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Friend always kisses DH on the lips. Is this weird?

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cacklingmags · 26/11/2019 19:37

DH and myself are in a group of friends who meet up often and there are the old hugs and kisses. This female friend of mine, who is single, always kisses my DH on the lips, and occasionally does the same to me. I don't much like being kissed on the lips and DH is not all that keen. They spend time together in the group, as I do with others, its a mixed group and no one is worried about who their partner is talking to, its all very relaxed. Is this kissing thing weird?

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wherearemypaintbrushes · 26/11/2019 19:39

YADNBU Confused

Sallyseagull · 26/11/2019 19:40

That is beyond weird, he should move his head to the side and say something.

cheeseislife8 · 26/11/2019 19:41

That is weird. YADNBU

MidnightCircus · 26/11/2019 19:42

Er, yeah, it's wierd. If neither of you like it, it's even more strange! I wouldn't be happy

edwinbear · 26/11/2019 19:43

Does she kiss the rest of the group on the lips?

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cacklingmags · 26/11/2019 19:45

Occasionally I think she does a lip kiss with one or two others, but I think it is mainly DH.

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wherearemypaintbrushes · 26/11/2019 19:47

Your husband is being equally weird for not saying something!! Shock

TidyDancer · 26/11/2019 19:47

I have a friend who kisses goodbye on the lips. It's nothing in our context but it depends on the dynamic I guess. If your DH doesn't like it then it's a problem.

ShagMeRiggins · 26/11/2019 19:49

British?

notforonesecond · 26/11/2019 19:49

Is your friend Chandler Bing?

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cacklingmags · 26/11/2019 19:50

Perhaps. He first pointed it out to me, I know he does not like it, because of the germ spreading thing. He is very chivalrous though and he likes the person herself, he would not want to hurt her, as I wouldn't.

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AngusThermopyle · 26/11/2019 19:51

It is a bit weird but he should either say something or learn the 'swerve'

MulticolourMophead · 26/11/2019 19:51

Turn your head at the last moment, so the kiss lands on the cheek.

Original poster
cacklingmags · 26/11/2019 19:52

ShagMeRiggins
Definitely British, but also common as muck.

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ElspethFlashman · 26/11/2019 19:53

Just do a Princess Diana on it and offer a cheek, what's the problem??

Are you two seriously so wet that you'll allow someone to kiss you both on the lips repeatedly when you both hate it?

OlaEliza · 26/11/2019 19:53

My husband wouldn't let someone kiss him on the lips. Not because of germs, but because it's just downright disrespectful.

RonaldMcDonald · 26/11/2019 19:54

If someone does something you do not like, tell them
They may think you enjoy it

BarrenFieldofFucks · 26/11/2019 19:54

We have a friend who does this, but only to DH. She's happily married and we have known each other for years, but it is very odd!

wherearemypaintbrushes · 26/11/2019 19:56

So he doesn't like it because he's worried of germ spreading??? JFC Grin

ballsdeep · 26/11/2019 19:57

Germ spreading???????? That's all he is worried about????

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cacklingmags · 26/11/2019 19:57

I am pleased that most of you think it is weird. I really was not sure - We have not spent huge amounts of time before with these kinds of people (very respectable). I did not want to start sounding like jealous fool. I wonder if she fancies him.

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Motoko · 26/11/2019 19:59

Why on earth don't you both just turn your heads?

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cacklingmags · 26/11/2019 20:03

Motoko
Yes totally, but it is not that I am asking how to avoid a kiss, I have experience of doing that with blokes. But I wanted to know if this was weird, or if it is normal in some circles. Apparently it is very weird and maybe I should be worried.

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VeryQuaintIrene · 26/11/2019 20:05

Doesn't seem especially odd to me. I have 2 male friends whom I sometimes (not always) kiss on the lips (that said, I am gay and notoriously monogamous to my beloved, so no one would think I was up to anything!)

raspberryk · 26/11/2019 20:08

Some people are just very affectionate, I have a very old best friend who is a hugger and a kisser, we often kiss on/very near lips, she has friends who don't like it and she tries to remember. I have known her since my teens as had DP and pretty sure she kisses him in the same way, I know her DH and I do tend to aim more for the cheek kiss but we are generally more reserved. Basically she doesn't discriminate haha. Doesn't bother us.