Postman’s knock

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Ok proper first world AIBU thread here.

I’m currently on maternity leave awaiting baby arriving in next few weeks. I’ve got an horrendous cold so as you can imagine my tolerance is unusually low.

My postman has taken to knocking on the door and ringing the doorbell EVERY day to give me my post, even though it would fit through the letterbox quite easily.

Today I’ve just tried to get my head down for a quick nap on the sofa while the kids are at school in a bid to feel a bit better. The sofa is directly next to the front door so he could see me. So he’s woken me up, I’ve answered the door and he’s said ‘trying to have a nap?!’

Yes I bloody am!!!

I know he’s probably just trying to be nice and I mean it semi light heartedly when I say AIBU to just ignore him next time regardless of whether he can see me?

Seems like a massive waste of his time.
Just tell him.

I would be telling him to stop ringing the doorbell when he delivers the bloody mail. Trust me, you want to nip this in the bud before your baby arrives.

A bit strange. Why doesn't he just he just put the mail through the letterbox. Perhaps you have a not so secret admirer. Do some people have a thing about obviously pregnant (about to pop) women with colds?

Can you take batteries out of the bell? And ignore his knocking. Hopefully he’ll take the hint after a couple of days.

Oh that's awkward! If he does it again can you maybe say "oh did this not fit through the letterbox" in a bit of a deadpan or confused voice? And if he says something about trying to be nice just say "oh I was trying to nap" again in a voice that doesn't encourage conversation?

Yep. Put a 'do not disturb' note on the front door. Get him trained up before the baby arrives (when you will want to kick him in the postbags if he knocks at nap time).

Do you have a small letterbox/post box? Just thinking maybe he had some A4 size catalogues/letters that might have to be bent to fit through? Can’t think of any other reason why he wouldn’t just post them through!

That would annoy the hell out of me, how weird if the post fits through letterbox. I’d be interested to know if he does this at every house (would take him all day if he does)

I thought this was going to be about the game! There is a game called Postman's Knock isn't there? Along the same lines as Blindman's Buff?

My postman is a lovely man, but he knocks so bloody hard that it actually makes me jump.

Have a polite word tomorrow , along the lines of -
I’m heavily pregnant with a bad back, I’m sorry but it’s not helping hurrying to the door every day in case it’s an urgent caller.
Please do not knock unless there is something to sign for or too big for the letter box as you are inadvertently causing me issues.
I’m sure you understand, thanks very much.

If that doesn’t do it, then you can either get stroppy or escalate at the sorting office.

My postman is a full on nutter.

He puts elastic bands around a pile of narrow parcels which would easily fit through the letter box individually but not in a pile so lobs them through the window. Recieved a broken picture frame yesterday because of this.

Sometimes he doesn't even do the windiw thing, he'll leave a card. I gave to trek diwn to the post office to recieve my elastic banded pile of things that would easily fit through individually.

He won't knock. He just stands there at the door a waits. In this weather he wears a big orange coat so I spot him. In Summer I don't.

Every so often he complains about the number of parcels. I have to apologise, despite me paying for the stuff to be delivered.

Weird breed, postmen.

In answer to the OP, I reckon he knocks because he fancies you and wants to see you.

@tothappy It’s is a game (that’s what I thought he thread was going to be about) but it’s quite different from Blind Man’s Bluff. It’s basically just a kissing game!

Sounds like he's being nasty and gets a kick out of purposely disturbing you.

@TheLightSideOfTheMoon
As for yours, either complain at the sorting office or buy him one of those toddler toys where you shove square and triangular bits of plastic into a box through relevantly shaped holes. Perhaps he’ll learn how to do his job.

CBA arsed to complain.

A small rant on MN will do.

I do order a lot of stuff online. Evrn lightbulbs. Work nad hours and my local town centre is dire. Can see why he grts annoyed.

If you are feeling particiularly hormonal, do what I did when my postie did this to me. Open the door, smile, snatch post. Rip the doorbell off the door (only works if its just stuck on with an adhesive patch) and shut the door.

He never did it again!

(i did stick it back up later on that day)

My postman still can't look me in the eye after DD was a 6 week old, cluster feeding and i opened the door with both boobs out. Not deliberatley clearly. I was delirious through lack of sleep and I had to answer the door because presents were still arriving and wouldn't fit through the door.

He looks at the floor and hands my post over saying "here you go Mrs X" 6 years later. Poor man. Worth a go? Bless him.

Just tell him?! I had a temporary postman who started doing this and I quickly reminded him where my letterbox was.

My neighbours had a "do not disturb" sign up when they had a baby. Guess whose door the postman knocked on instead 😂

(I also had a do not disturb sign when mine were babies so I'm not against them!)

Ha!

Post just arrived and he hasn't let me down.

Several parcels held together with elastic bands lobbed through the window, a 'do not bend' envelope bent in half, a card telling me I wasn't here to sign for my parcel - I'm in, sitting here quietly chatting to you guys, and a parcel for a random man who lives on a street I don't recognise so now trying to find him on facebook.

Gahhhhh!

I don’t like the idea that he can see you on the sofa from your front door. Is it through a window on the door? Can you put a curtain up for some privacy? It will help draughtproof a bit better too if it helps.
Definitely put a note up saying please do not knock or ring the bell unless an emergency or something

What does he do with the mail if you don’t answer the door? Not post it?

Honestly next time you answer just look a bit puzzled and say ‘can I ask why you keep knocking when my mail fits through the letterbox?’ and see what he says.

For context, we live rurally out on farmland as in we don’t have anyone else come up to the house all day, so we’ve never needed blinds or curtains.
The front door was made for the previous owner who was disabled so the ironic thing is the letterbox is oversized

Funnily enough he doesn’t do it at the weekends when my husband is home...

I think I will just be unsubtle next week, when he said today ‘trying to nap?’ I did snap and said ‘yes, very trying!’

Your right though, when the baby comes god help him if he rings unnecessarily.