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AIBU?

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To ask neighbours AGAIN to leave me a parking space

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Sweetpeach3 · 30/11/2019 16:03

Long story short. Bought my house over a year ago....
neighbours are fine in general just a few annoying things, i.e have parcels delivered and their kids don't move out of bed all day to answer the door- we take them in and end up with them for atLeast 2 weeks unless I take it for them! (Kids are in their 20s just lazy)

My other issue is parking!!
They have 2 cars and a large van
Quick brief on how the situation is---
I own the land at the back of our houses (I can discribe it as a large alleyway were you can fit 2 cars side by side and it's 3 detached houses long) it's straight acces to all our gardens but I do own it overall. We do also have a parking bay outside our houses that would fit a car each. We're on a busy main road also

A few weeks ago they parked both their cars in front of my back gate so I literally couldn't get in the back gate and then had the van on the front (taking my space ) so I had to park over the main road. I left them a letter and they apologised and agreed they would leave the van an car at the back an leave me enough access to open my gate and then a car on the front so I atLeast have one space.... I'm heavily pregnant with 2 young kids so I think I'm being reasonable letting them use the whole back aslong as they leave me 1 pissing space
They also have a drive in their back but don't use it just block up the access road for everyone else
I know the past 2 people who have lived here have had the same issue with them
Last week we was having our loft and stairs re built. The man next door came home for dinner and sat on my front beeping (assumed we wasn't home) for my workmen to move their van out of my space as his van wouldn't fit. His car would of May I add!! Then when I went to the door he apologised as he didn't know we was home an said he will use his back why he's got his van!!!! Just utter arseholes but other then this their ok neighbours just very selfish

But
This past week iv been lumbered with 2 huge parcels in my downstairs bathroom they won't collect but they are in. I'm not walk-in them around AGAIN as they are heavy and they've took up the whole back and have 2 cars on the front. I'm due in 2 weeks an they know how busy the road is so AIBU to ask them to move one of their cars so I can park on my front as I'm struggling to walk and then to get 2 kids into a car on the opposite side of the road. Parked on the road not in a lay by designed for residents parking or on my backs so I'm not having heart failure trying to get over this main road to my car with kids an bags etc
Really annoying me because their kids are in their 20s and their late 40s no health issues as im aware making them have to all park so close.
I agreed to let them have the whole back aslong as I can have the front an they left me enough room to open the gate

Finding them so selfish right now???

OP posts:

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 30/11/2019 17:35

donquixotedelamancha I’m not talking about access, I’m talking about ownership. Maybe I read it wrong, but aren’t they parking ON her land or just blocking it?

CuriousaboutSamphire · 30/11/2019 17:35

Go over there now and tell them again to stop taking the piss with the parking - keep pointing out you have small kids, are pregnant and it is YOUR BLOODY SPACE.

As you walk away, tell them that the parcels you have in your house are about to be put outside... If they want them, they are in, able bodied and capable of picking the fucking things up.

DO keep taking in their parcels... Keep holding them to ransom until they learn some manners

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 30/11/2019 17:36

X post.

SinkGirl · 30/11/2019 17:38

But OP doesn’t want to use the spaces at the back and won’t even if they don’t park there because it’s dark I imagine a hassle when wrangling kids while pregnant.

They have a parking space at the front and she’s kindly offered them the back spaces - all she’s asking is that they leave a front space for her. Blocking off the spaces won’t improve anything, in fact it will make it worse for OP.

Yoollyball · 30/11/2019 17:40

You may have to allow access only for things like repairs - that doesn't mean they can park and effectively block the lane. Check the access rights and then put up a couple of bollards or a gate. Can you run a light out to the back gate? . On a busy road with 3 dc and a dog, being able to park at the back of your house and get everyone out safety and at leisure is not something I would be handing free to others at the expensive of my own convience, even if it was a bit dark. A bit dark can be fixed. Reclaim your lane!

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 30/11/2019 17:41

Id put a lowerable metal bollard in each space along the back & put them up whenever i wasnt using the spaces.

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 30/11/2019 17:41

OP, put a sign up on your door stating that you are ONLY accepting parcels for your address, with no exceptions. You need to start standing up for yourself as your poor kids need you to. You don’t want to be dragging the wee pets across a road on a winters day.

