Child doesn't know my name

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My DD is 5 and doesn't know my name. When you ask her what my name is she says "DD's mummy".

It's so frustrating but no matter how often she a hears my name she doesn't get it.

My 2yo knows both mine and DHs full name and sometimes refers to us as that which sounds weird. 4yo knows first names of other parents of her friends. In all fairness through how often are you called ' so and so's mummy'. I'm called it so much I've almost forgotten my own name!

Are you worried with any other aspects of memory or development? If so get her checked out. If not you could practice writing Christmas cards with your names on of it bothers you. I don't think I'd be bothered tbh.

As someone who is constantly finding lost children, I am always pleased when one can tell me their mum's name, so I do see the value in teaching them that you have another name that other people will know you by. I once had a small child who didn't know his mum's name, or his own (I hope that was just the pressure of a stranger asking!) but when I asked him to describe his mum he enthusiastically told me that she had blue eyes. Not the most helpful thing to look for, not lease because she didn't even have blue eyes when I did track her down!

So YANBU for wanting her to know it, but YABU to worry about it - just remind her every so often and write your name and phone number on her arm if you go to a festival or anywhere she might wander off!

To my 3yr old I'm "Maaaammmmyyyyyyyy!". My 7yr old knows our full address with postcode and my full name, has for years, but he soaks everything he learns up and retains it easily (wish I did!!)

Like PP have said, I think it's important for if they get lost. I'm a paranoid anxious mess just thinking about when they're older and "out with mates". I'm so glad cheap mobiles & smart watches exist now!

Names are for other people. Yes!

Around that age, I'd cottoned on that my Dad might have a "name" so I asked him what it was. He said Fred so I told him "no Fred Coombes (family friend) is called Fred." Then my Mum came in and used his name (not Fred) and I remembered I did know it after all.

Maybe ask your D'S "whose name is Venga?" and see if she knows it's you.

DD's best friend just has mum in her life and for a long time thought a lot of men were called Daddy. Including DH.

They're 9 now and she still calls DH Daddy sometimes, when she forgets. Shes a lovely child but couldn't get her head around if DD calls him Daddy that must be his name.

Its just one of those things that children process at different speeds. Your DD is secure that you are mummy. Thats great. A some point you'll also get to be an autonomous human being.

As a mum of teens it really does rush by. Enjoy being centre of her universe on that infalible mum pedistal.

My daughter is 6 and I get mum or “DD1 mum” or even “Mrs DD1 mummy” since I work in her school 😊 I’m in no rush to teach her my actual name.

My 5 year old knows my name, and often calls me it. He usually calls me by my name when talking to other people, as if they won't know who he is talking about if he said 'my mummy'. His year old friend on the other hand, has always called me by my son's name (e.g. 'Bob'), untill he came round to play a few weeks ago and obviously realised I was a person in my own right, as he has started to call me 'other Bob'!

Why does it matter so much?

Why on earth are you bothered. There will come a time when you wish your child still called you mummy.

Just asked my 5 year old dgs and he knows all our names the three year old has no idea

Hmm my 3yo has I known our names since he was about 2. I didn't realise that was unusual. He calls us mummy and daddy though.
Have you actually told her what your name is or has she just heard it in passing?

Does she know other people's names, eg her granddad's name when she calls him Granddad? What about her dad's name?

Mine used to get upset at the thought that Granddad was my dad. That couldn't be because dad was her dad!

I just asked DS4 what my name is, he said 'Mummy!'. I said no, my real name and he knew it. He knows Grandparents and his dad too, perhaps it just hasn't stuck yet for your DD. DD7 has only just learnt my birthday...that's much more important

But mummy is a title. ..
Much more important than your name!!

Mine knew my name was Ruby as that s what my friends/parents /partner called me but I was always mummy to them but if you asked them they would have said "mummy s name is Ruby W.....".
Does your dd hear other people call you by name often?

It would be useful for her to know your name in case she ever gets lost. Talk to her about how family works. She will get it if you teach her.I taught DS to recite my mobile number as well when he was about 3 as he was a ‘runner’ and I was really scared of loosing him!

My 4 yr old knows both our names and uses them regularly.
When she calls me Molly I call her Daughter.
I’m surprised yours doesn’t, but I guess they are all different.

Just asked DD what my name was and she said "Mummy😌". I explained I have two names and she looked at me like I had two heads. Obviously her mind is blown🤣

I'm obviously in the minority as I would think it odd if a 5 year old didn't know her parents names.
My nearly 3 year old knows both of our full names (her dad &I have different surnames) and the name of the area we live in, and what my job is, enough information for someone to get her back to us if she was lost. Maybe im more of a paranoid parent than I think......

My nephews think my first name is Auntie and my surname name is Sparkly

It’s normal. I was ten when I told my mother I didn’t like the name ‘X’. She was aghast and said that was Her name. I tried to get out of it by saying that X was diminutive for ‘Y’ and I liked Y. She didn’t buy it!

Have you asked her "what does daddy call me?"

My nephews think my first name is Auntie and my surname name is Sparkly

I really want a sparkly Aunty!

I’m a bit surprised that your DD doesn’t know your name
My DS used to call me by my name from the age of about 2 , that’s what everyone else called me , so he did too