to be annoyed that people at work can't spell my name correctly?

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I have a common name that is spelt one of two ways (think, for instance, Jody and Jodie). I have lost count of the number of times that people at work email me saying "Hi Jody", when it's "Jodie".

I cannot understand how multiple people do this, multiple times. It clearly says the correct spelling of my name in my email address. I sign my emails with the correct version of my name.

EG

"Hi Sandra,
Please find attached the requested document.
Kind regards,
Jodie"

Response:

"Hi Jody,
Thanks for this.
Kind regards,
Sandra"

It is not an unusual name, nor a "yoonique" spelling. AIBU that it is just common courtesy to get someone's name right?

I get this all the time, it's so annoying! It's literally right there in front of them.

I've actually had school, university and an estate agent take it upon themselves to "correct" my name to either the more common spelling or to the name my name is usually short for!

I get this too. The most recent one incorrectly spelt my name with a y and also signed off

BW
Angela

The BW gave me the rage. Who in their right mind signs off a professional email like that?!

BW actually gets used quite a lot in my workplace! Not by me.

YANBU it’s really rude and lazy

Today I was in an email exchange with someone who misspelt my name two different ways in two emails - argh!

My surname is frequently misspelled, there are a couple of silent letters in it which seem to get left out and hastily added in if I'm dictating it.

I once had an email from an employment agency which was for someone else with my exact first-name surname combination and @handle but they'd changed the suffix on the email to .com instead of co.uk so I got it instead. Not very good.

I have the same problem. My name is not spelt in the most popular way but it's not at all 'younique' ... think: Jacqui/Jackie or Anne/Ann.

People always spell it wrong though! It's infuriating when it's long time colleagues, friends or even bloody family!

I'll never forget my first day at my first proper job. My log in wouldn't work and I told my manager. She said it's my email address and the password she'd given me. Several attempts later she noticed how I was inputting my name and said it was wrong. I said, oh the IT dept must've spelled it wrong, no bother, I'll call them. She insisted that was the details I'd given her and how it was spelled on my CV so that's how it was set up and that's how my email address has to be now. I diplomatically and nervously tried to brush it off as a mistake but she wouldn't have it! Started routing around in her office for my CV! It was so embarrassing when she came out with it flapping around and showed it to me - with my name spelled correctly, of course! (It's been my name since birth love, I know how it's spelled!) It was awful. I was almost in tears while she called up the IT dept about my 'awkward name'. She didn't even apologise, just flounced off like it was my fault. I quickly moved on from that job, thankfully!

It happens to me & I don't care.

YANBU

My name has 2 spellings, I always use it in full. People abbreviate it even though I will use my initial or my full name plus official signature 🤦🏼‍♀️

I actually tell people directly that my name is full name...

Several people still spell it wrong though, arghhhhhhh it's there in my signature!

I was careful choosing DC names to minimise misspelling!

@braw

That's brilliant!!

I work with a Milley and every time I email her spell check resets it to Millie. Every time. And sometimes I forget to check and correct it so she must think I am rude but it's not because I don't know how to spell her name, it's because our email programme doesn't.

Check your autocorrect options, you should be able to add it to the dictionary.

And in general, if in doubt, copy and paste the name when emailing, you'll get it right.

I get this too but cant say it has ever bothered me in the least

When I had this at my old job I used to do as an earlier poster said and would respond spelling their name wrongly. It quickly stopped, I assume they either got the point or realised that it wasn’t ok to call me by a different name.

I get this all the time, customers message me through Facebook, where it says my name, but add an extra letter. I'm known by a shortened version of a not common name but people assume I am a much more popular name and misspell my shorter name 🤷‍♀️ because its customers I let it go but I'd be annoyed if it was colleagues

I have two colleagues who mirror different bits of my (not unusual) name.

So say I'm Jane Smith & I work with a Jane Bloggs-Smith & a Jayne Smyth.

Ok, I get it's confusing - if someone tells you verbally 'oh Jane is in charge of that' & you've never met any of us, it's no big deal if you send your email to the wrong JS, & we are all used to politely replying & forwarding messages.

But there are certain colleagues who've known all of us for long enough to know better & still just randomly bung off emails to whichever 'Jane' comes up first.

We all have very different roles, & one of us manages one of the others. Rude!

I have a foreign name. I have given up on hoping that people will spell it correctly. I have also given up on correcting people when they pronounce it wrong. I hate the English way of pronouncing it, just sounds ugly to me but I go with it anyway. What I am doing now instead is enjoying the different versions of my name. So for example, if my name was Ana, then obviously in English it would mostly be spelled Anna but people would call me Anna or Annie or A(h)na etc. My actual name is less common so you could make weirder versions out of it.

My DD gets this all the time, several ways to spell her name , she's always correcting and finds it annoying.
however I have to admit to sometimes find it hard to remember the correct way to spell someone's name as in ' is it ie or y at the end??' particularly when writing Xmas cards and rarely see their name written .

i get this all the time my name is isabel and people spell it with an o in the middle the french way with lle at the end the spanish way with lla at the end and even my nickname which i spell issey gets put down as izzy izzey issy ive given up caring

YANBU OP! This happens to me all the time at work too, so rude and annoying.

I remember in a previous job one particular guy called Stephen used to send me snippy emails with my name spelled wrong every time. So I replied one time addressing him as Steven and almost immediately got one back that said “My name is spelled Stephen!”

Tbf I’ve got a European spelling of a common UK name and even my relatives get it wrong sometimes.

Are there multiple people with the same name in your team?

I used to PA for 3 people all with the same name, all spelled differently (Alyson, Alison and Allison) and I know there has been at least 1 occasion where I have sent the wrong spelling to them 🤦🏼‍♀️

The BW gave me the rage. Who in their right mind signs off a professional email like that?!

Someone I know ends all their business emails with "regs"!

My boss has a surname that could be a woman's first name, and sometimes people email him using that. He just emails back using their surname and they normally get the point.

My surname starts Mac. The amount of people who think that they can change that to Mc is deeply, deeply irritating. I know it's considered an abbreviation, but it's one letter and the Mc version is not my fucking name. What's even worse is when they email back with Mc and make up the second half of it to the phonetic spelling - which is not the version I use. My actual name is in my email address and signature, if you want something from me then learn to fucking read (particularly the person who emailed me about a job, where attention to detail was important, and made up the spelling of my name - thankfully he didn't apply in the end).

I get this too, well only one other person. In fact others have questioned on our whatsapp group which is the correct spelling.

I'd be a more annoyed with whoever named you

Someone did this to me at work. Kept spelling my name wrong. So I replied spelling their name wrong and they didn't do it again.

One of my friends spells my name wrong all the time. It's so irritating.