AIBU at people expressing their love on Social Media

[Deyes999]

Omg I think I am in the minority here (well I am in my social circle). I cannot stand people declaring their love for others on social media. For example someone's childs birthday and you get things like, my baby is my world, can't believe you are x age, so looking forward to watching you grow blah blah blah... I mean why do you need to tell everyone that? Tell your child to their face, it's not like they will even read it. I just don't get it, is it because if you say it on social media it must mean you love your kids more than those of us who don't?.. then your contacts start putting one liners about how much they love your child or your comment, like its a competition about who loves the kid the most. It honestly makes me want to puke. So much so I have deleted all of my social media so I do not have to see it anymore. .does anyone else out there feel like this or is it just me being a miserable old xxx

Come on - maybe it’s unkind but this is the worst offender, he’s an old school acquaintance and DH and I do often laugh over the posts because what the actual fuck is the point of this I just don’t understand it at all?!

I think it’s far more unpleasant to laugh about someone behind their back rather than post a gushing message on social media.

Maybe you should unfollow/defriend the poor chap.

#team(insert family name here) #makingmemories #livingmybestlife #lovemylittlefamily #soblessed I never know if people are just being funny

@crispysausagerolls that is hilarious.

I’m with you OP. Bizarre behaviour to declare love to someone publicly on social media. Usually the worst offenders are a bit dim. I don’t let it bother me, I still have enough contacts who post interesting updates to make social media worth it!

There were three married couples on my Facebook page who used to write boke-inducing posts about how much they loved each other.

All three are no longer together.

I genuinely believe that those who shout the loudest, like they have something to prove, are the most unstable of us all

SIL is a big one for this: annoying.

Another one that gives me a bad case of WTAF is people saying happy birthday by posting pictures of themselves with birthday friend.

Loads of people seem to do it.

I find it perplexing.

jacqueshammer

I can’t unfriend him because it would mean missing out on the mirth I derive from his posts.

Yes, maybe we are shitty people. But I find it hysterical/baffling in equal measure! It’s not “unpleasant” for him to post that sort of diatribe, it’s just inexplicable. I would love for someone who does this sort of thing to explain their need to do it. What is the thought process?

Agree. Although the ones for me are tagging their partner in something to look at. You live together - talk

I’ve got a distantish family member like this and I never used to get it.... until we were at a big family dinner and she and her husband just sat there not talking to each other (or anyone else really) and looking throughly miserable... nonetheless the next day there was a gushy fab night w fab hubby you’re my world type post.... then the penny dropped!

moofolk

LOL yes! And often the birthday girl looks horrendous in said photo and the poster looks amazing 😂

Yes, maybe we are shitty people

Well I won’t argue with you.

I genuinely believe that those who shout the loudest, like they have something to prove, are the most unstable of us all

Any stable person would just tell their loved ones that they love them.

I don't mind seeing it because I like all the people on my FB. It isn't something I do but it's nice to see expressions of love, there isn't enough of that in the world. I also like seeing their holiday pics and what they had for dinner.
I guess social media isn't for you.

@crispysausagerolls

Yes! 'Here's me on my best day when I'd just had my hair done and then bumped into you with all your Asda shopping and your trackies on'

Well I won’t argue with you
But this isn’t exactly the most noble/least shitty of posts either, is it? 😬

I just think there’s a difference between a restrained and normal expression of love, and some bizarre gushing nonsense - I agree with moofolk it must come from a place of instability/insecurity

But this isn’t exactly the most noble/least shitty of posts either, is it?

Well I have no issue calling people out for being unpleasant. Making fun of people is just that.

I’m simply agreeing with your own insightful analysis.

Oooh another one I don’t understand (at 29 I already feel ancient) is people posting snapchats on Facebook - I don’t have SC - and it is just their face with a really mundane update like “at the gym”. I assume it’s just an excuse to post yet another photo of their face.

I have no issue in calling people ridiculous 😬 I just wouldn’t shit on their parade and say it to them because that’s mean! But if you post that sort of nonsense people will obviously discuss it. Not everyone is as holier than thou as you seem to be (with specific topics)!

Not everyone is as holier than thou as you seem to be (with specific topics)!

Quite happy to be “holier than thou” if it means not refusing to defriend/unfollow someone so you can laugh at them.

It’s why lots of people I know call it Fakebook not Facebook. It’s usually the people with the worst lives on real life that find the need to post inane bullshit to try and keep up appearances.

@crispysausagerolls Missing him, I had to go without Friday cuddles ☹️ I tagged him so he will be suitably mortified as all his mates will see it 😂 Never mentioned/put photos of him on instagram before (only SM I have), I’m sure he’ll make sure I never do it again!

@crispysausagerolls who can be arsed to write all that, never mind read it... not unkind - I would unfollow.

Totally agree - vom.

Or the couple you know are inches from divorcing posting their fake idyllic life together - that nob of a husband had you crying in my merlot last weekend Susan!

that nob of a husband had you crying in my merlot last weekend Susan!

😂😂😂😂