Child doesn't know my name

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My DD is 5 and doesn't know my name. When you ask her what my name is she says "DD's mummy".

It's so frustrating but no matter how often she a hears my name she doesn't get it.

Aibu to expect her to?

Does she call you mummy though? Like 'mummy I need a drink'?

You don’t have a name yet! You exist as a mummy only at the moment. Names are for other people. Don’t worry.

DS is 3.5 and knows mine and DHs first names, as well as both my parents.

OTOH he is a bit confused by who his family is and includes my brothers flatmate and family friends. Its cute though.

Has she simply heard it or have you taught her? That's a different thing?

I hate my DD saying my name, I’m ‘Mummy’ not ‘Orangerocks’ (obvs that’s not my name but you get my drift!). First names are for friends, pre-school workers and acquaintances

What? Isn’t this just completely normal? To her, you are ‘mummy’

Surely though if someone asks her what her mummy's name is she should know?

My son knows I’m Daddy, he thinks my actual name is the cats name. Lots of young children struggle with the idea of a parent having a name other than mum/dad.

She'll learn in time. If it's important to you, maybe you could try a mnemonic device of some sort to help it stick in her mind.

You have a name as far as she is concerned - Mummy. Not sure at 5 it matters, much less that I'd be encouraging her to use it often. She probably doesn't see the need for you to have a different name for other people.

It’s really not important at this age.

My nephew calls my brother dad. His friend calls his dad papa. Now my nephew thinks papa is the man's name and calls him that. He doesn't actually know the meaning behind mom and dad. He just thinks it's their name. I'm sure they will figure it out

She won’t necessarily know or remember. Why should she at the moment? You are the constant. Any other monicker shakes that.

Your her mother though. I'm sure she knows your name its just to her your her mummy. Perhaps she's just not understanding the context of the question, maybe word the question differently?

Mine think my name is mum, I have to correct them all the time and say you know that’s not actually my name right 🙄 it’s normal, you’re being ott

Does it matter? Do you want her to call you by your name?
You’re her mummy, it doesn't matter to her at her age what/who you are to anyone else.

Also, in this day and age, kids don't tend to call their friends' parents "Mr Surname" or "Mrs Surname", or by their first names. I have had my 6 year old's friends address me as "[DS name]'s mummy". As in "DS's mummy, can DS come to my house for a play date" or "Thank you for having me, DS's mummy." So when your DC identifies you in that way, she may genuinely be repeating the title she hears children giving to adults.

I vividly remember asking my mum what her name was at my fifth birthday party. I was shocked that it wasn't mum.

We used to go to a weekly activity where the mums used to introduce themselves and children by name at the beginning. By 3 most children were introducing themselves and their carer by the correct name. I always laughed because my DD couldn't pronounce my name - always swapped two letters which made it very funny. She definitely knew it was my name though.

Teach her it, just in case she ever gets lost.

I've no idea whether DS knew my name at 5 years old. I certainly don't remember anybody asking him! I wouldn't stress about it.

I drilled it in to mine in case they ever got lost.

I work as an immunisation nurse in schools. One the things we ask to identify the child if they don't know their date of birth is they're parents name.

I would say that only 50% of reception and yr1 children know their parents' names!

It's so frustrating but no matter how often she a hears my name she doesn't get it

I don’t get why it’s so frustrating, she’s 5.
You are going to be pulling your hair out by the times she’s 12 if you are frustrated by that.