to be annoyed that people at work can't spell my name correctly?

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I have a common name that is spelt one of two ways (think, for instance, Jody and Jodie). I have lost count of the number of times that people at work email me saying "Hi Jody", when it's "Jodie".

I cannot understand how multiple people do this, multiple times. It clearly says the correct spelling of my name in my email address. I sign my emails with the correct version of my name.

EG

"Hi Sandra,
Please find attached the requested document.
Kind regards,
Jodie"

Response:

"Hi Jody,
Thanks for this.
Kind regards,
Sandra"

It is not an unusual name, nor a "yoonique" spelling. AIBU that it is just common courtesy to get someone's name right?

It is rude and annoying. I have the same issue and I've put it down to people just not really giving a damn. I have family members who spell my name incorrectly and even my dad did for a while! He chose my name with the spelling too!!!

Yadnbu

I also hate, shortened name when liner version has been previously used
E.g.
Hi mark
Yada yada yada
Regards Victoria (not my name)

Hi Vicky
Yada yada yada
Regards Mark

It's happened to me all my life, from Christmas & birthday cards as a kid to emails as an adult in exactly the same way you illustrated! It's bloody annoying but also quite funny. People are stupid & rarely look properly at what is staring them in the face!

I couldn't get worked up about it. My name is three letters long and people still spell it wrong.

I have a common name that is spelt one of two ways (think, for instance, Jody and Jodie). I have lost count of the number of times that people at work email me saying "Hi Jody", when it's "Jodie".

I do too, combined with a surname that is very common but not as common in my part of the world as another very similar one so I get right first name/wrong surname and wrong first name/right surname and wrong first name/wrong surname combinations.

Used to annoy me when I was young but I just can't get worked up about it anymore.

If anyone uses the diminutive of my name that I loathe there's trouble however. We all have our limits

Yes, I get that. There are more common abbreviations for my name so I get it if they are writing my name when they've not seen it written. But in a reply to an email from eg [email protected], where they write to Jane, CAN YOU NOT READ? The other one is Mrs. DON'T ASSUME! Grrrr

Oh YADNBU.

I often get email replies that are addressed to "Edith" even though my name is "Edna" (for example). They start with the same letter and have the same number of syllables, but they are completely different names. My email signature clearly states my name

I've been at my place 15 years and people still spell my name wrong, even on email replies.

Better yet, FIL & his wife regularly call me by the wrong name entirely. I've known DH 20 years.

it happens all the time

you sign Rebecca they reply Becky or Becs or worse bex

you sign Sarah they reply Sara

you sign David they reply Dave

you sign Clare reply Claire

it would be understandable if you were insisting on something really out there like if someone says they are Henry I think I can spell Henry so I wouldn't really look so if they did spell it Henri, I probably wouldn't notice but I wouldn't change it to Harry if they spelt it Hynrie I would notice

it is different if someone hears your name over the phone then Claire/Clare is understandable but David to Dave still isn't

I'm with you.

My first name is Hannah and I get SO many Hanna/Hana emails. Most people think I'm actually called Anna thanks to the local dialect, despite my never having dropped an H in my life.

My name is quite odd. My boss of 9 years calls me by the wrong name. I gave up correcting him long ago. I love my job, the people I work with, it's not worth the hassle. The wages etc are right and that's all that really matters.

My name is Joan, rhymes with bone. I always, always get Joann or Joanne, never Joan. Even in person, I introduce myself as Joan and then still get called Joanne! Grrrr!

At least it’s only spelt wrong, 3-4 out of the 10 people I work with don’t even give me the right name at all (Keely, Kylie, Kelly.. none of which I my name) and I’ve worked there a bloody year! I just answer to anything starting with K now as they probably mean me lol.

@booboosweet

Mia/Mya?

My daughter gets this a lot!

Oh goodness I literally can not get worked up about this. My name can be spelt at least 7 different ways and I got over it not being spelt correctly by most a people a long time ago. The only time I make sure it's spelt correctly is if it's on something official 🤷🏼‍♀️

I have this too but tbh it's been a recurring theme throughout my personal and professional life so I've sorry of given up correcting people.

My Gran does it, she knows the right spelling but forgets sometimes 🙄

Think Tracy/Tracey/Tracie.

I used to work with someone with a name like Jodie.
One particular colleague used to send every email to her with either Jody
Jodey
Jodi
Our line manager had to have a word with him when he started sending her emails calling her 'Jodes' or 'Jodestar'

I also used to work with a 'Katherine'
Different workplace, but one colleague said her name was too long to type in an email and started calling her 'Kafrin' in all emails!

Thinking about it the constant asking of 'are you Catherine with a C?'* is as annoying as wrong spellings anyway.

*I am not called Catherine

It’s annoying and lazy-happens to me too but with surname. It especially annoys me when teachers etc do it to my dc...it’s not much of an example to set a child when an adult responsible for their learning can’t get name right.

Yes this happens to me too. It also happens on fb messenger where my name is on top of the screen correctly spelled.

I get this all the time, I find it really rude too.

I read your OP and honestly thought you were me! I have a very common nickname of a longer traditional English name but spelt in the more unusual way of the two “main” ways of spelling it. So many people spell it wrong (and also remove a letter from my surname which drives me mad )

I have a common first name but have always gone by a nickname which has many spellings (and the full name has a few other nicknames too.) It's a miracle to find someone getting it right, it annoys the hell out of me but I just ignore it now as I found correcting people would work for one or two times after and then they'd go back to the wrong name.

I had a very unusual and very long surname until I got married, constantly misspelled and mispronounced. Thought I was safe when I met DH1 as he had a common surname but turned out there was a rarer second spelling of his surname and for some reason more people went with that than the much more common spelling. DH2 has a common surname with no alternate spellings and it's been great, I just have to spell my first name now if people ask, not my whole name. Even now, years later I wait for people to ask me how to spell my surname though.

I get this all.the.fucking.time. angry Usually from offshore teams in India whose minds seem to be blown by not-at-all-complicated name.

Have you considered that culturally your name may be complicated to them, regardless of how simple it seems to you? Or that it may be that they are used to a surname being written first? It is not that unusual.

I now tend to write my name as Roberta SMITHY to try to make my surname easier to understand that it's my surname.

By putting the emphasis on your surname, you are highlighting it, so it will be the name that stands out and gets used, if they are unfamiliar with your name.

My first name has multiple spellings/short forms. My surname is frankly batshit.

I have given up caring how workmates spell either of them: most of them have far more important things to worry about than getting my name right.

I do object, though, to people who have been my in-laws for bloody decades still getting it wrong.

Other than that, no shits to give.