PrettyPurse · 30/11/2019 17:42

Still can't see the diagram

Fuckenstein · 30/11/2019 17:43

I agree with everyone else, you need a bollard up so they can't park at the back and you will then be able to park there whenever you need to. Yes it's inconvenient getting in and out of the car to put them up and down but the alternative is to cross the road.

If you use a bollard rather than a fence or gate they can still access the back on foot.

QueenoftheBiscuitTin · 30/11/2019 17:44

Tell them they're not to park there at all now.

beautifulstranger101 · 30/11/2019 17:45

@sweetpeach3 - Good! good for you! Its a shame that no good deed goes unpunished. I get it. You try to help people out from time to time but they just end up taking the piss and taking advantage of your help. Time to set some boundaries for them if they're gonna do that.

Hollyhobbi · 30/11/2019 17:51

Can you can your parking space in front of your house designated as a disabled space? Your neighbours are gobshites especially with you being pregnant and having a disabled child.

donquixotedelamancha · 30/11/2019 17:51

donquixotedelamancha I’m not talking about access, I’m talking about ownership. Maybe I read it wrong, but aren’t they parking ON her land or just blocking it?

In that case, I agree, and have made a similar point.

Still can't see the diagram

People are so insensitive. OP identifies as having posted a diagram. The inclusive thing to do is to accept it exists, even if none of us can cis-see it.

mrsbyers · 30/11/2019 17:57

Refuse to take the parcels for starters

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Sweetpeach3 · 30/11/2019 17:57

@Hollyhobbi thats a good idea actually! Never crossed my mind to apply for the parking space to be labelled disabled. Going to try this Monday as it is a simple solution. It is hard trying to get my son into the car when he's having a bad day let alone how dangerous it is x

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PrayingandHoping · 30/11/2019 18:06

Can u apply for private spaces to be disabled?

U may end up with a disabled other neighbour thinking they are entitled to park there (and I beg current problem neighbours still would anyway!)

PerrysWinkle · 30/11/2019 18:20

You can only get a disabled parking space at the front of your house if you son has a blue badge.
You need to clarify whether your neighbours have access rights on foot or motor access. For example, we live in a terrace with gardens to the rest. We all have access rights on foot through each other’s garden to allow access to our respective gardens. This doesn’t not give people access to drive cars down there.

Jaxhog · 30/11/2019 18:22

You've stopped taking in parcels - good. Now write a formal letter rescinding their permission to park on your land at the back, and get the space at the front marked as disabled. Bollard as necessary.

TwoBlueFish · 30/11/2019 18:35

Is the space at the front an allocated space for your house? Or just open parking?

If it’s open non allocated parking then tell them that they can no longer park on your land at the back, this will at least mean that you always have a guaranteed space.

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Sweetpeach3 · 30/11/2019 18:36

My son is entitled to a blue badge but I don't have one

And they are only allowed access (includes driving as they have a drive at the rear ) x

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Tensixtysix · 30/11/2019 18:41

Have the NDN lived there for years? I ask because on our estate, each house actually owns the the road in front of the house (private estate), but one family has loads of cars and parks them all over the place, never asking permission.
They claim to have a right to all the land as they were here first!
Start clamping the cheeky fec*ers!

theunknownknown · 30/11/2019 18:47

They need access to their drive at the back of their house and I'm so tempted to tell them to not park their cars on my land no more as I'm left without anywhere to park

This is exactly what you should do - bollards are of no use in a scenario like this. But what about employing/instructing a clamping service type company to ticket or clamp any parked cars in the alleyway - that way they can still access but not park - and you could give your own car a permit so it doesn't get clamped. I have no idea if that is possible or not.

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Sweetpeach3 · 30/11/2019 18:49

@Tensixtysix il be honest my ex tried to pop them when they blocked me in after the first ew times so I left the letter and they kind of got the gyst for a few weeks lol.... I'm guna get kids to bed an go knock on with the smallest parcel I can manage an say move your car aswel as I need to be up and out in the morning xx

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MumOfOnee · 30/11/2019 18:52

Could you fence off a path sized part along side their gates then put a gate at the end of the remaining land so they can't park there anymore? Sounds like you've been a lovely neighbour but they are taking the piss and you shouldn't have to put up with not being able to get out of your back gate when doing them a favour!
Also if they continue to use your land as they please, they may end up trying to claim it as theirs which would then give you a much worse problem to contend with...
hope you get this sorted OP!

maddening · 30/11/2019 18:52

Can't see the diagram?

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