I’m breastfeeding a 3 week old baby and my dinner is a mushroom. AIBU to murder my husband in a hangry rage?!

[AngeloMysterioso]

Literally that.

MIL bought some big mushrooms at the weekend and there was one left, so she put some breadcrumbs and cheese on it for me. A little while ago I fell asleep on the sofa. Woke up and asked DH what he wanted for dinner. He said he’d just had his, he cooked/ate it while I was asleep. He made himself a bowl of pasta. I asked if there was any left for me? “No, I didn’t make you any. I thought you were having that mushroom.”

So... my dinner is a mushroom.

This mushroom isn’t the size of a plate or anything. It’s a big mushroom, but it’s still just a fucking mushroom.

what's actually stopping you from getting more food yourself of this isn't enough ?! op has spent the day and probably most of last night attached to a baby, finally manages a snooze and DH immediately gets up and cooks enough food for himself without considering she might wake up hungry and you think that's how we should treat people we purport to love?

He's got off very easy

Sorry @AngeloMysterioso no alternative but to get your ducks in a row (unless they're with pancakes and crispy) and LTB. If you're in Surrey I can deliver you spaghetti carbonara (with lots of bacon!!) xx

I voted YANBU. But the wrap changes it for me I’m afraid. Wrap, mushroom AND pasta is weird surely?

Single parents manage?

Single parents manage?

But OP ain't single and a partner ought to support you and make your life easier. If they don't, what's the point of them?

It was thoughtful of him to let you sleep and utterly idiotic of him not to cook enough pasta for both of you. Has he never heard of warming things up afterwards? I’d have inserted the mushroom where the sun don’t shine!

you need to have a serious conversation with him about this. Cooking pasta for himself while leaving you a poor excuse for dinner is beyond selfish. He needs to understand you need to be taken care of as much as your newborn. Your body is still recovering. Not to mention the physical toll of breastfeeding a tiny baby. Don’t just “punish him” with nappy duty. Give him a serious talking to about how he needs to take care of his family now, not just his own damn stomach

Show the slacker this thread. Hopefully he isn’t so dense he won’t get the message

IIRC, from biology lessons, breastfeeding mothers need the MOST calories. More than men digging holes in the road.

Tomorrow lunch - casserole with lots of veg, mashed potato and gravy and apple crumble for afters. Even if it takes him all night to cook it

That's quite funny Angel; your husband obviously thought your 'light tea' was sufficient for the evening :-).

Apology penne Love it.

Repas d'excuses. Bon appetit.

Dear god, this brought back all sorts of bad memories of my husband not really getting how hungry I was when breast feeding. When I was breast feeding I ate a lot of toasted cheese - get him to make you some now. And you have to eat a lot of cake because breast milk is very high in sugar. A friend who has type 1 diabetes needed no insulin for 3 weeks when she started breast feeding - she was pretty happy.

I quite enjoyed seeing this on active- I thought you were breastfeeding dh because he was hangry I’m glad you enjoyed your mushroom!

It read “I’m breastfeeding a... husband in a hangry rage” if the photo doesn’t load

Single parents manage?
So by extension OP should do all the childcare except EOW and pay for everything for the baby bar £50 a month?

Kill him - definitely justifiable homicide.
All female jury would never convict.

Is this your first? I think you need to really explain how life is going to be- he has to step up and look after you and baby or he goes. You need feeding because otherwise you can't feed baby.

My dh has a thing about the washing(his chore is the laundry). When I was breastfeeding I had very few clothes that a) fit and b) I could feed in. Dc was a projectile vomiter.
Dh got annoyed I hadn't pulled the arms out of a jumper before putting it in the wash so thought he'd teach me a lesson and 'hang it up just as it went in the wash' - it didn't dry properly and smelt musty. I had nothing to wear and completely lost it, he never tried that again!

Tomorrow, tell him you're cooking up a feast for him.
Serve him a lone mushroom in the centre of an enormous dinner plate.
Smile adoringly.
Then say.... "Oh! Almost forgot!"
Fetch a small knife and proceed to cut the mushroom in half.
"Since you're not breastfeeding and don't need to extra nutrition. Wouldn't want to overdo it!"

Enjoy his reaction.

You could add that you won't be joining him for dinner since you had a quarter of a carrot for lunch and you're still full.

@Evilspiritgin it doesn’t appear to have done much for your compassion or sense of humour though....

For the next 30 or 40 times he asks what the plan is for dinner, I would say to him 'I THOUGHT YOU WERE HAVING THAT MUSHROOM' with a steely glare.

What an arse.

My DH ordered himself (and only himself) a Deliveroo dinner when I was 9 months pregnant. His defence was that when he asked me 'what should we do about dinner?' I said I was too tired to think about it. Which he interpreted as meaning I didn't want to eat dinner.

I was unimpressed.

Fuck that for a joke!!

Buy a punnet of mushrooms and say you have meal planned for the week and it only cost £1.

He's been a selfish idiot,remind him that your not only feeding you your feeding yours and his DC as well!

Our DD is breastfeeding her DS our first DGrandchild and everytime she's at ours we feed her up(she's a single mum )so she gets loads of gorgeous food and doesn't have to lift a finger to make it and we send her home with treats and snacks as well and we did a months worth of batch cooking for her as well for the first 4 weeks after she'd had her DS.

GuessWhoColeen that's bloody brilliant OP you should so do that.