Postman’s knock

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Ok proper first world AIBU thread here.

I’m currently on maternity leave awaiting baby arriving in next few weeks. I’ve got an horrendous cold so as you can imagine my tolerance is unusually low.

My postman has taken to knocking on the door and ringing the doorbell EVERY day to give me my post, even though it would fit through the letterbox quite easily.

Today I’ve just tried to get my head down for a quick nap on the sofa while the kids are at school in a bid to feel a bit better. The sofa is directly next to the front door so he could see me. So he’s woken me up, I’ve answered the door and he’s said ‘trying to have a nap?!’

Yes I bloody am!!!

I know he’s probably just trying to be nice and I mean it semi light heartedly when I say AIBU to just ignore him next time regardless of whether he can see me?

@TheLightSideOfTheMoon What a nightmare! Have you complained about him yet? I wonder why he can't do his job properly.

Now I’m slightly seeing the fun side.
My friend sent me a postcard last week addressed to me by a silly name (Lilypops) and now he keeps saying it when I open the door and giggles.

If anyone hears of someone in the south east going missing, it’ll be him and I with his fetish for fat pregnant people

I’m gonna just be blunt next time and if that doesn’t work I’ll complain more formally.

Let’s hope he doesn’t shit through my letterbox or anything in revenge.

He sounds unhinged, calling you a private nickname he only knows because he’s read your postcard? Insisting on seeing you face to face every day? Leaving you alone when you husband is home but knocking when you’re alone?

I actually really don’t like the sound of this OP. It doesn’t sound funny to me. It sounds quite concerning with those added details.

Lollypops?

Not doing it when your husband is home?

Yeah, he fancies you. Seriously.

Maybe I’ll make a point of saying ‘oh lovely, that’s a parcel from Ann Summers from my husband’

I wouldn’t fuck around trying to be jovial and friendly OP. Next time just open the door and ask him why he keeps knocking and to please stop and just post it, you don’t appreciate being interrupted.

I’m probably being OTT too but I would actually make a point of shouting upstairs to your husband as if he’s home something like ‘DH can you please turn the bath off’ or whatever so postie doesn’t have the idea he knows when you are and aren’t alone.

Just setting off my spidey senses.

I feel for you OP but I have the reverse problem.

I was expecting three parcels last week and the postman didn't even bother to ring. He put a 'you were out' card through my letterbox saying he had left the parcel in the cupboard down the side of my house which is fine except I was in at the time. I'm physically disabled and use a walking frame and getting down the front steps, getting the largish parcel out of the cupboard, dragging it up the steps through the front door took about half an hour of effort, not to mention pain. Same thing with the second one, third one he didn't even write a card, just scribbled it on one of the letters he delivered.

I don't want him to get in trouble but I'm thinking of sending a letter minus my name/address asking if the postmen can at least knock.

Just tell him not to knock?

Why havent you just told him clearly not to do that. It took you some time to write a post yet a quick word with him might have actually solved the problem

I thought I might be being a harsh hormonal cow so obviously thought MN was the place to seek reassurance.

Can you just nap on your bed and ignore the doorbell? Definitely get some blinds or net curtains. He sounds creepy. I'd be limiting your contact with him.

This sounds very strange. I'm a postman and the only rational reason that could explain this is if you have a very small letterbox. I deliver to a house that gets lots of mail but still thinks it's ok to have a 4 inch Victorian letterbox. So when they get Birthday, Xmas etc cards I knock so I won't bend them. If this is not the case then you really need to simply ask him why he couldn't just put them through. These days postie's are really being pushed to finish deliveries in the given time so it'd be pointless to knock and waist time doing so unless there was a good reason. Please put a response up when you have asked this as I'd love to know his answer.