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Urgent: should we stay or should we go

109 replies

sef23 · 30/11/2019 11:16

Confused.com. This year we have booked a winter break in New Zealand where my family live - brother lives there and mothers visiting New Zealand as well, she lives in India. Haven't seen them in six years due to fly out dec 5th, back on Nye bargain payment of 2800 for a family of 4, brother has already paid and booked for flights from auckland (where we land) to Wellington. This is our first ever family holiday ever in 13 yrs of marriage and 2 kids.

Big problem - ds whose only 9 broke his arm 4 weeks ago plasters due to come off dec 19th.

They ve agreed to put on a split cast so we can take it off on the flight. Last x ray yesterday showed fracture is still there and still healing.

Hes a bundle of energy cant sit still, theres a high chance of refracture in the first 3 months and a full 12 months required for full repair due to angulation and movement of the bone, basically he broke it at a bad angle. (Green stick fracture in NHS terms).

I know kids heal quickly, but will he enjoy himself out there with a cast on for more than half of his trip? We were planning on lots of travelling and activities. I'm scared he ll hurt himself again and I'm worried about the low pressure on the pain and his arm hurting even though it's been 4 weeks, when they took the cast off yesterday (went round his elbow) to change it for a below elbow one it was still swollen and without the support of the cast it was hurting him.

Docs have said yes fine he can go... but hes not their child and forgive me I've had bad experiences with nhs so far in my life and dont really think some docs think things through properly. Their very busy and we don't really get more than 2 mins of their time and are shooed away pretty quickly.

Can you please give me some sensible advice. Am I being over cautious or right to be cautious I mean we can go to New Zealand again any time and have insurance to cover ticket costs.

Thanks

OP posts:
pelirocco123 · 30/11/2019 15:20

I thought swelling was only a problem in the first few days
A few years ago before medical checks were so strict jump jockeys would be competing with broken bones and no plaster

User342109097569098 · 30/11/2019 15:25

Doc said it’s fine! And they have doctors out in NZ. Of course you should still go!

saraclara · 30/11/2019 15:26

I hardly dare come back to this thread. If OP decides not to go, that poor kid will suffer so much.

Jellybeansincognito · 30/11/2019 15:30

Doctors are saying he can, why are you asking people who know nothing about the medical situation or medicine in general? (Bar a few I’m sure).

I think it’s bonkers that you won’t listen to a professional and seek comfort from random people on the internet.

JavaQ · 30/11/2019 15:45

Go. He is not going to heal any faster in the UK

Derbee · 30/11/2019 15:52

Definitely go. But ,ale sure you have decent travel insurance that will cover any potential complications whilst you’re away.

Ie declare a pre existing broken arm

Grafittiqueen · 30/11/2019 15:54

I'd go

Mummyoflittledragon · 30/11/2019 16:00

Why would you not go?

Greggers2017 · 30/11/2019 16:08

I think the OP is making excuses not to go. Never been away in 13 years. I don't think you like travelling do you?
Do you have anxiety?

Bluerussian · 30/11/2019 16:15

That is an acute insightful observation, Greggers. I hadn't thought it but now you've said it, it seems possible.

BlouseAndSkirt · 30/11/2019 16:19

There is no reason not to go.

Get a Limbo cast cover for the beach.

9 year olds are resilient.

Would you really deprive your other child of a holiday, you all if some sunshine, and your Mum the chance of being with you all?

Relax, get on the plane and enjoy yourselves.

lottiegarbanzo · 30/11/2019 16:36

Go, of course. I wouldn't consider not going.

You need good travek insurance - but you did anyway.

This is all about mitigating and contingency planning, it's nowhere near a 'should we go' scenario.

slashlover · 30/11/2019 16:52

Medical experts have said to go so why are you asking strangers (who don't know his medical history) on the internet instead? Also, you marked this as urgent but the arm still has almost another week of healing before you go.

sef23 · 30/11/2019 17:39

Overwhelmed the consensus is go, we haven't gone anywhere before other than the uk (staycations) due to money and work problems, I am a huge worrier it's just my make up, even the fam in NZ have said cancel protect his arm , have gone back x 3 to india to visit family with kids but dont think of that as a holiday.

Honestly my concern is his arm that its not fully healed still broken and that huge risk of refracture in first 3 months, like another poster said about their child, hes a law into himself but then again if hes gonna reinjure he could reinjure it anywhere, it's just for example he wants to wheel his own suitcase carry his own backpack run around freely etc kids lean on their arms when sleeping etc

Anyway after taking all your advice which is the same as my friends we are going to go - thanks mumsnet people all of you individually for replying xx

OP posts:
saraclara · 30/11/2019 17:46

Thank goodness! You've made the right decision, OP. Your son's psychological health is more important than his fracture.

You'll have a great time, and wonder why you ever worried about this, honestly!

spacepyramid · 30/11/2019 18:00

Good news. Have a fantastic time. I'm so jealous - I need to get to NZ again soon but it's not on the cards right now.

Jellybeansincognito · 30/11/2019 18:54

Just made sure you have really good travel insurance!

lottiegarbanzo · 30/11/2019 20:23

Yes, buy good quality 'known brand' insurance. Not cheap rubbish. It really does make a difference. NZ will have excellent healthcare available, so that's very reassuring.

Beveren · 01/12/2019 00:39

The risk of refracturing really isn’t huge, particularly five weeks after the injury.

mokapot · 01/12/2019 00:47

Defos go
Have fun
X

Greggers2017 · 01/12/2019 11:33

@bluerussian. The reason I came to that conclusion is because my mum and one of my sisters are exactly the same. They get so anxious before travelling and find excuses not to go.
Mum gets prescribed diazepam, well she used too. Before flying.

DonKeyshot · 01/12/2019 12:21

even the fam in NZ have said cancel protect his arm

I suspect their advice is based on what you've told them rather than the actual fact that your ds will be in no more danger of a new break or re-fractured arm in NZ than he would be if you stayed home.

Have a wonderful time in a wonderful part of the world, OP. I'm sure you and all of your family will thoroughly enjoy yourselves.

Countryescape · 01/12/2019 15:18

A greenstick feature is simply a bend in the bone. Very minor. Why don’t you just get a cast put back on in New Zealand? That way it’ll be protected for his entire holiday. Then get it removed for the flight home. Simple!

DonKeyshot · 01/12/2019 19:55

A cast won't be needed for the flight home as it's due to be removed on the 19th and the OP and her family won't be leaving NZ until the 31st, Countryescape.

flyingspaghettimonster · 02/12/2019 01:14

Get a water proof cast and go. We went camping when I had a fracture. I could still swim, boat, hikr etc with it.

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