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Urgent: should we stay or should we go

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sef23 · 30/11/2019 11:16

Confused.com. This year we have booked a winter break in New Zealand where my family live - brother lives there and mothers visiting New Zealand as well, she lives in India. Haven't seen them in six years due to fly out dec 5th, back on Nye bargain payment of 2800 for a family of 4, brother has already paid and booked for flights from auckland (where we land) to Wellington. This is our first ever family holiday ever in 13 yrs of marriage and 2 kids.

Big problem - ds whose only 9 broke his arm 4 weeks ago plasters due to come off dec 19th.

They ve agreed to put on a split cast so we can take it off on the flight. Last x ray yesterday showed fracture is still there and still healing.

Hes a bundle of energy cant sit still, theres a high chance of refracture in the first 3 months and a full 12 months required for full repair due to angulation and movement of the bone, basically he broke it at a bad angle. (Green stick fracture in NHS terms).

I know kids heal quickly, but will he enjoy himself out there with a cast on for more than half of his trip? We were planning on lots of travelling and activities. I'm scared he ll hurt himself again and I'm worried about the low pressure on the pain and his arm hurting even though it's been 4 weeks, when they took the cast off yesterday (went round his elbow) to change it for a below elbow one it was still swollen and without the support of the cast it was hurting him.

Docs have said yes fine he can go... but hes not their child and forgive me I've had bad experiences with nhs so far in my life and dont really think some docs think things through properly. Their very busy and we don't really get more than 2 mins of their time and are shooed away pretty quickly.

Can you please give me some sensible advice. Am I being over cautious or right to be cautious I mean we can go to New Zealand again any time and have insurance to cover ticket costs.

Thanks

OP posts:
Ski4130 · 02/12/2019 02:23

I’d still go, healthcare in NZ is good, and if you’re a British citizen there’s a reciprocal agreement with the UK so you get discounted rates. We lived there for 4 years and unfortunately one of our nephews broke his wrist whilst he was visiting us, he got fantastic, cheap healthcare from our GP at the time, so I imagine you’ll be able to access decent medical advice should anything happen. Good luck with the drive down to Welly, she’s a long one, but the scenery’s spectacular!

Yajjjj · 02/12/2019 03:21

He can refracture anywhere here or NZ. Just ensure you have health insurance whilst away and have a fun holiday.

ThisIsNotMyRealName1 · 02/12/2019 03:23

Good to see you're still coming! :) Pack lots of layers for everybody, the weather here is ridiculously changeable at the mo.

As mentioned by previous posters, there is a reciprocal agreement although do be aware that some people working in health care don't seem to be aware of it.

MarleneandBoycie · 02/12/2019 04:22

we can go to New Zealand again anytime.. yet you haven't even left the country in 6 years?
don't really think some docs think things through properly what aren't they thinking through properly here, seeing as you are far more informed than them?

eaglejulesk · 02/12/2019 04:59

Good to hear you have decided to come here - you will all have a great time, and I'm sure your son would have been disappointed if you cancelled. I agree, pack lots of layers, hot one day, cold the next at the moment!

Damntheman · 02/12/2019 08:51

Glad you decided to go OP :) If it helps to know, I've flown on a recent not-yet-healed- broken bone before and it was okay! The split cast will definitely help. Have a wonderful time!

CravingCheese · 02/12/2019 09:08

I would go. Family is incredibly important imo.

Doc said he was fine to go... Could they give you a light brave to protect the arm / remind him to be careful with it?

And make sure your travel and health insurance would cover care he might need in ZW. (well, that should always be the case but it's worth checking again, I guess.)

CravingCheese · 02/12/2019 09:09

*NZ.

Not ZW. 😅

Indie139 · 02/12/2019 17:56

I would go

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