AIBU - son needs surgery, supervisor not replying to request for days off

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Found out yesterday my young son needs urgent surgery next week. Sent my supervisor a text as soon as I knew to ask if he was free to chat. No reply. He’s been emailing colleagues today about work-related issues so emailed the situation to him. Still no reply.

I asked others if he has form for this but am told he usually replies soon after they text/email him.

Obviously I’m stressed. I’m not asking for days off for my enjoyment. AIBU to think this is pretty poor of him and something’s off?

*"that hous may you sent" = that you say you sent

Please dont follow the advice of @ImFreeToDoWhatIWant and copy his boss into another email - how ridiculous!!

Just leave it until you are both at work. I understand you are worried about your son but I think you're overreacting.

Are you actually sure he's got your email? I have found that sometimes email sent to me gets put into spam by this computer for some (or no) reason. Have you emailed him before and got a reply at once? Are you absolutely sure you got the address right? He sounds as if he does work on his days off, so it might be that. (And if it is he is going to be mortified on Monday for not having got back to you at once about something as important to you as your son having an operation.)

I hope everything goes well next week and your son is fine afterwards.

It will get sorted when he's back in work. He obviously doesn't want to spend his free time thinking about this, which is fair enough.

If he is responding to other emails, ignoring this one is really shitty.

I rarely respond to emails on my days off, but if I got this one I’d be responding, even if it was to say I’d need to wait til I was in to approve it, but that I hoped OP and child were doing OK and not to worry. Only a twat would leave OP hanging.

OP, surgery is scary, we’ve had three and another is pending. But it won’t be as bad as you are fearing. Take something to keep your mind off it and find a comfy chair! I hope it all goes well.

OP, I wouldn't bother chasing him as presumably you're going to be taking the time off whether he has an issue with it or not.

You're not seeking his permission so there doesn't seem to be any need for him to respond urgently, unless you're concerned he's going to force you to reschedule the surgery?

I normally just say 'sorry, I won't be at x time because of hospital, etc' as the timing and the fact you can't be in work is non-negotiable. Obviously they might not pay you for the time off depending on your situation.

Or just follow the actual procedure for booking time off work?

All this fuss...