Flowers for sister

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I really need other opinions in relation to I'f I am being unreasonable as something happened last night that has really annoyed me
DH in 3 years we have been together has never bought me a bunch of flowers from a florist , iv often really hoped one day he would buy me a really nice bunch , not to sound ungrateful but I think iv received 3/4 bunches in the full time of our relationship and all have been supermarket bought ,at the time of receiving them iv always been grateful and thanked him
Anyway last night , so he nips out for present for his sisters birthday , comes home with an expensive looking bunch from interflora florist for her , its really pissed me off to be honest and I cant seem to shake my annoyance
Iv not said much to him today and I think he knows I'm pissed off
I just cant understand that he can make an effort for his sister but not me

It’s not the point at all, no. I’m glad you’ve realised flowers don’t mean much in the grand scheme of things and aren’t worth missing a family members birthday over. Especially when said family member hasn’t done anything other than receive the flowers ffs.

Be less bonkers. Go for a drive in your new car. TALK to your husband and tell him you want some posh flowers. There, fixed.

So he brought you an expensive games console for your birthday and brought his sister flowers for hers but you're jealous and thinking that she means more to him?

You're petty and jealous. YABU.

Really struggling to believe you've missed out on going to a nice birthday meal because of your petty jealousy.

If the flowers are her present, then they will have cost a fraction of your present - if it is money you are worried about.

If flowers from a florist, is something you are really hankering after, then tell him. Personaly, If I were his sister I'd be saying "thanks" and thinking "This is a generic, last minute gift he hasn't put any thought in to"

Good Lord. This all sounds very dramatic. His family will all think the OP is completely mad if they realise that she not going round for the birthday meal because she's upset about the flowers.

Does he know you'd like some florist flowers? He isn't a mind reader. He probably thinks an expensive console is a better gift.

Better aldi than Tesco value I suppose 🤷‍♀️

Very immature.

I cant stop crying I'm so upset

So his sister deserves quality arranged flowers. And you get generic mass-produced supermarket flowers
I think I would also be a bit put out by that too.
He could just have easy went into a special flower shop for your anniversary/ birthday because clearly he know how to do it if he can do it for his sister.

You still haven't answered if you'd ever told him you want florist flowers. Is this the sort of irrational self pity and poor communication you usually go in for op?

Crying over flowers?

Are you always a spoiled manipulative brat?

Aye, right you are OP. 🤦🏼‍♀️

This was what I thought is a storm approaching but the responses on here say I'm selfish and immature
I actually didn't go the meal because I'm annoyed and dont want to ruin the night and I have excused myself to said sister saying I'm not well
Dh even said well I wont go then if your unwell and I said no just go

I used to work for a jewelry wholesalers - we sold the same jewelry to Argos and QVC as we sold to Harrods and the QE2. I imagine flower growers do the same, they grow flowers not "supermarket flowers" and "florist flowers".

I love that they have gone from supermarket to Asda to Aldi though.

I cant stop crying I'm so upset

Have you had your nap today?

maybe I am being petty I dont know

Yup. Petty and childish. TALK TO HIM, FFS. Like a grown up.

Gonna have a lie down I think and try and calm down
So much upset in this house tonight , I dont deserve this

Op. Go to party.

She is not crying over flowers.she is crying because she doesn't feel special (probably ever). Flowers are a sign you are special.

I suppose many of you can't relate to this.

OP. I understand you. I send you some flowers 💐

Thanks so much leslavandes for your flowers I really appreciate your kindness

That would make me furious as well

I suppose many of you can't relate to this.

Seriously?

I fancy every fucker ever BIRTHED can relate to that feeling.

I stand to be corrected if I'm wrong in my assumptions, but the flowers for your SIL are her birthday gift in its entirety. Let's say he's really splashed out and spent £30.

For your birthday you got a games console. Would you rather have had £30 worth of flowers?

Rather than simply saying to your DH "those are beautiful flowers, I'd really like some like that next birthday or if you feel like treating me" you've gone in a sulk and refused to attend his sisters birthday celebration. A person whose had no place in this drama whatsoever.

I'm struggling to think of ever reading on MN such self absorbed behaviour in relation to something so trivial.

Frankly you should apologise. You're acting both unfairly and immaturely.

Stop sobbing and feeling undeservedly sorry for yourself and get a grip.

He got me a games console I wanted last year
Good.
He knew you wanted the console. He bought it for you.
IF he knew you wanted florist flowers, no doubt he would buy them for you.

Why am I not worthy of decent flowers and his sister is ?
Because he doesn't know you want them.
Because he did not know what else to buy for his sis.
It's sod all to do with "worth".

I'm gonna but him a shit xmas present this year
Sure - because sulking & inexplicable (it will be to him, as you have never told him I WANT FLOWERS) passive-aggressive shit gift buying is going to solve all your problems.

Iv not said much to him today and I think he knows I'm pissed off
And you think that this will achieve ... what? Suddenly convey the power of mind-reading on your DH?
Start saying something to him. I suggest: "I loved those flowers you got your sister so much I'm jealous. Please will you buy flowers for me sometimes? I would really appreciate it & it would make me feel valued."

Once you have done that, you can maybe apologise for giving him the silent treatment when he has done nothing wrong.

I cant stop crying I'm so upset

You over egged it there OP. This thread is bollocks.

If the florist flowers for his sister are all he got her then YABU. He got you way more and was something you wanted. Supermarket flowers are really good these days and i think they last better than flowers from a florist. 💐 but anyway, here's a bunch from me.

I think you probably do deserve this. You sound deranged, you’re making a big deal out of nothing.

For your birthdays he bought a games console which likely cost £100+ and for your sisters birthday he bought flowers which probably cost about £20 but somehow you think she means more? When he’s bought you supermarket flowers where they for a birthday or just as a nice gesture? Because there is a difference, I wouldn’t expect a nice thoughtful gesture to be the same as a birthday gift.

Honestly, you need to get a grip and if this is how you behave I think you’re lucky you have someone to buy you anything at all. You sound totally unreasonable and like an ungrateful drama queen.