Child doesn't know my name

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My DD is 5 and doesn't know my name. When you ask her what my name is she says "DD's mummy".

It's so frustrating but no matter how often she a hears my name she doesn't get it.

I think she does know your name.
She just feels uncomfortable calling you it and saying it. Especially when you are asking her.
You're mum.

To be honest, I think OP is right. As a safeguarding measure, kids should know their parents names. God I had my home address, phone number, and both parents full names drummed into me before starting school.

What does your h call you? What do your friends cal you? Surely she hears people like this call you by your first name?

Look to Iceland for inspiration and address DD as Miss Vengasdottir. She'll soon get the picture.

It's definitely more from a safeguarding point of view. She is a bolter and I've had to collect her from lost children more than once and they commented that it's really difficult when a child can't even tell them their parent's name let alone anything else

She will hear my actual name multiple times a day

That's alright. I realised when DD was 4 that she didn't know her own name My DC know my name now as their friends call me that, but only when they regularly started to come to ours so about 2-3 years after they started school. Before that they knew Mummy and Daddy plus the family nicknames. I did make sure I taught them their surname and they know where we live because we always take the bus.

Soon after DS2 started talking (so 1 or 2?), I remember him standing in the cot calling "Mummy! Mummy!" and before I could get to him, he'd bellow, "SHINNNYYYYY!!!"

I've had Brownies (7+) not know their parents' names or their addresses.

My daughters knew from 2 that I had a name and could (try to) say it.

Make up a silly song about your name and sing it over and over, it will stick then

When I was child minding I needed the first name of one of the mums, but couldn't remember it, so I asked her 3 year old. She said it was mummy, so I said "What does daddy call her?" I didn't think I could write "Sweetie Pie" on the form I was filling in!

I remember once telling my DS when he was five, that my Dad's nickname when he was at school was 'Curly' because he had very curly hair - my DS laughed and laughed and said 'how silly, didn't they know his name was Grandad?'

Children think you are called what they most often hear you called - and I expect your DH/DP and other adults often refer to you as 'Mummy' in front of her. Does she know your partners name or does she think he is called Daddy ?
She's just not made the connection yet that some people have two names - or a title and a name. Which is fine - she's only 5.

She will hear my actual name multiple times a day

Right, but have you actually told her what your name is?

I think that is odd yes

My DH didn't know his mum's name until adulthood, not 18 like 26/27 (because it's very rude in his culture to refer to anyone older by their name). He knew her initials and everyone refers to each other as Mrs. So and So where he is from, so it was really never necessary. He only found out because he was renewing an adult passport and had to ask for his birth certificate (mum always filled in his forms prior). He knew his dad's because his DF died before he was born so had his DF's death certificate. I was surprised but when he explained why it made sense.

Think it's not a big deal OP, not sure if mine know yet (4, and 2.5 DSs). I knew by that age but I struggled to understand they had both names.

She should know your full name by now, most children (that I’ve met) know this around the age of 2. It is important in case they end up in a situation where they actually need to say who they and their parents are, and your address. The sooner the better, so keep practising.

DS has known my name since he was 2.... I know this because he will call me my name if I don't respond to his repeated "mummy...mummy" right away

Maybe you just need to actually tell Dd your name as she might be confused

I’ve taught 4/5 year olds for years. Many of them aren’t sure if their own names, let alone that of their parents.

Sorry OP, just seen she is a bolter.

In that case I guess it is very important for her to know. Maybe make up a rhyme or song for her to remember

At that age my neice couldnt grasp loads of simple things. An example she wouldnt believe that i was her daddys sister. She didnt believe her nanny was my mom and her dads mom. She didnt understand other countries and languages exist. Shes now 9 and one of the smartest kids i know. Its just that age.

By the time your child is at school it's important that they know their parents first name and the road they live in.
By junior school they should also know a number to contact a family number in an emergency off by heart.

I can see why it's important to you. My DS started calling me and his dad by our first names at 18 months, and he still occassionaly does it now at 3. But then we mainly use our first names with each other in front of DS. Do you do this with her dad, or does your partner call you "mummy" in front of your DD?

I wouldn't be overly concerned as long as she knows her own name and surname for when she gets lost. 5 is still very young.

DS was about 12 when he realized his dad's middle name was the same as his own name! He had no idea! I love it when i'm in a crowded store and hear a kid call out for "MOM!!" (American) It's funny to see so many heads turn, because we are ALL named Mom!

Completely normal OP. One of my DD's was asked by her reception teacher what was her mummy's name. She replied Mummy. Teacher said no, I mean her real name - what does Daddy call her? She replied "Darling".

My daughter is two and if I'm busy and not answering her straight away, she shouts "Becky" !!