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dottiedodah · 24/11/2019 15:59

Dont know what to think really .On day out in London. DH standing by the door on tube train. I have a seat . Youngish Chap a few seats opposite side to me keeps looking at me, feeling nonplussed as in my 50s ! Any thoughts?!

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CaptainMyCaptain · 24/11/2019 16:25

He's from the north and doesn't know that looking vaguely in someone's direction down south is a really bad thing.
This. I was trying to work out what the problem was.

Horcrux · 24/11/2019 16:25

I got looked at recently and put it down to me having a stripey hat on and glasses, he must have thought he’d found Wally

BigFatLiar · 24/11/2019 16:27

He's sitting thinking 'oh no! why do the weirdos always seem to be in the same carriage as me, don't make eye contact, I hope thats not a banjo'.

mokapot · 24/11/2019 16:27

Chin hair?

stripeypillowcase · 24/11/2019 16:27

german tourist?

DontCallMeShitley · 24/11/2019 16:29

He has watched Gold Digger and wondering if you are rich.

letsdolunch321 · 24/11/2019 16:31

😒 Some folk are very strange !!!

MistyCloud · 24/11/2019 16:33


Bogey hanging out your nose.

A spider in your hair.

Loo roll hanging out of your trousers/skirt...

draughtycatflap · 24/11/2019 16:34

Hipster beard envy.

lumity · 24/11/2019 16:35

Also OP, I had a weird experience - I took my teen to a karaoke bar last weekend. It was about 5pm and all the kids go into a room for the karaoke. I was waiting for them for an hour and there was a bar in the main waiting area, so I thought who not get myself a “dark and stormy” while I was waiting. So I was sat there (MNing) and within 5 mins, this guy who I swear to god wasn’t a day over 30 (I’m 45) came by and asked if I was Ok Confused. Why wouldn’t I be? Then about 5 mins later, he came back and said something along the lines of he’d never forgive himself if he let the opportunity of speaking to me pass and was I sure I was ok? I said, “I know it’s dark in here but I’m 45 and here with my 16 year old son and his friends”. I think he genuinely thought I was sitting in that dodgy bar in Soho at 5pm in a Saturday waiting to be chatted up. Just because I was on my own. This is how some men think. They don’t even care how old you are.

MistyCloud · 24/11/2019 16:36

If on the rare occasion, a much younger man (young enough to be my son or younger,) is looking at me, I just assume I am a friend of his mother's.

Maybe that was it @dottiedodah

Could he have been a friend of your son or daughter? Or maybe a friend of your grandson or daughter???

msbevvy · 24/11/2019 16:36

Are you sure he didn't have a sketchbook on him? My friend and I had a young bloke staring at us from the seat opposite. I thought he was just a weirdo, then I noticed that he was making sketches of us. I think there a quite a few artists that do this on public transport without the knowledge of the people being sketched.

SynchroSwimmer · 24/11/2019 16:39

Any thoughts? - I would say enjoy it!

I was expecting to become invisible as I aged......(and lived my life as a wallflower)

(I’m in my 60’s....still laughing that I came in from a beach walk, covered in dried sand and sea salt, cheap Matalan sun dress, oversized ugly crocs, hair all over the place, dash of lip gloss, randomly applied white factor 50 in odd places - and as I ordered my glass of water at the bar, I was positively ogled ( in a really nice flattering and approving way) by two 30 year old elite lycra-clad sportsmen standing nearby.

Feeling quite amused, chuffed and makes me laugh just to think about it.

So maybe just embrace it?

Sotoes · 24/11/2019 16:39

Perhaps he fancies you. There, I've said it!

MitziK · 24/11/2019 16:39

@dottiedodah, if he's teenaged/early 20s, there's a very good chance somebody in their 50s could remind them of their Nan. Not everybody has their first kid at 30. Sorry to upset you, though (I wasn't that keen on hearing it the first time, either).

CaptainMyCaptain · 24/11/2019 16:39

I don't travel on the tube but if a young man was staring at me locally I'd assume he was an ex pupil. They change a lot between 5 and 25.

changeforprivacy · 24/11/2019 16:39

This has got to be the weirdest post I have ever read on Mumsnet. I am stunned that anyone would give headspace to someone on a tube looking. People look at others ALL THE TIME.

MissKittyBeaudelais · 24/11/2019 16:41

Loo roll on your shoe or he finds a 50 yr old attractive. Take your pick 😊

nocoolnamesleft · 24/11/2019 16:43

As a northerner, I am totally bewildered by this being a problem.

astralweaks · 24/11/2019 16:44

He sounds odd. Can’t think of another reason.

Spinelessjello · 24/11/2019 16:45

It's hard to tell whether someone is looking at you or the person to your right or left or something behind you if they are looking in your general direction.

He was probably looking at someone near you or something in your direction.

DontCallMeShitley · 24/11/2019 16:46

I once had a very young lad who was with his friends but sauntering along behind him walk very close to me and say 'I like older women' but he was unsure of himself and had timed it badly as I was just about to enter a shop so he wandered off. He was very cute, but far too young.

When something has been on TV there are waves of young men thinking it is fashionable to pick up an older woman, and that we can be, and are, more attractive than the clones with the slug eyebrows and layers of slap.

Zilla1 · 24/11/2019 16:56

Ignore most of the PPs, OP.

He's thinking 'Blimey, she's gorgeous'. Amazing how beautiful the ladies look in the big city'.

dottiedodah · 24/11/2019 17:02

Synchro Swimmer Yes maybe you are right ,should just embrace it !(better than reminding him of his Nans friend anyway) Dont live in London though so no ex pupils or anything. Dontcallmeshirley Sadly although no chin hair and hopefully presentable, nowhere near as rich or glam as the lady in Gold Digger sadly.

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TitusOatesLivesNextDoor · 24/11/2019 17:04

If you've noticed him looking at you-you must have been looking at him as opposed to just glancing. In that case, it's perfectly possible that he's the one feeling a bit uncomfortable and hoping against hope that he hasn't caught the glinting eye of a cougar!

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