Sociable child with autism being ignored

[NoFun21]

My little boy who has ASC is very friendly , not in your face just curious and friendly. Today we were out and I was so saddened by seeing him asking a little girl who was playing with the Lego in the sand toy department what her cane was and what she was doing and her just ignoring him. I’m sorry but I’ve thought they might be shy of course but this happens all the time she from obviously confident kids. I saw him look bewildered when ignored agsjn later by an older boy When he asked about his scooter. I was brought up to have manners and recognise when Someone was being friendly. Why can’t these kids just be kind? FYI they can obviously hear him, he is not shouting or invading their space. What do you tell your kids about what is the polite response wilhej a child you don’t now tries to make friends?

Don’t forget that these children he has spoken to are young too... their social skills aren’t necessarily very advanced. My 6 and 4 year olds are lovely, kind children but if spoken to in public unexpectedly they don’t always know how to respond. They’ve still got a lot of learning to do regarding social etiquette.

Well to be fair maybe the other child was shy or may be also autistic my own severely autistic child has no interest in playing with other children and is often oblivious to them he is also non verbal so can't speak to other children .

My DS is NT and very friendly. He often goes up to other children and gets upset if they ignore him.

I understand some children are shy but I do think it is good manners to acknowledge when another child speaks to them. As a PP said, it's how adults react.

And acknowledging of saying hello is different from not want to talk or play of they don't want to

Pilates I'm so grateful for it! It has literally changed his life.

I think you may have to adjust your expectations of other children to be honest.

They’re just kids, they don’t understand or Necessarily know that your son has difficulties. Parents can only parrot a concept and model behaviour, they can’t force understanding and action anymore than you can force the understanding on your son that sometimes people just don’t want to interact and it’s nothing personal.

Social interactions take confidence and understanding that in small children of any ability can be a long time coming. I think it’s pretty much a universal parenting experience to feel the rejection in behalf of your child but you have to build on their understanding of empathy and what they can do in that situation.

I don’t think your ds’s autism is as relevant as you think it is in this particular situation.