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Flowers for sister

137 replies

Smilebehappy123 · 29/11/2019 17:11

I really need other opinions in relation to I'f I am being unreasonable as something happened last night that has really annoyed me
DH in 3 years we have been together has never bought me a bunch of flowers from a florist , iv often really hoped one day he would buy me a really nice bunch , not to sound ungrateful but I think iv received 3/4 bunches in the full time of our relationship and all have been supermarket bought ,at the time of receiving them iv always been grateful and thanked him
Anyway last night , so he nips out for present for his sisters birthday , comes home with an expensive looking bunch from interflora florist for her , its really pissed me off to be honest and I cant seem to shake my annoyance
Iv not said much to him today and I think he knows I'm pissed off
I just cant understand that he can make an effort for his sister but not me

OP posts:
DeRigueurMortis · 29/11/2019 18:10

You got there agreed of me Looby.

I only called time at "going for a lie down" Grin

ilovepixie · 29/11/2019 18:10

My OH has never bought me flowers in the 10 years we've been together. Maybe that's because he knows I'd rather have a box of roses rather than a bunch of roses lol.

DeRigueurMortis · 29/11/2019 18:11

Oops ahead not agreed!

Original poster
Smilebehappy123 · 29/11/2019 18:11

Looby you seem to have issues with my thread, if read your comments but your becoming a bully now to be honest

I really am feeling very down about this I'm going to try and speak to him about this tomorrow

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Kanga83 · 29/11/2019 18:12

3/10 for effort and credibility, although the responses have amused me on this one!

LesLavandes · 29/11/2019 18:12

OP don't read any more of the shot here. Go to party and just try to forget this .

LesLavandes · 29/11/2019 18:12

Shot not shot

steff13 · 29/11/2019 18:13

So, on gift-giving occasions, he buys you gifts, but not flowers.

On non-occasions, he buys you flowers, but they're not sufficient because they're from the grocery store and not the florist.

Is that correct? So you're upset that the "just because" flowers are not to your standards? If I were him, I'd stop buying the "just because" flowers at all.

Comparing flowers he buys you at the grocery because he was thinking of you to buying "proper" flowers for his sister's birthday is like comparing apples and oranges.

DeathStare · 29/11/2019 18:13

So your DP bought his sister a birthday present. And you are upset that he has never bought you the same birthday present for occasions where it wasn't your birthday? Even though he bought you much much mire personalised and expensive presents for your birthday? And has bought you cheaper versions of his sister's birthday presents at other times, just for the sake of it?

And because of this you have had a temper tantrum and have refused to go to his sister's birthday meal.... thus making it all about you and screw whether she's happy on her birthday. And you say you are going to get him a shit present for Christmas.

My god you are spoiled. While he's as the meal I really hope his family talk some bloody sense into him and he never comes back. He deserves better

LesLavandes · 29/11/2019 18:13

Haha. Let's try again
Shit not shot 😂

ManiacalLapwing · 29/11/2019 18:14

He bought his sister expensive flowers for a birthday present. He bought you an expensive games console that you wanted for your birthday present.

Would you have preferred that he bought you flowers for your birthday instead of the console?

It sounds like he didn't know what else to get his sister, so bought flowers, while he (thought) he knew that you wanted the console. YABU, and acting very spoilt and immature IMO.

Butchyrestingface · 29/11/2019 18:14

Shot not shot

Somebody’s Friday night has started early... 🥂

Original poster
Smilebehappy123 · 29/11/2019 18:15

Some of the comments on here are horrible

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ysmaem · 29/11/2019 18:16

OH has only bought me flowers once in our 3 relationship spontaneously because he thought I deserved a treat. It was lovely but I'm not bothered if it wont happen again. He'll buy me candles and chocolates sometimes. More importantly he's always there for me when I need him and that's all that matters really. He bought flowers for his sister for her birthday because he probably didn't know what else to get her. YAB a little U.

messolini9 · 29/11/2019 18:17

I'm not going if I have to look at them bastard flowers I will throw them out window
Christ on a bike you are hard work.
Working yourself into a frenzy because your DH isn't a mind reader, throwing your toys out of the pram & making his sister's birthday meal out all about you ... & you STILL haven't had the courtesy to explain to your DH why you are making such a fuss.
The nice DH who, according to you, bought you a Nintendo swiich last year & a nice new car just recently.

So much upset in this house tonight , I dont deserve this
No. Your household doesn't deserve this, Neither does your sister in law, your husband, or anyone going to the birthday dinner.

DeathStare · 29/11/2019 18:17

I really am feeling very down about this I'm going to try and speak to him about this tomorrow

I really hope that talk consists of you saying "I'm really sorry. I behaved like an obnoxious, spoiled bitch and if you choose to leave I completely understand why. I've already called your sister and apologised for behaving so selfishly on her birthday. I'm mortified with myself. Do you think we can move past this?"

StoneColdSaidSo · 29/11/2019 18:17

Way to make to sil’s bday all about you op. Nice one!

DaphneFanshaw · 29/11/2019 18:18

Oh, I love a car crash batshit crazy Fred.
Op, you’re fucking nuts. HTH.
I reckon this is a wind up.

WorraLiberty · 29/11/2019 18:18

Well the OP wins the trophy of the week for most ironic nickname...

Original poster
Smilebehappy123 · 29/11/2019 18:19

Deathstare was thinking more along the lines of forgiving him for being inconsiderate and telling him it's ok

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Kanga83 · 29/11/2019 18:21

@WorraLiberty that just won the thread for me!

Apolloanddaphne · 29/11/2019 18:21

Actually I would be a bit pissed off at this too OP.

DeRigueurMortis · 29/11/2019 18:22

OP you're either a troll or a twat.

DeathStare · 29/11/2019 18:24

Deathstare was thinking more along the lines of forgiving him for being inconsiderate and telling him it's ok

If you think that's an appropriate response then you really are selfish, spoilt and nasty. He can do better. I hope he does.

category12 · 29/11/2019 18:24

DerigueurMortis, doesn't have to be a choice.