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I've lost a stone and it's not noticeable?

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NoNameNoGame · 23/11/2019 09:01

I've lost a stone and I really can't notice it (I even took pics from when I started my journey to compare). Also nobody has commented on my weight (not that they should) but I would have thought somebody would at least say I look good. I started at 11st. Now 10st. Aiming for 9st. I am 5ft 4". I've worked so hard to lose this weight too! Need words of encouragement please!

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OwlinaTree · 23/11/2019 09:02

Do your clothes feel looser?

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MT2017 · 23/11/2019 09:02

It's winter and you're all wrapped up! Well done you đź‘Ť

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OwlinaTree · 23/11/2019 09:03

Well done on losing a stone I should add!! Great achievement.

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CoraPirbright · 23/11/2019 09:03

When I lost a stone I had the same. Another half and lots of people started to comment! Especially people who I hadn’t seen for a while -they really noticed the difference whereas people who saw me everyday were less able to see the changes. Well done on your loss - thats brilliant. You must feel so chuffed and rightly so!

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CalleighDoodle · 23/11/2019 09:04

The next stone will be more noticeable as youll be heading more closely to a correct weight. Keep going!

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PurpleDaisies · 23/11/2019 09:04

Weight is a bit of a taboo subject. That’s probably why people haven’t commented. They might think you would take it as you were too fat before. Sometimes people who see you regularly don’t notice.

Keep going, it sounds like you’re doing really well.

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mamapants · 23/11/2019 09:04

I lost a just over a stone and people only commented at a stone loss they suddenly seemed to notice all at once. Although me/partner/ sister etc noticed before. You must look different having lost a stone, have you used a tape measure that would probably show you've got slimmer.

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Bluntness100 · 23/11/2019 09:05

The curious thing is when we gain a stone we convince ourselves it's not noticeable due to people not commenting either.

As a pp said, the next stone will start to make the difference, but I'd ask are you exercising to tone up with it? That makes a huge difference.

Well done you're half way there!

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TheBlueStocking · 23/11/2019 09:06

You should never go by weight. Go by how your clothes are feeling, whether you are out of breath less, whether you have more energy, whether you feel stronger, and by how proud you should be of following through with such a big commitment to your health. Balls to the scales!

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PhilODox · 23/11/2019 09:06

Perhaps they don't want to be rude by saying you look good, and therefore implying you didn't before? When they probably think you were lovely before and after!

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CrotchetyQuaver · 23/11/2019 09:08

Don't worry about it, keep plugging away and others will notice. I would say there is this modern "thing" that it's not appropriate to comment on others appearance, whether that's losing or gaining weight? I keep losing the same stone over and over again and then putting it back on I think I'd need to lose a further half stone for the differences to really show to others, and my central body fat to really noticeably reduce.

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LuluBellaBlue · 23/11/2019 09:08

Don’t they say 1 stone you notice it, 2 stone everyone else does?

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PurpleDaisies · 23/11/2019 09:09

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Lucked · 23/11/2019 09:11

I think this is not unusual it has happened to me too. Also not all the stones I have lost have been equal, we weight carry 7-10lbs of glycogen so when I have started restrictive diets (especially low carb) the scales have been lighter with only minimal difference to my jeans.

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8Iris8 · 23/11/2019 09:14

I recently lost a lot of weight and people didn’t really notice/comment until I’d lost around 2 stone. Great work on the weight loss - how have you done it? I’ve managed to by following the 16:8 way of eating :)

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666onmyhead · 23/11/2019 09:14

That's awesome!!! Well done you !
People are so wrapped up in their own stuff that they rarely notice anything about others these days. What you have done and are continuing to do is brilliant for you,don't let anyone burst your bubble ! Keep up the great work !

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Tableclothing · 23/11/2019 09:18

I don't think polite people will comment on your weight. "You've lost weight!" = "You used to be fatter"/"I am closely monitoring your body shape and feel free to pass judgement". Also, considerate people will bear in mind possibilities such as you might be ill, if you've been considerate enough not to bore them rigid with diet chat.

Finally, most people probably won't notice. I accidentally pissed off an acquaintance who told me he'd worked really hard to lose 3 stone and I blurted out "Oh wow! Have you really?!" Oops.

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Emeraldshamrock · 23/11/2019 09:18

I didn't notice my Dsis first stone.
When she lost the 3 she was unrecognisable from her old self.
Keep going the results will show.

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thecatsthecats · 23/11/2019 09:24

Well done.

I've lost six stone, and I swear they all had a different effect on my overall look. The fourth one made a significant difference to my shape, the sixth one too.

One and two made a difference to my size but not shape, three made hardly any noticeable difference at all, in spite of being the fastest lost. Through the fifth, my biggest change was through muscle gain rather than fat loss, and it took a lot longer as a result.

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MereDintofPandiculation · 23/11/2019 10:25

I've lost a stone and a half, but at my age all I get is whispered concerned comments about my health and enquiries about cancer

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HumousWhereTheHeartIs · 23/11/2019 10:47

I was exactly the same. I'd lost a couple of stone and no comments. Then, one more pounds and suddenly people mentioned it. I know we don't lose weight for that reason, but it keeps you feeling motivated...and everyone loves a wee boost

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Gwenhwyfar · 23/11/2019 10:48

It's not not so noticeable if you lose it slowly e.g. a pound a week and people see you regularly. If you go home/somewhere else for Christmas, they may notice.

"I don't think polite people will comment on your weight. "You've lost weight!" = "You used to be fatter"/"I am closely monitoring your body shape and feel free to pass judgement""

Yes, but in this case the OP would like people to comment so maybe they're not as polite as they think.

I have to say that I've sometimes asked someone if they've lost weight (tight black skirt takes a stone away in appearance) and when they've said no, it's a bit like I was saying they needed to.

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PurpleDaisies · 23/11/2019 10:49

Yes, but in this case the OP would like people to comment so maybe they're not as polite as they think.

How are they supposed to know that? They’re not mind readers!

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losingthepl0t · 23/11/2019 10:49

well done. I find that the more overweight one is, the harder it is to notice. Just keep going. I am trying to shift half a stone and it's impossible.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 23/11/2019 10:54

Well done. Hopefully you’re feeling better in yourself.

I agree with others that people can be shy of commenting on other’s weight loss as it’s often a sensitive subject. The most amount I’ve ever shed and far too quickly was when my previous marriage was going down the toilet and I was too miserable to eat. A lot of people commented on how different I looked and I wanted them all to fuck off. My appearance was the last thing on my mind and I was skint so couldn’t afford clothes which fit better.

I’m sure you look lovely and feel great! Get yourself a fab new outfit for Christmas celebrations.

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