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Singing along at a musical to cause such upset?

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cantbeatfreshsheets · 20/11/2019 14:45

I went to a musical yesterday with my parents & sister to celebrate my mums birthday. We had a really nice day & this was the last thing we had planned. Arrived a few mins late and got to our seats with no problems.

After about 20 mins in. A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too. The whole show was about her being oppressed. Which is exactly how we felt after what happens next.

The lady in front turned around. Looked at my mum & said could you please, then used her hand against her mouth to gesture my mum to zip it 🤐 very passive aggressive.

Mum looked at us as if to say. What the F**
Anyway. She said I'll have to speak to her at the interval. Meanwhile I just thought what a spoilsport?!?! If you can't sing along at a musical what's wrong with the world. It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

It resulted with the lady in front going to make a complaint about my mum as mum tapped her on the shoulder and said during the interval How dare you tell me how to behave. My mum ended up going to see the manager herself where the other women was acting like we were trying to victimise her for not being happy against us telling her it was a free country. They said we were aggressive and being unreasonable?!?!

She said. It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late. We ended up leaving as my mum was so cross. There was a slight scene. The other woman was behaving like a child in my opinion. Has the world has gone mad.

My sister and I told her that she had spoilt our mums birthday and She was clearly enjoying playing the victim. I think she was probably shocked we confronted her over it.

We left. Were we being unreasonable? Or has the world gone crazy? I'd love to hear you're thoughts.

OP posts:
Jack80 · 21/11/2019 18:37

I think it depends if your mum was singing loudly, I would imagine singing quietly wouldn't be so bad. I have sang at the cinema quietly at Mamma Mia

bellinisurge · 21/11/2019 18:38

Can't wait for our family's special trip all the way down to London. When we go to see Wicked hopefully the op's Mum will be there along with a few other posters singing their heart out spoiling our evening that we saved up for and planned months in advance.

MLMsuperfan · 21/11/2019 18:41

They're through accepting limits, cause someone says they're so.

LaurieMarlow · 21/11/2019 18:43

Thing is, it’s not like people lack opportunities to belt out tunes. There’s your house, your car, the karaoke bar, local choirs.

But no, these people choose the moment where everyone else has paid a small fortune to hear the professionals. It’s mind blowingly selfish.

What else do these people do? Run on to the pitch in a professional sports game? Barge into the kitchen of a restaurant? Scribble over paintings in an art gallery? Do tell.

sidsgranny · 21/11/2019 18:44

I am friends with a couple of people who are in West End musicals. And believe me they find it INCREDIBLY rude and off putting when someone in the audience warbles along. It's on a par with a mobile going off.

OP you clearly are very uncultured if you think that it's acceptable.

user1492450936 · 21/11/2019 18:45

It's not karaoke, for goodness sake - You ABU

OhHereSheIs · 21/11/2019 18:47

Has anyone got a spare angle grinder handy? Just in case I go to Flashdance and want to get stuck in. Cheers.

Some of the responses on this thread are cracking me up Grin

MatildaJane · 21/11/2019 18:47

Oh my god I can't stand those over confident people who spoil it for everyone else at concerts by singing along. It's so expensive to go to a concert these days, what is it with all these selfish fools who don't give a damn about ruining it for other people?

sensesensibility · 21/11/2019 18:49

Sorry, OP, let me get this straight. You were late, so disrupted the people near you, then your mother decided to sing out loud so that the people previously inconvenienced by your family had their (presumably expensive) entertainment spoiled. Free country does not mean you doing as you damn well please and stuff anyone else. YABVVU

Kirigiri · 21/11/2019 18:50

A thread full of people being rude to someone they’re pulling up on being rude. Yes OP was unreasonable but some of the responses are ridiculous, you’d think she’d killed Tina Turner

Gilead · 21/11/2019 18:52

Which bit of cultured involves not being able to construct a grammatically correct sentence?

SchadenfreudePersonified · 21/11/2019 18:53

It would be like singing along with an orchestra playing at the symphony

What?

You mean I shouldn't be jining in?

MLMsuperfan · 21/11/2019 18:54

When I'm singing in the shower I don't expect Josh Groban to climb in with me and join in.

Lovemenorca · 21/11/2019 18:55

* you’d think she’d killed Tina Turner*

I don’t think people would necessarily have been rude to the OP has this been the case

MLMsuperfan · 21/11/2019 18:57

you’d think she’d killed Tina Turner

Another thing best left to the professionals I feel.

Celebelly · 21/11/2019 18:58

you’d think she’d killed Tina Turner

I suspect she murdered her songs at the very least.

Nofunkingworriesmate · 21/11/2019 18:59

How pissed were you?? You sound like you were all off your tits, shame it had to end with everyone so wound up and upset

KindnessCrusader · 21/11/2019 19:00

Took my Daughter to her first theatre show a couple of months ago. She takes her singing very seriously, has lessons and has just taken her grade 5 musical theatre. So as you can imagine she was SO excited, and so was I. A group of about 15 drunk women bellowed their way through the first few songs. When someone braver than me told them to pack it in an ACTUAL FIST FIGHT began and the group were FINALLY asked to leave. They could NOT understand why no one wanted to listen to them sing the whole musical.

It was a shame and I have been FORCED to buy tickets for another musical so my Daughter doesn't think that's normal theatre etiquette Grin

steppemum · 21/11/2019 19:02

I've got 3 DC. I've sat through countless theatre productions with DC in the audience. I've never met a child of 6 who can sit still that long.

bloody ridiculous comment.

I've taken a WHOLE PRIMARY SCHOOL from age 4 -11 to the theatre and 90% of them were perfectly able to sit still.

The first time I took mine to a show, ds was 5 and dd1 was 2 and half. She sat spell bound for the whole show and years later could sing the main song to me. Yes it was a kids show but still, she was able to sit still.

My youngest though, wouldn't have even considered it until she was abotu 6 and she could not sit still.

rainbowbear10 · 21/11/2019 19:02

i must admit it does kind of ruin it if you have paid for a ticket to hear wharever show live and have the person near to you singing loudly or even worse out of tune.

also had a night out ruined by someone who had too much to drink.

I have told off parents at cinema who thought it ok to chat whilst i'm trying to watch a movie told them there was a coffee shop round the corner

messolini9 · 21/11/2019 19:03

I think everyone is being really mean to the OP.

Lat year, I went to the Horse of the Year Show. Turned up late, but nobody minded being bumped out of their seats as I arrived, & they were all thrilled to see me jump up behind Karel Cox & help Evert over the jumps.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 21/11/2019 19:04

hahahahahahah Good one. I will bring cymbals. lol

Bagsee the recorder then. That will impress them for sure

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sit very quietly and enjoy the performances that I'm paying good money for.

WTF is wrong with you pond?

Grin
SchadenfreudePersonified · 21/11/2019 19:04

Sorry - bold fail

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 21/11/2019 19:04

Unless it was a specific 'singalong' performance YABU and a fool. Theatre tickets are expensive; this is a special treat for everyone... Stop being so darn entitled thinking you and your mother somehow have the right to ruin it. You are selfish.

BellaNutella88 · 21/11/2019 19:06

I’ve been to this show. There is actually signs up saying not to sing and dance during the show. Which I remember thinking was weird because who would do that in the middle of a west end production ! The songs are catchy, I would have love to sing myself.

You never made it to the end but there is a chance to sing and dance then! Sorry but YABU.

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