I've lost a stone and it's not noticeable?

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I've lost a stone and I really can't notice it (I even took pics from when I started my journey to compare). Also nobody has commented on my weight (not that they should) but I would have thought somebody would at least say I look good. I started at 11st. Now 10st. Aiming for 9st. I am 5ft 4". I've worked so hard to lose this weight too! Need words of encouragement please!

I don't always comment, as sometimes you look at people and are pretty sure they have lost weight, but not completely certain. When it's really clear I do say something. I lost a stone at the end of the summer, and I think only one person said anything. I've lost it from around my bum and waist, but my face, boobs and upper arms look the same, so as they're the bits people are most confronted with, it can by difficult for others to notice.

I too, took before and after pics of my front and side, compared after one stone and could barely tell. Friends were saying they noticed from the back of me. After 2 stone and took front and side and there was a massive difference. Keep at it, you're doing great!

My sister lost over a stone and I didn't notice but I do see her every week. When my friend lost a stone it was very noticeable but only because she was skinny already so it wasn't a good look.

I've put a stone on and I'm sure people notice but don't say anything. Saying that when I was very poorly I lost loads and people commented a lot which I found rude In the circumstances.

As long as you know and feel better that all that matters.

An acquaintance of mine has lost a lot of weight but I haven't said anything as I didn't want her to think she was noticeably fat before. She wasn't at all and so I decided to say nothing. Well done OP....fantastic achievement.

I lost 3 stone this past year and it is only now people notice it. I am actually shocked at people's reactions. I was always very slim and just happened to gain 3 stone over not exercising regularly in a few years. I didn't think I looked that different but people that only knew me with the weight on are like, 'OMG, you look like a completely different person. I can't believe how fabulous you look'. I am a size 10-12 now. They act like I was obese before which I totally was not. So, don't take offense to some of the comments people will come out with. I am just glad I am almost back to my original weight through pure exercise. I wish I could diet but I can't. Best of luck & congratulations on losing a stone. I know it is not easy to lose weight once you gain it.

Congratulations and keep going! Make sure you have a cast iron maintenance plan too (I didn't).
I lost 1.5 stone last year and at Christmas a relative was really enthusing about how fab I looked. My mother, who had not commented, turned to my husband, gave a derisory sniff and said "Well, I didn't mention it when she gained the weight so I'm certainly not going to say anything now".
So what I'm saying is some people won't have noticed, some people don't want to say anything because they don't want you to think you looked fat before by comparison, and some people are just not nice. I've put it all back on too, so I'm sure that won't go unnoticed. Sigh.
Anyway, you have done AMAZINGLY!!

I don't understand weight. I'm 5ft4 and 11st. When I hit 10st I look slim. I've recently lost 7lbs and it's been very noticable.

Definitely the next 7lbs will start to be noticable, op. Well done

To be fair I’m super cautious about telling people I think their weight loss suits them - a friend of mine looks amazing but is orthorexic, another friend loses weight when she’s stressed. I’m envious of both of their figures but wouldn’t ever say so as both of them lose weight for difficult reasons.

You wouldn't want people to say 'You've put on weight!' would you?

So why expect people to comment that you've lost it?

There are too many people of all sizes that have EDs in varying phases and if not that, dysfunctional eating or issues around body image. It's far, far better to say nothing at all than to risk causing harm to them.

Having had an ED myself and with a DP whose own one is very easily triggered, I found that even being in the same room as somebody commenting upon another person's size was difficult - if they were being complimented on losing weight, I'd feel like crap because I hadn't been strong like them or that I'd lost more than they had but obviously still looked so fucking immense that nobody had noticed, if it was 'looking well', I'd be thinking 'spiteful bastard, wonder what you're saying about me behind my back if you say that to their face?', etc, etc.

There's so much harm that can be caused by commenting upon a person's weight - and not just to the person concerned - that it's better for the subject to not come up at all. Far better to compliment upon a particular top, earrings, hair, etc, as even if it looks great because they've lost or put on weight, saying 'that colour really suits you' or 'they're lovely', isn't publicly passing judgement upon their breasts, stomach or backside.

Fantastic achievement!

I've lost just over 2 stone (14kg), since August, and only one of my colleagues knows I'm actively trying to. I can see comparing pictures, but literally no one has commented to me. Having said that, my friend has said that other people have noticed and commented to him. People don't want to comment on other people's bodies I guess.

