£40 on one child Vs £10 on four children

[Courtney555]

I'm interested on people's opinions on buying Christmas gifts for children.

If, we could skip the "I don't give to receive, spirit of Christmas" and the "well I make the most amazing gifts for 50p a go" stuff and just go with the direct example, and your reasons behind your answer, that would be fab...

So. If family A has one child, and family B has four children, does:

Family A buy £10 gifts for each of the four children in Family B, and Family B reciprocate the £40, but as there is only one DC, it gets a much nicer £40 present?

Family A buy £10 gifts for each of the children in Family B and Family B reciprocate with £10 for the child in Family A. So Family A receive £30 less of gifts.

I see it both ways. What if Family A chose only to have one DC as that's all they could afford, but have to spend £40 on Family B (on the basis that a gift much under £10 per child, is barely worth the bother). But then why should Child A have a far superior gift than the 4 Child B's, shouldn't they all be treated fairly in that respect?

If we could also avoid the silly "well if Family A are that put out, they just need to have 3 more DC! Ahhh ha ha ha ha" that'd be grand

Maybe something in the middle like a gift suitable to share like a good board game or cinema tickets. Alternatively have the discussion with bs parents as maybe a's might struggle. We have 2 boys partners brother has 1 and my brother has 3 girls. Now I personally spend the same on nephew as nieces. However nephews family spend less on our ds's despite being on more than double our income.) their choice) my brother spends about same on my two as I spend on his girls. So I kind of get done on both sides. However I wouldn't treat one better than the others. As the girls get older I may do things like days out but as it stands their ages are so far apart they wouldn't enjoy or be able to do the same things.