How do I make it nicely clear that I'm choosing my own dress?

[FluffySocksAndMarshmallows]

I am going wedding dress shopping in a few hours, with fiancé's mum and my best friend. To be honest, I'd rather gauge my own eyes out, but I've left it late enough that people are panicking and I have to go, I've exhausted other options. I'd have much rather gone by myself, but so far I've done much of the planning just with my fiancé and this was something his mum and my friend were really keen to be part of. I didn't want to upset them.

They've been sending me dresses they like all week. Me and fiancé have been laughing about them because honestly, they are the least me dresses ever. To try and direct them a bit, I sent them a few I liked back... future MIL was nice but generally isn't a fan of the dresses I like, best friend is steadfastly ignoring them with comments like "You'll choose something else when you see them", "You need something everyone will like."

I don't want to upset anyone but I also don't want to be railroaded into trying on dresses that I don't like and won't buy, because god I don't want to have to go again after today. If I could, I'd cancel the whole thing. I'm on quite heavy MH medication right now, which nobody but my fiancé knows about, so I keep tearing up and getting worried about silly things. Any tips on managing this?

@FluffySocksAndMarshmallows how did it go?

Hope all is well. You do not need to please others all the time. XXXXXXX

1. YOU are the only one who you need to please with this dress (fiance loves you for who you are and so will probably love whatever makes you feel happy and confident).
2. That said, be a bit open minded when trying dresses on. I was adamant I wanted a dress not a bodice and skirt. Until I tried on a particular bodice and skirt (not the first I had tried). Couldn't stop thinking about it- so ordered it a week later. I don't mean you should let yourself be railroaded, just that there is no harm trying on things outside your current mental image of the dress you want.

No no no. “The cream version is more flattering than ivory for your skin tone” or “that cut makes your boobs look amazing” - that’s the sort of comments they should be making! It’s so not their place to be trying to override your opinions and preferences for your dress

Be tempted to call them and cancel cos you are ill. Then make a remarkable recovery and go alone!

Hope it went well. Don't let anyone bully you into changing what you really want

Try on the ones you think you'll like first and if you like them then don't try anything else on. If it turns out the ones you like don't look like you expected them to look then try a few of their suggestion. So basically, only take their advice if you need it.

On another note, would it be worth telling you friend about you MH so she can support you?

Good luck with the dress hunt, and buy what you want whether they like it or not, there is no other event in your life that you would dress to someone else's taste, so why do it on your wedding day 😁