AIBU at people expressing their love on Social Media

[Deyes999]

Omg I think I am in the minority here (well I am in my social circle). I cannot stand people declaring their love for others on social media. For example someone's childs birthday and you get things like, my baby is my world, can't believe you are x age, so looking forward to watching you grow blah blah blah... I mean why do you need to tell everyone that? Tell your child to their face, it's not like they will even read it. I just don't get it, is it because if you say it on social media it must mean you love your kids more than those of us who don't?.. then your contacts start putting one liners about how much they love your child or your comment, like its a competition about who loves the kid the most. It honestly makes me want to puke. So much so I have deleted all of my social media so I do not have to see it anymore. .does anyone else out there feel like this or is it just me being a miserable old xxx

Maybe you should come off it. Might not be for you.

What people post is up to them. That’s the whole point. Why is it bothering you so much?

Yanbu in any way. The love dumps for children who don't even have sm and cat read it are dreadful

I don’t want to be patronising but I do feel a bit sorry for you. Why go through life feeling so negative and bitter towards other people who are expressing their happiness? Some people share their thoughts with family and friends via social media because it helps them feel connected to people they care about but don’t see often. It is very easy to scroll past posts that don’t interest you, but getting so wound up about it seems a bit OTT.

I don’t disagree that it’s all a bit boak inducing, but that’s social media for you, innit? ¯\(ツ)/¯

Probably best you deleted if it really gets on your wick. I just nosy at other ppl’s dramaz and post memes of baby sloths on my own page.

I hate miserable sods judging what I post on my social media! If it bothers you that much just unfollow.

Please don't feel sorry for me, I think I just saw one post too many and tbh I know the people that I can see posting obviously and it's not for the benefit of anyone but themselves. Trying to compete with each other. The first response is the correct one, social media is just not for me. I am quite happy with declaring my love to the real people in my life face to face or over the phone etc I do not need everyone to hear it. In my view it is attention seeking, I'm sure your real family and real friends know you love your child, if not pm them!

Whilst I don't feel as strongly as Deyes, I am quite cynical about 'performance perfection '.

YANBU and it is worse when you know the child/ partner is not even a FB user so it is purely for show!!!

I always roll my eyes at the declarations of love on FB. No one else needs to see that, say it face to face or send it in a message if you have to.

Just unfollow the person if you don't like it, simple.

Yanbu! It's totally for show and to prove to others they are living their #bestlife

It's puke inducing 🤮. I'm not even on SM but my friend's WhatsApp me particularly cringe moments.

The people on this thread who are biting at you are obviously the ones who post love declarations.

I’m with you on this one. It’s cringey

Nice to see some like minded people on here. I was/still am expecting to be shot down in flames

My SIL used to do this. She was constantly declaring how much she was in love with my BIL and how perfect everything was. Turns out she was shagging someone behind his back.

I do usually put a bday post up but I’ll admit it’s showing them off 😂 I’m
Not gushy with it though, it’s not my nature.

I certainly don’t extoll my love for my children on SM though. They’d be mortified (teens).

YANBU I find it mortifying - some of my friends on SM write bloody poems etc for their children and insist on posting every time they do a parenting activity, for points?! My new pet peeve is the cringeworthy phrase “my favourites”. Eg a photo of husband and baby “having lunch with my favourites”. Just fuck off! Of course they are your favourite people, I mean I hope so! Why the need?

But then I like to use social media to comedic effect/to keep in touch and don’t feel the need to ram my happiness down everyone’s throats. Each to their own 😁

I agree with you OP. All the 'I love you to the moon and back' to children that live with you. I just don't get it. And as for the congratulating your own children on their exam results, let's be honest, it is just boasting isn't it.

Argh you’d hate me! My boyfriend went to the states yesterday for work, then he’s going straight to Sweden. I made a hideously cheesy collage pic on instagram about how much I’ll miss him while he’s gone and generally how amazing he is.

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But why?

I’m not even on SM but my friend's WhatsApp me particularly cringe moments

That’s a bit unkind isn’t it?

Ive got a couple of friends who do it. Things aren’t rosey at home - they’re pretty much trying to convince themselves.

Harmless. Easy to unfollow if you want.

I proud parent post about my DD when she does certain things but only because she wasn't supposed to be able to do the things she's currently doing (she actually has a small fan club of fb aunts lol). But I don't do declatations of eternal love and all that other shit. I used to with boyfriends and such but, as fb reminds me with 'Memories', its a little cringy/rage inducing

I find them a bit cringe too, I know what you mean OP.

Come on - maybe it’s unkind but this is the worst offender, he’s an old school acquaintance and DH and I do often laugh over the posts because what the actual fuck is the point of this I just don’t understand it at all?! Why can’t you say “we are expecting a baby and very excited”?!

I'm not a fan either op.

If you love someone , show them or tell them.