Menopause comment

[AloneLonelyLoner]

I am early 40s and have my period every 28 days like clockwork. Today my DP asked if I thought I may be menopausal, implied that I pretend my period is still 28 days and maybe I should see a doctor! He said this to a woman on her period. AIBU for feeling homicidal? (He was serious). I told him that he had upset me but he doesn't get it.

I’m doubt if he even understands what the menopause is.

He thinks you're lying about having regular periods? It sounds like HE needs to see a doctor. Why would he think that?

Why would he think you are pretending to have your period every 28 days?

Tell him that is still normal at your age, so he can bugger off.

I am 53 and definitely menopausal now. I am going to see a gynaecologist tomorrow to discuss problem periods that are still continuing (fibroids and flooding). I'd be willing to bet that your DP knows little about the menopause.

Well, he meant perimenopausal for a start as you wouldn't be menopausal until two years WITHOUT a period.

Tell him to look it up as he clearly doesn't know what he is talking about.

Maybe worth asking him if he thinks he may be senile.

Is he on something? Did he explain why he said that?

awesome

I would be really annoyed that he's saying you're a liar. Why the fuck does he think you would do that anyway? What a weird thing to accuse someone of lying about

Some men absolutely are gleeful about the menopause. I know not why.

Something misogynous though, for sure. It is used as an insult. Definitely.

@awesomeaircraft 😂 I'm asking him that later.

He was completely serious and I can't think why he would suggest I'd lie about that. It was weird. Maybe he thinks I'd be embarrassed to be menopausal? Which frankly is crap. He did say 'well, you probably know more about it than me' very grumpily.

Arse.

@BillieEilish definitely it feel misogynistic.

Of course he gets it, he did it on purpose. Its a bizarre thing to say, it sounds like gaslighting.
See if he ramps it up over the next few weeks.

Ask him if his dick has started shrivelling up yet?

If you use condoms, he's excited to stop doing that. Or he thinks there will be less monthly "interruptions" to relations. Or he's a cunt insinuating that you're old. Or he's really thick and doesnt realise you may very well have another 10 years+.

HTH.

@charm8ed this reminds me, when he said he couldn't understand me being a bit upset about it, I asked him if he's get upset if I commented on his penis changing or not being adequate and he said he couldn't understand as it wasn't at all the same. I said he was making negative comments about the way my body functions. But I'm not sure I made myself clear.

I'm into menopause, sometimes I get in a bad mood (slight understatement). Do you want me to kill him?

That aside it's like 'ohh you're in a bad mood, PMS much?' Bastard

Does he think you're pretending so you don't have to have sex with him?

My DH is almost 20 years older then me and, shall we say 'old school'.

It did not used to matter. But he is now a cantankerous so and so as he is aware of HIS age.

I am 49 now, have not had a period since I was 45, so I have been properly menopausal for a full two years.

He has no idea I would get so many shit, sexist old fashioned comment/digs etc. It's none of his bloody business frankly.

I have a 75 year old male friend, lovely in every way except... 'when women go through the change they get past their best'

I went off him a bit, but is the view of that generation. It makes me so angry.

I'm going to go against the grain here. When you said he "implied you lied" what does that mean?And how did this conversation come up?

when women go through the change they get past their best'

Past their best? what an asshole thing to say. Best in what way?

I thought it was a year without a period, not two? Shit, I thought I had 8 months to go....now I've got 20.

Arya I know, I felt sick.

Actually, I got that wrong, it was 'past their sell by date'.

I truly think it's what men of a certain generation think.

Anyway off topic, OP enjoy your periods and shut that husband of yours right down.

@awesomeaircraft has nailed it!!!!

scary it is 2 years for 'early menopause' (under 50) I was young!
1 year for over 50

Am 53. Phew...8 months to go then. Legs and fingers crossed!