To tell newly vegan guest to bring their own dish on Christmas Day?
GunpowderGelatine · 18/11/2019 13:09
I'm hosting Christmas day at my house this year, not something I've done in ages. There's ten of us, including the kids, which is a great number - my plan, like every year I cook, is to order M&S food and pick it up on Christmas Eve then just bung it all in the oven and make some homemade gravy. I usually get a pork joint as I'm not a turkey fan, but will also be getting a turkey joint for my guests. I'm not usually the type to stress about Christmas dinner (it's only a roast after all!) but I also want it to be as simple as possible. One of my guests has declared they are now vegan. Which is a bit of a PITA for dinner if I'm honest as I'll have to sort a vegan main, gravy, dessert etc. I also have a nut allergy sufferer in the group which excludes quite a lot of vegan options as mains.
WIBU to ask the newly vegan guest to bring their own dish on the day or is that really rude? I've kind of planned the food around the size of my oven/hob and could do without the added stuff having to go in it (don't mind warming something up though)?
dustyphoenix · 18/11/2019 13:12
If you're buying pre--prepared anyway, I don't know why you can't just add that to your food shop - make it microwaveable if you're concerned about oven space. I understand not wanting to make something from scratch if that's what you're doing for everyone else, but if you're buying in anyway then it seems a bit churlish exclude just one guest, especially when there's no shortage of pre- prepared vegan options in the shops.
Alsohuman · 18/11/2019 13:15
Welcome to my world - one vegan, one vegetarian, one gluten intolerant and neither the vegan nor vegetarian eat mushrooms! I’ve ordered a vegan main and veggie gravy from M&S and sourced a vegan Christmas pudding - a surprising number are.
It’s not buying the stuff that’s the faff, it’s all the extra cooking on a day when the oven’s too small anyway.
GunpowderGelatine · 18/11/2019 13:16
@dustyphoenix I don't have a microwave and the problem is M&S vegan options seem to all consist of nuts, which is why I'd prefer to save the bother of finding something and just ask them to bring whatever they now eat as long as it's nut-free
Turniptracker · 18/11/2019 13:18
Yabu, go to aldi and buy them something. It will make a world of difference if you make that small effort to make someone feel included. I'm not a vegan but I am gluten free and I got sick to death in the early days of people complaining about my diet needs and making me feel bad (wasn't a lifestyle choice it was a medical need!!) but wouldn't bat an eyelid if they needed to provide a vegetarian option. Just be nice, it's not that difficult to accommodate these days.
WorraLiberty · 18/11/2019 13:19
I don't have a microwave and the problem is M&S vegan options seem to all consist of nuts, which is why I'd prefer to save the bother of finding something and just ask them to bring whatever they now eat as long as it's nut-free
If they can find something nut-free then so can you.
Why not ask them what you can get for them?
getyourgrooveback · 18/11/2019 13:22
As a Pp said, you're hardly cooking by just bunging it all in the oven so just get an extra vegan pre-prepared main and add it in there. It's nice if you're being hosted that the host actually makes an effort for you.
You could maybe ask if they bring their own dessert but please make a small effort for them at least.
Emeraldshamrock · 18/11/2019 13:24
My guest is vegan not because they object to animal cruelty but because they are on a bit of a detox and purging meat and dairy from their diet
Similar to my Dsis.
She has an autoimmune disease it is healthier.
In that case offer potatoes veg vegan gravy, pick up some quorn.
I don't think it is a huge deal if they are invited for Christmas dinner afterall.
Crunched · 18/11/2019 13:26
I’m hosting 13, 2 vegan and a nut allergy. My vegans will have the veg, I’m doing some roasties in coconut oil for them and stuffing a couple of peppers between now and then, which I will stick in the freezer and re-heat on the day. M&S sell a great vegan ready made, long life gravy (already bought).
The vegans are bringing a pudding option apparently that I will offer as a choice to all.
I tend to do a platter of starter options, of which a couple will be vegan in any case.
I don’t find it a big deal and want everyone to feel welcomed on Christmas Day.
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