park over the main road. I left them a letter and they apologised and agreed they would leave the van an car at the back an leave me enough access to open my gate and then a car on the front so I atLeast have one space.... I'm heavily pregnant with 2 young kids so I think I'm being reasonable letting them use the whole back aslong as they leave me 1 pissing space
They also have a drive in their back but don't use it just block up the access road for everyone else
I know the past 2 people who have lived here have had the same issue with them
Last week we was having our loft and stairs re built. The man next door came home for dinner and sat on my front beeping (assumed we wasn't home) for my workmen to move their van out of my space as his van wouldn't fit. His car would of May I add!! Then when I went to the door he apologised as he didn't know we was home an said he will use his back why he's got his van!!!! Just utter arseholes but other then this their ok neighbours just very selfish

But
This past week iv been lumbered with 2 huge parcels in my downstairs bathroom they won't collect but they are in. I'm not walk-in them around AGAIN as they are heavy and they've took up the whole back and have 2 cars on the front. I'm due in 2 weeks an they know how busy the road is so AIBU to ask them to move one of their cars so I can park on my front as I'm struggling to walk and then to get 2 kids into a car on the opposite side of the road. Parked on the road not in a lay by designed for residents parking or on my backs so I'm not having heart failure trying to get over this main road to my car with kids an bags etc
Really annoying me because their kids are in their 20s and their late 40s no health issues as im aware making them have to all park so close.
I agreed to let them have the whole back aslong as I can have the front an they left me enough room to open the gate

Finding them so selfish right now???

OP posts:
Perunatop · 30/11/2019 16:07

If the land at the back is all yours and is an alley than the simplest solution would be put a gate at the entrance and padlock it. You can then always park at the back. And refuse to take their parcels since they were uncooperative.

DeathStare · 30/11/2019 16:08

YABU to not provide a diagram Grin

Evilmorty · 30/11/2019 16:08

Refuse the parcels. I do for the neighbours who signed for my tv and then claimed they didn’t. I haven’t said yes to a single thing since then.

PrayingandHoping · 30/11/2019 16:09

What access rights do they have to the alley? Do they have the right fit vehicular access? If they don't definitely gate and lock. Every time they park on your space at front make them move. And definitely refuse to take in parcels for them when delivery men knock

Evilmorty · 30/11/2019 16:09

Are you able to gate the back or is it a bit awkwardly sized?

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 30/11/2019 16:10

I'd tell them that they can't park in back at all until they show they are reasonable enough to leave you somewhere to park at the front

Jupiters · 30/11/2019 16:11

Definitely stop taking parcels in for them.

JumpyLiz · 30/11/2019 16:13

Why are you still taking parcels for them? Just say no.

Cornishmum00 · 30/11/2019 16:14

If they are in your space tell them to move and refuse to take in more parcels

WhoCaresWins01 · 30/11/2019 16:15

Re the parcels - just don't take them in!!!!

Stop being reasonable.

simplekindoflife · 30/11/2019 16:23

Your neighbours are being so bloody unreasonable! You are being too reasonable.

Tell them to move, every bloody time. Explain to them you may need to get in your car quick as are pregnant. Explain you are exhausted, with two young children, and you'd never forgive yourself if something happened to any of you while you were crossing a busy road... some people need it spelling out.

Can you put lockable bollards up?

Stop taking in parcels. Not even the small ones. You won't want constant knocking with a newborn! Tell the delivery people not to knock again. In fact, put a sign up: NO DELIVERIES FOR NEIGHBOURS PLEASE.

Drum2018 · 30/11/2019 16:23

Why are you accepting parcels for them? You are in no way obliged to, so stop being a mug. Next time one arrives just refuse it and tell the post man or Courier that you will only accept parcels addressed to your house from now on.

cabbageking · 30/11/2019 16:25

Get some heavy planters to define your space.

Ilikewinter · 30/11/2019 16:29

Why are you taking parcels in for them? I agree need a diagram for the alley - is it yours but they have right of access meaning you cant block it off with gates?

IWorkAtTheCheesecakeFactory · 30/11/2019 16:32

Decline the parcels when the delivery man asks.

Parking: need diagram. Sorry. Grin

PristineCondition · 30/11/2019 16:33

Your a year in and it's already shite, it won't get better. If you can block them

Drabarni · 30/11/2019 16:33

You haven't been lumbered with any parcels, I presume you accepted?
Put a fence round your land, stop giving them your land.
It's not rocket science.
You put yourself in this position and then moan, are you like this in all aspects of your life?

Stupiddriver1 · 30/11/2019 16:34

Do they have right of access to the alley?

Stop taking the parcels in.

Stupiddriver1 · 30/11/2019 16:34

And take the current parcels round and leave in their garden now.

Oakmaiden · 30/11/2019 16:35

I do think this one requires a diagram...

Grumpelstilskin · 30/11/2019 16:35

I really do not get posts like yours. Why take in the parcels! And the parking issue is also easily resolved with blocking it off. You sound like a professional martyr.

FuckyNel · 30/11/2019 16:39

@Drabarni Oh bloody give over

Drabarni · 30/11/2019 16:41

Fucky

Where are your pearls of wisdom, at least I said stop taking the parcels.
We're waiting, lovely.

Beautiful3 · 30/11/2019 16:44

Stop taking in parcels and see if you can build a wall around your property.

Kuponut · 30/11/2019 16:45

You don't HAVE to take in parcels - while I tend to happily take in most stuff - if I know I'm going out for the remainder of the day, or it's a huge box we don't have space to store - I politely decline to the couriers. Never had any bother with it.

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