to be annoyed with my mum?
Whodoyoutrust · 22/11/2019 15:45
DM asked to have DS(3) for the day, she wanted to take him out so asked us to install the carseat in to her car which I did.
To be clear, this was a visit requested by her, this is not regular childcare (which she doesn't do) and we do not pay her.
She called me a little while ago to say the dog has chewed and damaged the carseat, but its ok because she has bought a replacement. DSs original carseat is an extended rearfacing seat which a 25kg limit. The one she has replaced it with is a forward facing nania brand (cheap, shit and have failed in some tests). She doesn't see the problem.
I'm hacked off because the dog is generally lovely but known to chew and has been known to do some substantial damage to my mums house - destroyed the bath panel, chewed the TV ariel, broken the hose on the washing machine and flooded the kitchen etc, and she CHOSE to leave the dog in the car (where it chews the seats and seatbelts) knowing it was a risk.
I'm also hacked off that despite me explaining several times (prior to this) that the carseat we chose is very safe etc she has deliberately bought a cheap crappy one. She feels all seats are the same and that it is time to forward face DS anyway. She has form for buying cheap and knock off stuff because she doesn't like spending money and always likes a 'bargain' (she is comfortably off).
So now I have to replace the carseat 5 weeks before Christmas whilst on the unpaid bit of mat leave.
PaddingtonBrown · 22/11/2019 16:03
YANBU I would be livid too. How badly did the dog chew it for it to require a replacement? If she knew how important it was to you she should have checked before just buying any old cheap shit, and now you have to replace it, has she offered any contribution since it was her dog that chewed it up?
Whodoyoutrust · 22/11/2019 16:14
I have told her. I have explained why I am unhappy with the one she has bought. I've told her how much a replacement has cost (I went and bought it on my way to collect DS).
She thinks I'm being ridiculous, that all seats are the same and I am being over protective still rearfacing him.
It's damaged the buckle, one of the straps and part of the frame.
She will not pay towards a replacement, she feels she has provided an adequate replacement as it's the one my sister has for Dnephew (it isn't as I bought my sisters as a present when she had dnephew)!
TheArtfulScreamer1 · 22/11/2019 16:17
YANBU I'd be demanding a like for like replacement regardless of what her opinion is on car seats or brands and I'd be prepared to fall out with her. Item damaged in her possession by her dog so her problem. I think a company called uberkids does interest free monthly payments for car seats, I'm also on unpaid maternity and I've been looking to purchase the Axkid minikid for DD so was researching options.
Whodoyoutrust · 22/11/2019 16:24
Herocomplex they weren't in the car at the same time - DSis had popped in with Dnephew so DM took the opportunity to take the dog for a walk and on the way back popped in to the supermarket, leaving the dog in the car.
TheArtfulScreamer1 it's the axkidd minikid we have, it's a great seat. I've replaced it with the axkidd move as it's slightly cheaper. I'' look at uberkids as we will need to get a second one for DD anyway once she outgrows the infant seat.
BackforGood · 22/11/2019 17:07
YANBU at all.
I'm not on the side of people having to replace things damaged in genuine accidents, but this wasn't the case - she owns a dog that regularly chews anything in sight, and left this dog alone with the car seat.
Her views on whether you are daft or not to spend more money than she thinks necessary on a car seat are irrelevant. She borrowed something of yours, if was damaged in a way that was easily predictable, then she totally owes you the full amount to replace it 'like for like'
How you are going to get the money out of her is more difficult for us to know though.
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