Friend always kisses DH on the lips. Is this weird?

[cacklingmags]

DH and myself are in a group of friends who meet up often and there are the old hugs and kisses. This female friend of mine, who is single, always kisses my DH on the lips, and occasionally does the same to me. I don't much like being kissed on the lips and DH is not all that keen. They spend time together in the group, as I do with others, its a mixed group and no one is worried about who their partner is talking to, its all very relaxed. Is this kissing thing weird?

I think that is horrible and I wish someone would say something to the woman. Kissing on lips is for two people married, in partnership or lovers, it's intimate.

It's difficult to deal with this as she is a member of your group of friends but there must be some way of broaching the subject casually in her company without actually pointing a finger at her. If I can think of a way I'll let you know :-). The woman needs to learn boundaries.

WTF? No YADNBU.

Only my DP can kiss me on the lips.

It's weird. The fact that she doesn't do it to everyone shows she knows its not universally acceptable. She probably does it to you and your DH because neither of you have objected

Thank you all very much for taking time to answer and vote. So out of 255 votes 96% think this kissing is weird. I am very glad I posted the question tonight as the issue has just been a mild niggle, mainly about catching a cold, but I can see myself and DH are going to have to put a stop to it, not least in that it might be encouraging kissy friend to think she is in with a chance with DH (she had better not be). I will take up your various suggestions to putting a stop to it without hurting her. This has been my first excursion as a thread poster and it has been an excellent experience. Thank you everyone.

It's weird, but I don't understand why you're both not saying something to her or swerve.

Definitely British, but also common as muck - what an unkind way to speak about a friend.

to be fair OP... your DH really should be the one to stop this.. but turning his CHEEK... it's not hard...

wildcherries
Speaking about myself and DH, not kissy friend - a little joke.

postercacklingmags Ah, I see. I misunderstood - apologies then.

He could quite easily turn so she kisses his cheek.

Do you think that maybe once they went for a goodbye peck and did that awkward thing where you get each other on the lips.

Now you are posting this, and she tells her friends that your DH is odd because he kisses her on the lips, but both now think that’s what the other wants but are too wet to say anything?

She's singling out your DH which is weird as well as the lip kissing. Nip it in the bud.

Depends whether it's with tongues or not :-)

Only joking sorry. Yes it's definitely weird and you (and him) should definitely ask her to stop doing it!

Yikes!

“Many years ago, a very old friend asked me if she could sleep with my DH”

I’d be horrified if anyone tried to kiss my partner on the lips. I really don’t think I would react well.
Call me protective or clingy I don’t care, his lips are mine!!!

Just call it out. "Please don't do that again, I don't like it" - job done.

Yeah that's weird as hell and very inappropriate. If she did it to everyone every time, then she'd just be some one who didn't understand social norms, predominantly only doing it to your husband means there is more to it.

He needs to be the one to tell her not to. Not you. She'll think you're just jealous and that he likes it.

YANBU. But I cannot get over the fact that none of you simply asked her to not do it.

We have a (bloke) friend who used to do this too. Someone must have said something to him in the last year or so because it’s stopped! He’s a cheek kisser now. (Thank god, because he had slobbery lips too!!! *shudder)

Are you two seriously so wet that you'll allow someone to kiss you both on the lips repeatedly when you both hate it?

Yeah this.

Are you so sure she’s singling him out and not just that the rest of your friends know how to swerve it?!

My friend always does this but she is just very affectionate.

I have a (married-in) uncle who tries to do this to me whenever I see him. I turn my head. Told my mum about him being an old letch and she said “oh I think it’s a generational thing”

Occasionally I think she does a lip kiss with one or two others, but I think it is mainly DH

Maybe she gets a secret thrill out of this....so she does it to others only 'occasionally' enough for it to look 'normal/acceptable' in that circle, but it's mainly reserved for your dh?
She has to kiss you too otherwise it would be TOO obvious!

@Quebeth generational thing my a..., unless it's sleazy old man generation . My parents would be in their 90ies if alive and wouldn't dream of this.

I'm not British, but you do not do that. Actually you hardly touch lips to cheek. If you get a wet kiss from an adult it is over the line. Humpf .

OP comment on this when others are present that should stop her.

Tell her you feel a cold sore coming up
yep!

What would be a good giggle - you and dh having a playful 'joke' with each other in front of the group about passing each other your cold sore germs.......see if she chooses to avoid kissing you on that occasion
Hopefully you won't need to remind her at the end of that social event...and you got your excuse for future occasions