I think a lot of initial weight loss is fluid plus internal fat around organs which won't show up on the outside at first. Next few pounds should be more noticeable.

Firstly, well done, that really is fantastic.

What are your reasons for losing weight? I assume you are doing for yourself, so why do you need the approval and comments from others?
Even if your main motivation is your appearance, the fact is that the biggest advantage is your health and believe me your heart and other internal organs are really thanking you right now. So keep it up, you are doing a brilliant thing!

I'm sorry... correct weight? At 5'4 10s 6 and below is a healthy BMI.

This. Beware the ana-apologists, MN is their spiritual home.

Well done, keep going your'e doing great.
I have lost a stone too, just need to lose another and I know where you are coming from.

I thought it would be noticeable as I'm only 4.11, but only one person commented, and I hadn't seem them for a while.

Keep going, people will notice all of a sudden.

So you're gonna hate me but...

I would have thought somebody would at least say I look good.

My first thought when someone loses a lot of weight is "Great for them!"

2nd thought is "I wonder when they will gain it all back?"

Followed by "If I tell them they look great then I'm implying they looked awful before."

So I'd never say anything unless I knew you very well, and that's only a maybe. I am genuinely curious how people feel in their own skin, but it's not important to me what size you are. So I don't want your weight to be a conversation topic I introduce.

Soz.

It's normally 2 stone or two dress sizes before people notice

Well done, OP! And don't be disheartened by the lack of comments, people are usually reluctant to comment for the various reasons mentioned above.

I also had that dreadful 'oops' moment. Met an acquaintance I haven't seen for a while and told her she looked gorgeous (weight loss). Turns out, she had cancer. Horrible, felt like an absolute idiot. So now I only comment on good friends or family members' weight loss and only if I know they're actively trying to lose weight or said many times before that they'd like to.

Well done - it takes at least a stone before people notice. Are you sure they haven't noticed but don't want to comment?

Well done , a stone is a lot of weight to shift. People lose weight in different ways depending on body type. For example some apple shapes will lose that stone primarily from their hip, ass region, others maybe like you lose a bit overall arm, legs belly and some lose it from the face first. 11 to 10 isn't a huge transition because it is not hugely overweight, but surely you must feel more comfortable in your once tighter clothes! If it helps at all gather food from your kitchen totalling a stone eg. sugar, potatoes, put it in a bucket and lift it and realise how much a stone weighs and how much you have shed. It is a very good achievement.

The first stone can be water. So although lighter on the scales, not noticable to others so much

Sometimes people have a body shape that is forgiving on the way up (i.e. people don't notice an appreciable weight gain because your body stays the same shape), but similarly it isn't really noticeable on the way down either.

I am also one of these. I have lost 3.5 stone and 2 dress sizes and it doesn't really show because I have bought a few smaller key pieces (like jeans). No one has noticed.

I think this is a good thing because as soon as they notice the "Oh don't lose anymore.. you'll be too thin" brigade will show up and sabotage me, so I'm very happy puttering away.

Don't lose heart, and keep doing what works.
We all have reasons why we are trying to lose weight, but others noticing isn't one of the best.

ive realised now never to do it.
sounds so cliche but it shouldnt be about looks.or others.but how you feel.should you look thinner,maybe.but really you should just feel good.feel healthy.
why is looking fat or thin a good or bad things.
we as a society have put this on the world
what if healthy was looking "fat".so why is it instead a good thing to look thinner.i know there is more blurred lines because thinner if you were once unhealthy will look better.but really?
and so i ont think you can ever say oh yes you look healthier.
nor do i want to focus on your being thinner because its shouldnt be a good thing.
also far too many people are doing it in a bad way.in a disordered way.and too many people get addicted to that feeling.and those comment.
and too many people are actually really bloody sick and losing wieght because they have a horrible illness.and eating disorders get a kick out of those comments.

Or maybe people have finally learned that you don't comment on weight. I only do if someone specifically said to me "i want to lose/gain weight", otherwise never comment. Congrats, OP!

Keep going! When I lost weight my co-workers just thought I'd bought some new clothes for ages (was wearing same things!). It took a new person, months later making a nice comment about my figure to make the others say anything at all, cue avalanche of 'I thought you'd lost weight' type comments. However if I wear a different shade of nail polish everyone says something immediately.