Singing along at a musical to cause such upset?

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I went to a musical yesterday with my parents & sister to celebrate my mums birthday. We had a really nice day & this was the last thing we had planned. Arrived a few mins late and got to our seats with no problems.

After about 20 mins in. A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too. The whole show was about her being oppressed. Which is exactly how we felt after what happens next.

The lady in front turned around. Looked at my mum & said could you please, then used her hand against her mouth to gesture my mum to zip it 🤐 very passive aggressive.

Mum looked at us as if to say. What the F**
Anyway. She said I'll have to speak to her at the interval. Meanwhile I just thought what a spoilsport?!?! If you can't sing along at a musical what's wrong with the world. It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

It resulted with the lady in front going to make a complaint about my mum as mum tapped her on the shoulder and said during the interval How dare you tell me how to behave. My mum ended up going to see the manager herself where the other women was acting like we were trying to victimise her for not being happy against us telling her it was a free country. They said we were aggressive and being unreasonable?!?!

She said. It said on the way in you can't sing. We said. Well we didn't see that notice as we were late. We ended up leaving as my mum was so cross. There was a slight scene. The other woman was behaving like a child in my opinion. Has the world has gone mad.

My sister and I told her that she had spoilt our mums birthday and She was clearly enjoying playing the victim. I think she was probably shocked we confronted her over it.

We left. Were we being unreasonable? Or has the world gone crazy? I'd love to hear you're thoughts.

the chances of you not hoaching are miniscule

So, you're making shit up.

And everyone moves about a bit - no-one is going to sit utterly motionless for a whole performance, so a bit of hoaching around from a child isn’t a breach of theatre etiquette, in my opinion.

howabout's children sit perfectly motionless in their adult sized seats though.

I don't understand hoaching in that context. I'm Scottish. Up here hoaching means reply busy. How can a child be "hoaching" in a seat?

@Keletubbie after reading this thread, will you stop?

So going by that my MT obsessed son should never have seen a show. But don't worry, the last show he saw he was invited to sit in the pit with the band so no detriment to the audience at all!

But I've been going to shows for 30 years and only once have I ever been disturbed by a child acting inapropriately. I've lost count of the number of times I've been disturbed by an adult however.

And dd (who has performed in professional shows) she used a booster seat too up until about the age of 10. Ds used one up until the age of 13.

A dc wriggling a little seems more like people coughing or eating sweets. Adults believing they are entitled to sing along karaoke style is surely a completely different level of CF?

I have only to been to one musical, people got up and sang and danced during the encore song if they wanted to. Everyone was very quiet up to then, this was in the USA.

I've got 3 DC. I've sat through countless theatre productions with DC in the audience. I've never met a child of 6 who can sit still that long. The ones with accommodating parents who bring booster seats are the worst and also the most noticeable.

You can call drawing an obvious conclusion "making shit up" but it amounts to the same thing.

In fact the substance of the whole thread is the conjecture drawn by the vast majority that the Op's DM was causing a complete rammy rather than joining in as actually stated.

A catchy song came on. It was Tina Turner. My mum sang along for a couple of times during the chorus. It was hard not too.... It's not like she was singing at the top of her voice???

@Geschwister4

*There was a slight scene grin

How slight?*

For some reason this puts me in mind of a girl I used to work with who told me her boyfriend had glassed someone the night before. When she saw the look on my face she hastened to add that it was “only lightly”.

Had a pretty intense morning, thanks for the laughs OP.

A dc wriggling a little seems more like people coughing or eating sweets. Adults believing they are entitled to sing along karaoke style is surely a completely different level of CF?

Absolutely. I’m gobsmacked that anyone could be arguing otherwise.

In fact the substance of the whole thread is the conjecture drawn by the vast majority that the Op's DM was causing a complete rammy rather than joining in as actually stated.

No conjecture at all, she could be heard by the woman in front of her as stated by the OP.

Not acceptable.

You don't bring booster seats. The theatre provides them.

Small adults use them too. They were a godsend at Hamilton for my very small son.

Seems quite a lot of posters have had thoughtless people at musicals they have gone to see. I think the theatre staff need to be much stricter on people talking, singing etc.

I also think theatres should not let people in who arrive late. Just about every time we go to the theatre at least a couple of people come in late. Even if they are not in our row we find it disturbs us.

I hate it at the cinema too but at least you have not paid so much to go there.

In over 30 years of going to the cinema (frequently) and theatre (sadly not so frequently because of the cost) we have only once been late getting there. We were on a bus that got stuck in traffic due to an accident and the bus driver would not open the doors! We arrived about 15 minutes late and although the staff said we could go in we didn't.

I don't get going in late as you have missed the beginning and, if there is any story, how do you follow it? Mind you I think that too about people who go out to the toilet in the middle of films, plays, musicals

I've seen sing-along versions of performances like Mamma Mia so I assume that the regular performances are not singalong.

The audience want to here the professionals sing- not your mum.

you are being unreasonable
your mother was unreasonable
the theatre was unreasonable for letting you in after the performance had stated.

comefromaway this thread is an education.

Tempted to bring 6 foot 5 DH and plonk DD3 on his shoulders for a decent view just to annoy you all. He hates musical theatre and shushing audiences though.

I'm with you OP. I took my mum to the National Portrait Gallery for her birthday, and when she started to sketch her own drawings over the Old Masters the uptight and unreasonable security guards oppressed her. The world really has gone mad.

You already know you were being unreasonable since everyone has effectively told you so. Can't believe you compared being told not to sing as being the same as being battered and sexually assaulted by your husband though, that's absolute insanity.

I have only to been to one musical, people got up and sang and danced during the encore song if they wanted to. Everyone was very quiet up to then, this was in the USA.

One of theft advantages of widespread gun ownership.

For some reason this puts me in mind of a girl I used to work with who told me her boyfriend had glassed someone the night before. When she saw the look on my face she hastened to add that it was “only lightly”

A bit like being "almost" a virgin LaLoba

Or being an little bit pregnant’, @SchadenfreudePersonified.

Genius, Genius!

LOL!

Hey OP I think you should go to the English National Ballet next and let your mum jump up on stage and do a few twirls next to the professionals!

I mean there’s no difference between that and what she did really. People pay good money to hear/see the professionals....not your mum!